Reference:karms
I've done so much work on domestic violence/abuse/control (and still doing work on it) - so easy to spot the signs. There are those who are victims and those who like to play the victim. JJ1 is indeed the latter when it comes to emotional manipulation.
I have a feeling that a major reason for him keeping her hopeful for some kind of relationship on the outside is his way of neutering her. Unless Josie's a really good actress, she's doing a very good impression of someone whose self-confidence is eroding before our very eyes. JJ1 has zapped the life out of the poor cow.