quote:Originally posted by Blizzie:quote:Originally posted by Dora:quote:Originally posted by Blizzie:
That is brilliant Lara.
Give yourself the clap!
I hope you meant a clap
Well, now she's out and about!
LMAO Ha h a ha ha ha ha
LMAO Ha h a ha ha ha ha
Well done! keep it up 
quote:Originally posted by *+*Lara*+*:
Another thing I have learned to do, is stop worry about what people think. Only do what you are capable of doing and it all seems to flow into place. Thank you again for your support.
I do believe that is one of the most important things in getting over this sort of thing. My ex always used to tell me it must be fear of dying that made me panic ... but it wasn't .. it was fear of dying (or having the screaming heebie jeebies) in the middle of Woolies on a busy Saturday and making a show of myself! When we split up I started thinking 'Sod it - if everyone thinks I'm nuts so be it' and the fact that I made myself not care, seemed to make me less likely to panic anyway!
quote:Originally posted by ~~KaffyBaffy~~:quote:Originally posted by *+*Lara*+*:quote:Originally posted by Popular Butcher:
What would happen if you started suffering from claustrophobia ?
I actually do suffer with that as well amongst other things lol. But one thing at a time and it all unravels.
Strange isn't it? People assume that one's the opposite of the other, but it really isn't. Yes, been there, done that too and know EXACTLY the feeling of elation when you've conquered something. There are still things I can't/won't do, but there's so much I can do now that I'd never have believe possible 10 years ago. Good luck and well done!
Oh wow thank you Kaffy for sharing that with me. It is so lovely to hear that other people have come out the otherside. It does give us so much hope.
quote:Originally posted by MrsB:
Well done LaraChuffed to bits for you.
I'm considering CBT for my enemetophobia (vomit)...it's hideous...especially as a mum!!!
I would say go for it MrsB, what harm would it do trying and I wish you all the luck x
Yay, well done.
Magic thread, this! That's quite an achievement.
Have you tried EFT ? it can help get anxiety levels down ( looks a bit daft, involves a lot of tapping
, but it's effective!) Veggie, it might be worth a shot?
Have you tried EFT ? it can help get anxiety levels down ( looks a bit daft, involves a lot of tapping
, but it's effective!) Veggie, it might be worth a shot?quote:Originally posted by ~~KaffyBaffy~~:quote:Originally posted by *+*Lara*+*:
Another thing I have learned to do, is stop worry about what people think. Only do what you are capable of doing and it all seems to flow into place. Thank you again for your support.
I do believe that is one of the most important things in getting over this sort of thing. My ex always used to tell me it must be fear of dying that made me panic ... but it wasn't .. it was fear of dying (or having the screaming heebie jeebies) in the middle of Woolies on a busy Saturday and making a show of myself! When we split up I started thinking 'Sod it - if everyone thinks I'm nuts so be it' and the fact that I made myself not care, seemed to make me less likely to panic anyway!
Omg this is my fear as well. I am scared of dying in the middle of the shop (But do you know what I would be dead anyway so I wouldnt know) lol How silly is that.
quote:Originally posted by Slinkiwitchx:
Magic thread, this! That's quite an achievement.
Have you tried EFT ? it can help get anxiety levels down ( looks a bit daft, involves a lot of tapping
I haven't heard of EFT and with the CTB therapy the idea is for me not to get the anxiety levels down but to raise them and come out the other end still. Exposure instead of avoidance.
quote:Originally posted by *+*Lara*+*:quote:Originally posted by Slinkiwitchx:
Magic thread, this! That's quite an achievement.
Have you tried EFT ? it can help get anxiety levels down ( looks a bit daft, involves a lot of tapping
I haven't heard of EFT and with the CTB therapy the idea is for me not to get the anxiety levels down but to raise them and come out the other end still. Exposure instead of avoidance.
CBT and EFT both work on the same basis - accepting the issue and confronting it.. EFT just takes the edge off to allow you to work through it, it's not about avoiding, and often gets used alongside cognitive stuff. It does look really odd though
I am thrilled for you Lara. -----> A treat for you 
-----> A treat for you quote:Originally posted by Slinkiwitchx:quote:Originally posted by *+*Lara*+*:quote:Originally posted by Slinkiwitchx:
Magic thread, this! That's quite an achievement.
Have you tried EFT ? it can help get anxiety levels down ( looks a bit daft, involves a lot of tapping
I haven't heard of EFT and with the CTB therapy the idea is for me not to get the anxiety levels down but to raise them and come out the other end still. Exposure instead of avoidance.
CBT and EFT both work on the same basis - accepting the issue and confronting it.. EFT just takes the edge off to allow you to work through it, it's not about avoiding, and often gets used alongside cognitive stuff. It does look really odd though
Oh lovely I will have to investigate this EFT then thank you for that. I look really odd at the best of times so one more thing isnt going to make a difference lol
quote:Originally posted by greenandpink:
I am thrilled for you Lara.
Aww thank you!
All I can say is .. am grinning for you!
Is a huge acheivement... and i know you must have been scared. Respect! Well done. xxx
Is a huge acheivement... and i know you must have been scared. Respect! Well done. xxx
Well done you Woo Hoo
I am so moved for you. How silly, moved to tears.quote:Originally posted by *+*Lara*+*:quote:Originally posted by greenandpink:
I am thrilled for you Lara.
Aww thank you!
quote:Originally posted by *+*Lara*+*:
Well today I went to a farm with my other half and my dad and stayed there for 4 whole hours and survived! Woohooo!
really pleased for you Lara, you not only 'survived' you had fun too I bet...heres to the next fun outing... xxxquote:Originally posted by greenandpink:I am so moved for you. How silly, moved to tears.quote:Originally posted by *+*Lara*+*:quote:Originally posted by greenandpink:
I am thrilled for you Lara.
Aww thank you!
Aww I am very emotional with all the well wishes from all of you. I really didn't expect this at all.
quote:Originally posted by Syd:quote:Originally posted by *+*Lara*+*:
Well today I went to a farm with my other half and my dad and stayed there for 4 whole hours and survived! Woohooo!
I did have fun eventually I even managed to go into the farm shop and pick some stuff out and made my dad sit on a hay bale and have a little picnic with me lol. He was quite overjoyed actually.
quote:Originally posted by *+*Lara*+*:quote:Originally posted by Syd:
I did have fun eventually I even managed to go into the farm shop and pick some stuff out and made my dad sit on a hay bale and have a little picnic with me lol. He was quite overjoyed actually.
I bet he was, he loves you, and enjoyed being with you and seeing you enjoy yourself
quote:Originally posted by Slinkiwitchx:
Magic thread, this! That's quite an achievement.
Have you tried EFT ? it can help get anxiety levels down ( looks a bit daft, involves a lot of tapping
thanks K, I'm waiting to get moved (some hope) before I can go back into therapy.
I can't even begin to tell you what I've been through in the last 6 years.
quote:Originally posted by Veggieburger:quote:Originally posted by Slinkiwitchx:
Magic thread, this! That's quite an achievement.
Have you tried EFT ? it can help get anxiety levels down ( looks a bit daft, involves a lot of tapping
thanks K, I'm waiting to get moved (some hope) before I can go back into therapy.
I can't even begin to tell you what I've been through in the last 6 years.
Aww well feel free to talk anytime Veggie. A problem shared is a problem halved.
Lara well done - it's lovely to read of you taking a huge step to conquer your fears - keep up the good work quote:Originally posted by ~hoochie~:
Thank you hoochie
Well done Lara! Good for you.
Good for you. 
That's great news Lara! Well done. Hope you keep progressing, one step, one day at a time! 
Thank you Jenny, you are absolutely right. Will try to keep it up.
Just logged in to say really well done Lara, hope it can continue for you
quote:Originally posted by RaggyâĨDoll:
Just logged in to say really well done Lara, hope it can continue for you
Aww that's kind of you Raggy, thank you ever so much.
Very pleased for you Lara...what an achievement!
quote:Originally posted by *Pesky-Pixie*:
Very pleased for you Lara...what an achievement!
Thanking you
quote:thanks K, I'm waiting to get moved (some hope) before I can go back into therapy.
I can't even begin to tell you what I've been through in the last 6 years.
It's crazy, eh? "We can help you ,just not yet.. ".
I really hope the move can get sorted soon and you can take things off hold. Have a wee look at the EFT website, there's a free download guide to the technique there..http://www.emofree.com/newcomer.htmx
quote:Originally posted by *+*Lara*+*:
Some of you know me and some of you dont. I have been agoraphobic for nearly 20 years of my life and I am 41 now. (For those who don't know what Agoraphobic is, it means fear of open spaces which really limits my out of the house life.)
Well today I went to a farm with my other half and my dad and stayed there for 4 whole hours and survived! Woohooo!
I feel like I can conquer the world. I have been having CTB Therapy and only had 3 sessions so far. I feel so proud of myself I really wanted to tell the world!
Congratulations Lara, thatâs brilliant news.
Jeez 20 years is a long time to be house bound, I hope you can continue with the exposure and get your life back hon!
I was agoraphobic (which is a fear of a panic/anxiety attack, not open spaces) for a time - even going into the garden prompted an anxiety attack. It was CB therapy which helped me get back out and facing the fear, though itâs worth saying the REAL help came from a psychologist who I saw privately (not NHS) and who accompanied me on my outings to begin with and was on call for me 24/7, I have to say I couldnât have done it without her â she talked to me on the moby while I was out alone and experiencing severe anxiety, and phoned me on my days I was to go out and wouldnât leave me be (I had a wealth of excuses!
)until I went.It took me a good year or more to see a noticeable difference and to adapt my behaviours and the techniques CBT taught me, the first time I had an anxiety attack in a busy street and didnât flee was possibly the most terrifying experience of my life - but I knew I had to do it or be stuck for ever.
Anyway, it worked â and here I am now working and loving my job, and leading a ânormalâ life! So I too can vouch for the light at the end of the tunnel.
Well done Lara, am soooo happy for you.
Veggie its a bugga innit, been through CBT the lot. Thank god for my family and this place, seriously, you guys have made we want to get up in the morning. Thankyou all so much
Veggie its a bugga innit, been through CBT the lot. Thank god for my family and this place, seriously, you guys have made we want to get up in the morning. Thankyou all so much
quote:Originally posted by JasmineJ:
Congratulations Lara, thatâs brilliant news.
Jeez 20 years is a long time to be house bound, I hope you can continue with the exposure and get your life back hon!
I was agoraphobic (which is a fear of a panic/anxiety attack, not open spaces) for a time - even going into the garden prompted an anxiety attack. It was CB therapy which helped me get back out and facing the fear, though itâs worth saying the REAL help came from a psychologist who I saw privately (not NHS) and who accompanied me on my outings to begin with and was on call for me 24/7, I have to say I couldnât have done it without her â she talked to me on the moby while I was out alone and experiencing severe anxiety, and phoned me on my days I was to go out and wouldnât leave me be (I had a wealth of excuses!
It took me a good year or more to see a noticeable difference and to adapt my behaviours and the techniques CBT taught me, the first time I had an anxiety attack in a busy street and didnât flee was possibly the most terrifying experience of my life - but I knew I had to do it or be stuck for ever.
Anyway, it worked â and here I am now working and loving my job, and leading a ânormalâ life! So I too can vouch for the light at the end of the tunnel.
Oh wow that is a fantastic story! Well done you. Sounds like you were very lucky with your therapist. Mine is very good as well. I haven't been given any outside tasks as yet, as Ive only been to 3. I have already changed a lot of behaviour routines I have (which I thought was OCD but aparently it is ritual behaviour). I also have a list of items that are suppose to be my safety items, which the therapist has made me realise they have no significant relevance to keeping me safe.
I felt quite silly actually when I realised this.
Again well done on your achievement and thank you for showing me that it can be done!
Great stuff, well done
quote:Originally posted by *+*Lara*+*:
Oh wow that is a fantastic story! Well done you. Sounds like you were very lucky with your therapist. Mine is very good as well. I haven't been given any outside tasks as yet, as Ive only been to 3. I have already changed a lot of behaviour routines I have (which I thought was OCD but aparently it is ritual behaviour). I also have a list of items that are suppose to be my safety items, which the therapist has made me realise they have no significant relevance to keeping me safe.
I felt quite silly actually when I realised this.
Again well done on your achievement and thank you for showing me that it can be done!
Cheers Lara, I am immensely proud (relieved actually, more than anything) that I overcame it.
Many times I felt Iâd be stuck like that forever, my therapist stressed to me at the outset that I wouldnât always feel like that, I took some convincing and that was actually one of the most important parts of the therapy â once I started believing her then came that sense of hope and desire needed to make the CBT work.
CBT is difficult, itâs mentally exhausting and demanding, so well done you on committing to it. You have a great attitude too, I struggled at the outset because I still felt incredibly sorry for myself â I was desperate to get close friends and family to understand just how bad I felt, accepting people couldnât fully understand and stopping feeling sorry for myself was another vital step, my therapist told me that CBT was of little use to me while I was still looking for pity.
I love to hear stories like yours, do keep up the good work hon and remember that even when you have a set back tomorrow is another day.
Well done, Lara
You must be so proud of your achievement
You must be so proud of your achievement
Well done Lara