ahhh, no, I'm so sorry xx

  Awwww bless you and your family sweetie ...    If he is only 62, then you must be pretty young...    It is a bastard isn't it?  Some folk smoke and booze all their lives, and live to 90-odd, and then some - like you pop - do all the right things, and end up losing their life at a pretty young age.  Early 60s is WAY too young to die!  I hope they got the diagnosis wrong!  

.. and I know this isn't much help right now,you'll be in shock and totally devastated,  but might be worth thinking about .. when mum was ill and they were discontinuing treatment , we checked up on some of the medical trials that were happening.. she was put onto a drug trial and the meds she got, while we knew they were never going to be a cure, stopped the tumour growth awhile and meant she had a better quality of life, and a good bit longer than they'd predicted . 

I am so sorry to hear this Clumsy. Life just isnt fair sometimes is it . 
Try to enjoy  the time you have with him, its very precious .
Sending you much love  

No words Clumsy - my heart goes out to you  

 

Not fair indeed.

Oh man, that's shit.

 

I've been there clumsy, over a year ago with my Mum (she was only 55, brain tumour too).  I know exactly what you're going through right now.  I'm not sure if there any answers to any questions you have but I always be willing to try and answer them, so feel free.

 

Awww sorry Rawks.    55 is too young too!

appear to have double posted.. thanks for your replies

keep breaking down

 

he had 3 ops, 2 radiotherapy & 1 recent chemo but the tumour kept growing

he is such a good man, raised money for the hospital through bike rides & woulnd hurt a fly

devastated doesnt cover it

 

You don't have to do anything, Clumsy it's all too raw right now.  I'm so sorry. 

Perhaps, when you've recovered from this initial devastating shock, you could plan just a few small things that you want to do with your dad...?  Doesn't have to be fancy or anything like that; spending time together can be a great comfort.

 

And try not to shoulder everything without giving yourself room to have an emotional '5 minutes'.  Perhaps a thread on here, or maybe a private pm with some of your closer forum friends where you can vent without having to worry about what you say?  It might help in some small way

Clumsy - that is terrible news ... don't forget to look after yourself in the trying times ahead. Much love

Aw Clumsy... I'm so sorry to hear that.   Good advice above..just make the most of the time you have with your Dad, don't leave anything unsaid and don't feel you need to be strong all the time.    

You can delete the other one if you want Clumsy.    it's up to you.  I think the delete content button is somewhere near the edit button.  Only one has posted on it.  Supes kindly offered her condolences  ...    

have deleted other thread, thanks supes for the post.. all lovely posts... sat here cuddling my dog, she hasnt got a clue why i am crying, poor thing

 

am going to go to bed with something to knock me out soon as i know i wont sleep as my head is pounding

 

thank you all 

Try to have a sleep Clumsy, you are still in shock. 
Take care  

Such devastating news Clumsy, so sorry for you and the whole family and obviously your Dad.

 

I lost both of my parents to cancer, so I understand totally what you are going through.

You will be on a rollercoaster now ranging from despair to rage to pain so bad you can't breathe and all the time feeling that you have to keep your chin up for your Dads sake. Just be gentle with yourself and don't feel bad when you rage against the sheer unfairness of it all.

 

and come and chat to us when you need to. A hug is small comfort but please have one with my love

 

 

I'm so, so sorry that you have had this news, my heart goes out to you all 

Bless you sweetie.    Hope you are OK soon. xxx

i have no words, but you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers

Oh Clumsy  

 

I'm so crap at soothing words....... not that there are any that could really help I just hope you can get some small comfort knowing that people here are thinking about you

Oh crikey Clumsy. That's awful news to start the year off with. Some wise words on here though. take time for yourself and your dad and everyone else. Particularly Kaffy (although I never like singling people out) and Slinki's idea is worth trying too.....when you've got your head around it obviously

 

I`m so sorry Clumsy. 

I am very very sorry Clumsy

Sorry Clumsy, life is awful.  Best thoughts with you and your family.

I am so sorry, Clumsy, my heart goes out to you and your family.

Oh no that's awful news clumsy, no wonder your head is a mess I really wish that life didn't have cruel things such as this, it seems so unfair when it happens to the good people. Please remember that we're all here so anytime you need to talk to us, you can. I'll light a candle for you & your dad, I hope you can find a way to enjoy each other while he's still here

Awwwww clumsy ................such awful news. What a horrible start to the year. I'm not sure I can say anything that hasn't been said. I lost my Dad when he was 58 - I now wish I'd said things and had 'those moments' but - it wasn't like that. The whole family were in denial and not accepting what was happening. It was right at the time - much as I'd loved (now) to have had heartfelt moments - it didn't happen.

 

Clumsy - you just have to do what you have to do and take each day as it comes ................there really is no right or wrong way.

 

It's bloody hard .............I know that - and my heart goes out to you 

 

As am I, so I echo what Ducky has said and hope you and your family will cope ok with the road ahead 

Clumsy , this might be worth a look - http://www.braintumouraction.o...our-own-yahoo-group/

 

 they're a really good support organisation x

I'm so very sorry to hear your sad news.  My thoughts are with you.     I had a terrible 2011, and can only suggest that you treasure every minute you have left with your Dad.

I'm so sorry Clumsycat at your news,it's awful.My own dad died suddenly in front of me of a coronary heart attack aged 66.It took the feet from me.I don't want to say at least you have some time,but you have,treasure it,that may sound bad but i wish I had it with my dad.Big hugs to you and yours.

Oh Clumsy! I'm so sorry about this news!

 

My mum died in June, but at a good old age. I know it's not a matter of year-scoring but I know how I would have felt if I was you.

 

As others have said, the main comfort I could give to my mum, and that gave me the most comfort after she died, was to spend time with her. I didn't do the big stuff, just gossiped and bitched about my brothers and their families as I always did with her! I felt it kept her attached to the family and the world as long as she was able to do so. I said goodbye to her only 6 hours before she died, having told her I'd be back up the 65 mile road the next day to see her again.

 

Keep it real Clumsy, as much as you can and however hard it seems. The time to grieve is later. Honestly. And share everything here during this and as long as it takes! 

My deep sympathy to you Clumsycat, that is shattering news  

Your heart is breaking... nothing worse than watching the one you love suffering, nothing.

I don't know if you are religious... even though I'm not especially, during past bereavment I found a little solace in reading the bible or going into chapel to say a quick prayer.

[ Although I remember feeling angry at God too, and maybe you do too. ]

 

Sorry to hear that Clumsy.  Hope you are Ok-ish today.  

Clumsy - life is so unfair, aint it?

Make the very most of the time you have - memories, videos, photos

Take care x x x

Thinking of you this morning Clumsy, hope you managed to have a sleep 

Thinking of you and your family Clumsy  

so sorry to hear your sad news 

I am so sorry to hear your news

 

Here's a link to MacMillan's website on advice for people who are dying from cancer, and also their family and close friends. They also have an online community which you may wish to join. There will be people there who you can turn to for support and advice.

thank you so much for all your kind words 

 

didnt get much sleep and kept breaking down, work have been great tho and been fine with taking these couple of days off, had to tell my mum today which was terrible as she has MS so its not great for her to be upset.

will check out those sites you have kindly suggested

 

you lot have been really great and I thank you from the bottom of my heart

 

god bless x