Work or The Kid?

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Girlrider29

Urrgh moral dilemma! The Kid's sports day which was supposed to be today, was cancelled yesterday for fear of rain. They've only postponed it and it's now tomorrow

Tomorrow I have to be at work as I have a workshop to deliver to our new staff with another colleague. We've planned this for weeks and weeks and it took ages to sort out a date to do it.

I picked The Kid up from school today and she was clearly upset as they had been having sports day practise all day and I wasn't even going to be there tomorrow to see it. Boy was she was upset

*sighs* Bliddy hell - what to do?

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MentalistMember

Can't your Mum or someone go to sports day for you?

7/9/093:06 PM

CroctacusMember

Work...it'll probably rain tomorrow

7/9/093:06 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by Mentalist:
Can't your Mum or someone go to sports day for you?

Nah, we're alone in this boring town

7/9/093:07 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by FGG Aka Crocodile Rock:
Work...it'll probably rain tomorrow

No, the weatherman says it's going to be sunny

7/9/093:08 PM

PuppyDooDooMember

quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
quote:
Originally posted by FGG Aka Crocodile Rock:
Work...it'll probably rain tomorrow

No, the weatherman says it's going to be sunny

And how often is the weatherman right?

7/9/093:11 PM

Queen of the High TeasMember

How far is the school from work? Is it close enough just to make a quick appearance at sports day?

7/9/093:12 PM

stonksMember

My parents never went to one of my sports days but its only the one when I was 12 that I really noticed they were'nt their as I was always too buisy having fun..Talk to her and explain she will most probably put your mind at rest....

7/9/093:14 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:
How far is the school from work? Is it close enough just to make a quick appearance at sports day?

Good suggestion, however, school = Bucks, work = London. So a difference of 30 miles unfortunately.

7/9/093:15 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by stonks:
My parents never went to one of my sports days but its only the one when I was 12 that I really noticed they were'nt their as I was always too buisy having fun..Talk to her and explain she will most probably put your mind at rest....

She's 10 and a real mummy's girl! I tried talking to her yesterday and she wasn't chuffed and is even less chuffed today.

7/9/093:17 PM

Koala BrotherMember

r u friends with any of the other parents? cause if you have a printer at home you could make a face of yourself on a stick & get the other parent to hold it up so that she dosen't get too upset.

7/9/093:22 PM

LindsxdxMember

Will anyone be able to film it? Another parent? Then you could have a girlie night watching her sports day together?

Failing that, would a nice treat help heal the upset?

7/9/093:23 PM

stonksMember

quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
quote:
Originally posted by stonks:
My parents never went to one of my sports days but its only the one when I was 12 that I really noticed they were'nt their as I was always too buisy having fun..Talk to her and explain she will most probably put your mind at rest....

She's 10 and a real mummy's girl! I tried talking to her yesterday and she wasn't chuffed and is even less chuffed today.

Tell her you will try your best, then when she asks you later where you were tell her you were their but she was having so much fun you just watched, play it by ear what to say and if you don't know what to say, say that must have happened before I got their....

7/9/093:24 PM

stonksMember

quote:
Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
Will anyone be able to film it? Another parent? Then you could have a girlie night watching her sports day together?

Failing that, would a nice treat help heal the upset?

Now thats a better idea than my coniving one....

7/9/093:25 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by Koala Brother:
r u friends with any of the other parents? cause if you have a printer at home you could make a face of yourself on a stick & get the other parent to hold it up so that she dosen't get too upset.

7/9/093:26 PM

CosmopolitanMember 10 years

quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
quote:
Originally posted by stonks:
My parents never went to one of my sports days but its only the one when I was 12 that I really noticed they were'nt their as I was always too buisy having fun..Talk to her and explain she will most probably put your mind at rest....

She's 10 and a real mummy's girl! I tried talking to her yesterday and she wasn't chuffed and is even less chuffed today.

My mum (nor dad) ever saw me at sport's day because they had to work. I didn't mind that much as we used to have a treat at the weekend.
Can't you promise her a little treat?

7/9/093:26 PM

Girlrider29Member

Oh my goodness! It sounds like you guys are saying I should go to work

7/9/093:27 PM

Koala BrotherMember

quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
Oh my goodness! It sounds like you guys are saying I should go to work

well...... ok how many events is she in?

7/9/093:29 PM

CosmopolitanMember 10 years

quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
Oh my goodness! It sounds like you guys are saying I should go to work

No. I understood it that you HAD to go to work.
If you have a choice then obviously you go to sports day.

If you have no choice then you make it up some other way.

7/9/093:30 PM

DoraMember

I would say work, because of your workshop.

But i would be honest with her, and tell her, your going to work to get some extra money to take her out for a special treat at weekend, whether she wins or loses, just because your proud of her for taking part .

Thats what i would do and then obviously take her shopping or to a movie or something.

If your close, she will get over it but want a treat

7/9/093:30 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by Koala Brother:
quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
Oh my goodness! It sounds like you guys are saying I should go to work
well...... ok how many events is she in?

I dunno

7/9/093:30 PM

cologne 1Member Memoriam

The kid, as you put it so succinctly.

7/9/093:32 PM

Former Member

Really difficult dilemma hun.

Do the times totally clash? Can you do the presentation in the morning and the sports day in the afternoon or vice versa.
would your colleague cover you if you left early.

Personally I would always put my kids before my job ( I always did tbh) and I would say blow work off if it was just a normal work day. But because of the workshop thingy, I don't know what to suggest.
Can you tell her how upset you are to miss her sports day and tell her how much work you've put into the work thingy and that you arranged it for tomorrow just so it didn't clash with her sports day?

Good luck whatever you do, really difficult for you

7/9/093:32 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by ~Cosmopolitan~:
quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
Oh my goodness! It sounds like you guys are saying I should go to work

No. I understood it that you HAD to go to work.
If you have a choice then obviously you go to sports day.

If you have no choice then you make it up some other way.

The thing is... if I'm honest... I HATE sports day! I hoped it would be cancelled but I didn't think they'd put on a day when I have to be at work

7/9/093:33 PM

CosmopolitanMember 10 years

quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
quote:
Originally posted by ~Cosmopolitan~:
quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
Oh my goodness! It sounds like you guys are saying I should go to work

No. I understood it that you HAD to go to work.
If you have a choice then obviously you go to sports day.

If you have no choice then you make it up some other way.

The thing is... if I'm honest... I HATE sports day! I hoped it would be cancelled but I didn't think they'd put on a day when I have to be at work

would it make you feel better if I said there will be other sports days in the years to come?

7/9/093:34 PM

MentalistMember

quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
quote:
Originally posted by ~Cosmopolitan~:
quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
Oh my goodness! It sounds like you guys are saying I should go to work

No. I understood it that you HAD to go to work.
If you have a choice then obviously you go to sports day.

If you have no choice then you make it up some other way.

The thing is... if I'm honest... I HATE sports day! I hoped it would be cancelled but I didn't think they'd put on a day when I have to be at work

I've hated every sports day I've been forced to attend as well. You stand there like a lemon and then you go home.

7/9/093:35 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by Veggieburger:
Really difficult dilemma hun.

Do the times totally clash? Can you do the presentation in the morning and the sports day in the afternoon or vice versa.
would your colleague cover you if you left early.

Personally I would always put my kids before my job ( I always did tbh) and I would say blow work off if it was just a normal work day. But because of the workshop thingy, I don't know what to suggest.
Can you tell her how upset you are to miss her sports day and tell her how much work you've put into the work thingy and that you arranged it for tomorrow just so it didn't clash with her sports day?

Good luck whatever you do, really difficult for you

Awww thank you

In all honesty I'm leaning towards not going to work and postponing the workshop. In the grand scheme of things she's more important than a blinking job! Even though I HATE going to sports day

7/9/093:36 PM

cologne 1Member Memoriam

quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
quote:
Originally posted by Veggieburger:
Really difficult dilemma hun.

Do the times totally clash? Can you do the presentation in the morning and the sports day in the afternoon or vice versa.
would your colleague cover you if you left early.

Personally I would always put my kids before my job ( I always did tbh) and I would say blow work off if it was just a normal work day. But because of the workshop thingy, I don't know what to suggest.
Can you tell her how upset you are to miss her sports day and tell her how much work you've put into the work thingy and that you arranged it for tomorrow just so it didn't clash with her sports day?

Good luck whatever you do, really difficult for you

Awww thank you In all honesty I'm leaning towards not going to work and postponing the workshop. In the grand scheme of things she's more important than a blinking job! Even though I HATE going to sports day

There's your answer then.

7/9/093:37 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by cologne1:
The kid, as you put it so succinctly.

Which she is.

7/9/093:37 PM

LindsxdxMember

Is it going to be a big deal if you postpone? Is it something you can do Monday?

7/9/093:39 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by cologne1:
quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
quote:
Originally posted by Veggieburger:
Really difficult dilemma hun.

Do the times totally clash? Can you do the presentation in the morning and the sports day in the afternoon or vice versa.
would your colleague cover you if you left early.

Personally I would always put my kids before my job ( I always did tbh) and I would say blow work off if it was just a normal work day. But because of the workshop thingy, I don't know what to suggest.
Can you tell her how upset you are to miss her sports day and tell her how much work you've put into the work thingy and that you arranged it for tomorrow just so it didn't clash with her sports day?

Good luck whatever you do, really difficult for you

Awww thank you In all honesty I'm leaning towards not going to work and postponing the workshop. In the grand scheme of things she's more important than a blinking job! Even though I HATE going to sports day

There's your answer then.

Yeah, but I feel terribly guilty. My home life is constantly interfering with my work life.

7/9/093:39 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
Is it going to be a big deal if you postpone? Is it something you can do Monday?

No, perhaps next Friday but I'll look like a slacker!

7/9/093:40 PM

CosmopolitanMember 10 years

quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
quote:
Originally posted by Veggieburger:
Really difficult dilemma hun.

Do the times totally clash? Can you do the presentation in the morning and the sports day in the afternoon or vice versa.
would your colleague cover you if you left early.

Personally I would always put my kids before my job ( I always did tbh) and I would say blow work off if it was just a normal work day. But because of the workshop thingy, I don't know what to suggest.
Can you tell her how upset you are to miss her sports day and tell her how much work you've put into the work thingy and that you arranged it for tomorrow just so it didn't clash with her sports day?

Good luck whatever you do, really difficult for you

Awww thank you In all honesty I'm leaning towards not going to work and postponing the workshop. In the grand scheme of things she's more important than a blinking job! Even though I HATE going to sports day

If there's the possibility that you can postpone your meeting.....and if it was me...I'd postpone and go to Sports Day.

And no, I didn't like having to attend the school things either but you just grit your teeth, don't you?

7/9/093:41 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by Mentalist:
quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
quote:
Originally posted by ~Cosmopolitan~:
quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
Oh my goodness! It sounds like you guys are saying I should go to work

No. I understood it that you HAD to go to work.
If you have a choice then obviously you go to sports day.

If you have no choice then you make it up some other way.

The thing is... if I'm honest... I HATE sports day! I hoped it would be cancelled but I didn't think they'd put on a day when I have to be at work

I've hated every sports day I've been forced to attend as well. You stand there like a lemon and then you go home.

Urggh! I just hate feeling obliged to converse with the other Buckinghamshire mums. AND it's an all day event for goodness sake! Would much rather go to work

7/9/093:42 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by ~Cosmopolitan~:
quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
quote:
Originally posted by Veggieburger:
Really difficult dilemma hun.

Do the times totally clash? Can you do the presentation in the morning and the sports day in the afternoon or vice versa.
would your colleague cover you if you left early.

Personally I would always put my kids before my job ( I always did tbh) and I would say blow work off if it was just a normal work day. But because of the workshop thingy, I don't know what to suggest.
Can you tell her how upset you are to miss her sports day and tell her how much work you've put into the work thingy and that you arranged it for tomorrow just so it didn't clash with her sports day?

Good luck whatever you do, really difficult for you

Awww thank you In all honesty I'm leaning towards not going to work and postponing the workshop. In the grand scheme of things she's more important than a blinking job! Even though I HATE going to sports day

If there's the possibility that you can postpone your meeting.....and if it was me...I'd postpone and go to Sports Day.

And no, I didn't like having to attend the school things either but you just grit your teeth, don't you?

Yeah I know

Thanks

7/9/093:44 PM

LindsxdxMember

quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
quote:
Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
Is it going to be a big deal if you postpone? Is it something you can do Monday?

No, perhaps next Friday but I'll look like a slacker!

Tell a lie that makes them feel sorry for you, your pipes have flooded, your carpets runied, you have been up since 6 trying to resolve it, you gotta wait for a plumber, blah, blah, blah!

7/9/093:45 PM

Koala BrotherMember

I would severly complain to the school as you sound as if you are a single parent? And they are not thinking about what that means for others in your position

7/9/093:45 PM

MentalistMember

quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:

The thing is... if I'm honest... I HATE sports day! I hoped it would be cancelled but I didn't think they'd put on a day when I have to be at work

I've hated every sports day I've been forced to attend as well. You stand there like a lemon and then you go home.[/QUOTE]

Urggh! I just hate feeling obliged to converse with the other Buckinghamshire mums. AND it's an all day event for goodness sake! Would much rather go to work

[/QUOTE]

I know it's awful isn't it. I feel your pain. Luckily the school my two go to now have a closed sports day, no parents allowed woo hoo

7/9/093:46 PM

Girlrider29Member

quote:
Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
quote:
Originally posted by Girlrider29:
quote:
Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
Is it going to be a big deal if you postpone? Is it something you can do Monday?

No, perhaps next Friday but I'll look like a slacker!

Tell a lie that makes them feel sorry for you, your pipes have flooded, your carpets runied, you have been up since 6 trying to resolve it, you gotta wait for a plumber, blah, blah, blah!

I can't be bothered to lie. I'll just tell the truth. There'll be no sympathy though - it's been overkill with my childcare situation in the last few months, so I think sympathy wears a little thin after a while

7/9/093:48 PM

Former Member

An all day sports day?

what are these people? Professional torturers?

We've all done it hun, sat through the crap just to show willing for the kids - if you can reschedule your work I'd say then do so.

Your daughter will always be your daughter but chances are that you will change your job at some point
As I said before, Good Luck

As working mums I always felt that we are pulled between work and home far more than men are

7/9/093:48 PM

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