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I think it is purely down to the choice of the individual, but I'm not sure about women having children in their late 40's tbh, dont think that would be for me.
I had Aila at 22 and I wouldn't swap it for the world. I have a few friends that had their first in their 40's and they are absolutely knackered and feel like they have no support due to their Mums and Dads being a lot older.
I'm not saying this works for everyone but I always wanted to be a young Mum and I love it!
We have developed an artificial society, where it is looked down upon to have kids early. I think a lot of women are regretting waiting until they're older and are having infertility problems.
And men don't have to grow up until they're in their thirties or forties now.
I had my first when I was 24 and, twenty years later, I'm still deciding on a career. So, I'm not the best example!
Oh I thought that was what she'd said...I never read the thing...but there is a point because too many women now are not trying for babies till they are past their fertile best (way past) and then moaning and expecting the rest of us to pay for them to have babies cos they were so selfish they wanted it all....well life ain't like that...very few people are able to have it all and you sometimes have to choose....
I have never been career minded so it was a no brainer to me. I figure when Aila starts school I can either have another one ( ) or get a part time job. I'll be there to drop her off and pick her up and that's what matters to me But just because that's important to me doesn't mean it is to everyone else and I would never judge.
But I think your early 20's is ideal. Personally I wouldn't have another kid over 30 but that's more to do with me be lazy
Shut that bastid door
My mum had me when she was 40 , I am the youngest of 8 so she wasn't lacking in experience..
but I'm learning!
I had my 3 when I was younger ..... I only have my youngest at home now & she's 14 .... it's lovely ..... glad I'm not just starting with babies now
I was 22, and initially thought I was old enough, then when my daughter was little and my friends were all out having a fab time, with money in their pockets I thought I'd been too young.
Now, I am glad I did it when I was younger, My daughter likes it that I am usually the youngest mum ... and I am hoping that there will be enough life left in me when the kids have flown the nest, so that I can do some of the things I turned my back on at 22.
For me... younger or older.. doesn't matter... my own personal nightmare would be to have another baby now. I prefer to do my breeding & rearing concurrently not consecutively
I then realised the only way I would be able to have both the career and the family would be if I found myself a wife!
MrDitty isn't very Mrs Doubtfire like... hence I gave up on the career for now... I will think about it all again when I am not in charge of being there for everybody!
Having been ill having both of them though I cant imagine having been able to have the kids AND a job...plus the diva was a right handful as a baby
The Diva wasnt a screamer, she just never slept, she didnt go through the night until she was at least 6....I'd have been a liability in work
My girl (who is my eldest) .. slept a min of 7 hours a night from day 1!
I didn't know what had hit me when I had the boy who barely slept more than two hours at one go and screamed his head off when his eyes were open.
I'd say, since survey after survey has shown working mothers still shoulder most of the burden for all the domestic stuff - even if they're grafting as many hours outside the home as their fellas - the reality is "doing it all", rather than "having it all".
I also think, in the 21st century, it's time to stop burdening women with the concept of being the only ones who bring up kids. Why? It's rare these days for families to be able to survive on only one wage - most mothers have to work, it's not a single-minded career decision or a luxury.
Even so, as I've said, they still also take on most of the responsibility for domestic chores and child-rearing - and they are the ones being called selfish?
Everything about men deteriorates with age
I know some men are just as capable as women...though they hide it well so as to not be lumbered!
When I talk about women being selfish I was actually thinking about women like an old FM who used to bleat on all the time about not having kids (mentioned it in virtually every post) whilst saying it was because they never found the perfect man and had a high flying career where they lived the life of (to quote BB Paul) an international pop star.
I also think older women having kids artificially in their 50's etc shouldn't be allowed.
I'd actually go a step further. Having kids is a choice, not a human right. Therefore - while the NHS is having to refuse cancer patients life-saving drugs because of the cost - I don't think IVF should be available on the NHS. Logically, if you can't afford a course of IVF, how can you afford to bring up a kid?
When my sister was doing her nursing training she helped a consultant run a clinic for women wanting/needing IVF on the NHS...one woman was there demanding IVF cos it had taken her three years to fall pregnant with her child (the two year old she had with her) and she wanted another and didn't want a big gap between them in case it took ages...me sister said she was very pleased to see the consultant tell her to bog off and stop whinging.