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Originally posted by pussycatj:
Bad boys

My friend has been married to one for 20 years, initially it was the 'bad boy image' she went for. 2 months ago he beat the crap out of her (again) on the green outside my house. Friday night it all kicked off again, heard the noise and went to see if she was alright, she was hanging onto a 2nd floor balcony after escaping from him, having been beaten around the head 3 times. Called the police, he drove off, when they arrived she told the police 'no comment'. I really really really don't get it.

'the lord helps those that helps themselves.'

leave her and her drama to it. she dont listen to u so dont waste ur time.

tell her to stay off ya grass wid her mess too.

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Originally posted by Scrumtum:
remember the quiet ones r tha worst!!!!!! same as them church people on sunday all praying n preachin, when the previous night they was all buckwild in the club doin the dutty wine with their dress up @ their waist....*smh*

dont trust em!!!!!!

reminds me of a story my dad told me once, a doctor was nagging him about not knowing how much he drank. Up the hospital club the night before the doctor had spilt beer over my dad whilst he was dancing on a table with his tie round his head wearing no trousers.

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Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:
He treats her (and me) like a queen, she's secure and happy in her trauma free life. You never know, your bad boy may just grow up soon and thing's will work out for you, but if not, there are plenty of good men out there who will treat you right and give you a good happy life.

yea thats tru. some are just 'bad' coz of their environment and 'friends'. sometimes once they are out of that circle they are different and then when they go back its back to square 1.

but with those types of ppl u can tell straight away. they r ones that need guidance.

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Originally posted by PuppyDooDoo:

reminds me of a story my dad told me once, a doctor was nagging him about not knowing how much he drank. Up the hospital club the night before the doctor had spilt beer over my dad whilst he was dancing on a table with his tie round his head wearing no trousers.

How much had your Dad had to be dancing on a table with his tie round his head wearing no trousers?

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Originally posted by Bigdaddyostrich:

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Originally posted by PuppyDooDoo:

reminds me of a story my dad told me once, a doctor was nagging him about not knowing how much he drank. Up the hospital club the night before the doctor had spilt beer over my dad whilst he was dancing on a table with his tie round his head wearing no trousers.

How much had your Dad had to be dancing on a table with his tie round his head wearing no trousers?

It was the doctor that was dancing on the table. My dad was actually sober in comparison.

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
On a break from my bad boy two years ago I went out with a lovely man, so nice but kept texting me asking me if I had a nice day, telling me what he had been up to, generally being a boyfriend, I didn't know what had hit me, thought he was being weird. My friends were crying out for me to realise that this is normal and what I had wasn't.

*bangs head against brick wall*

ur used to people treating u like crap so when ppl do nice for u, u think they are 'weird' or 'shady'. u really gotta break out of it, or else ull end up in a really bad situation.

sounds to me like u need a break from guys and u need to be with urself. ur esteem sounds shot to pieces.

good luck hun

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Originally posted by Scrumtum:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I found the challenge of my bad boy quite thrilling when I was 19, now I am 29 I am more than bored with it, wish he would grow up and I'm about 1 more pissed up weekend from packing my bags...again. I would advise all to go for the nice boy.

u bin wid dis dog for 10 years?????????

girl u wastin ur life!!!!!!!!!

Tell me about it, says he is sorry blah, blah. Tells me that he should be able to go out etc without me breathing down his neck, true but he takes it to the extreme.

Left twice, took him back because he begged me to. Currently I should be grateful that its weekends only because he stopped going out during the week for me!! Yeah right!

I don't want him 24/7, definately not, just a bit of consideration. Never gonna happen, just can't be bothered moving out again right now.

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Originally posted by PuppyDooDoo:
reminds me of a story my dad told me once, a doctor was nagging him about not knowing how much he drank. Up the hospital club the night before the doctor had spilt beer over my dad whilst he was dancing on a table with his tie round his head wearing no trousers.

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW how embarrassin!!!!!!!! hahahahahaha bet that sure told him!

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:

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Originally posted by Scrumtum:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I found the challenge of my bad boy quite thrilling when I was 19, now I am 29 I am more than bored with it, wish he would grow up and I'm about 1 more pissed up weekend from packing my bags...again. I would advise all to go for the nice boy.

u bin wid dis dog for 10 years?????????

girl u wastin ur life!!!!!!!!!

Tell me about it, says he is sorry blah, blah. Tells me that he should be able to go out etc without me breathing down his neck, true but he takes it to the extreme.

Left twice, took him back because he begged me to. Currently I should be grateful that its weekends only because he stopped going out during the week for me!! Yeah right!

I don't want him 24/7, definately not, just a bit of consideration. Never gonna happen, just can't be bothered moving out again right now.

Aww hun. Do you still love him though or have you lost it now?

In my youth I simply adored bad boys ...................thank god I came to my senses and married a good guy.

Choose a bad boy and you'll end up on Jeremy Kyle ...................I'm not the brightest person in the world but it didn't take me too long to recognise that Bad Boys are Bad News.

Why do girls love bad boys?
Hm!
Maybe to make their own lives more interesting?
Who knows!

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
Tell me about it, says he is sorry blah, blah. Tells me that he should be able to go out etc without me breathing down his neck, true but he takes it to the extreme.

Left twice, took him back because he begged me to. Currently I should be grateful that its weekends only because he stopped going out during the week for me!! Yeah right!

I don't want him 24/7, definately not, just a bit of consideration. Never gonna happen, just can't be bothered moving out again right now.

do u no if he's cheating?? or has he in the past??
got any mutual friends that can give u info on him?? like maybe they've seen him x place when he told u he was at Y.

does he work or just lounge @ urs? does he come and go as he pleases?? like disappear for days e.t.c?? does he have kids with other chicks?

he's found ur weakness.... he begs ...knowing u will take him back no matter what.

do u share anything like accounts/tenancy/mortgage??? if not the only thing stopping u from this situation is u.

as he's just playin the game ur directing him to...

remember he isnt the problem.... its you.

I went away for a week once when I was 19 and my dad told my then boyfriend of two years that he wouldn't tell on him if he wanted to shag around behind my back while I was gone. My boyfriend was disgusted and told me as soon as I'd got back. When I confronted my dad about it he just laughed and said, god I knew he wasn't a real man. I think he did me a favour in the long run though because by acting like such a tosser, he made me realise I would never want a man like him so I was only ever attracted to nice lads.

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Originally posted by stupidcupid:
Why do girls love bad boys?
Hm!
Maybe to make their own lives more interesting?
Who knows!

yea thats like the WORST thing!!!!!

easy prey for a dude... a girl with no common sense.

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:

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Originally posted by Scrumtum:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I found the challenge of my bad boy quite thrilling when I was 19, now I am 29 I am more than bored with it, wish he would grow up and I'm about 1 more pissed up weekend from packing my bags...again. I would advise all to go for the nice boy.

u bin wid dis dog for 10 years?????????

girl u wastin ur life!!!!!!!!!

Tell me about it, says he is sorry blah, blah. Tells me that he should be able to go out etc without me breathing down his neck, true but he takes it to the extreme.

Left twice, took him back because he begged me to. Currently I should be grateful that its weekends only because he stopped going out during the week for me!! Yeah right!

I don't want him 24/7, definately not, just a bit of consideration. Never gonna happen, just can't be bothered moving out again right now.

hugs n got to say u r worth more than that n believe me i know.I must add ive now got the best hubby in the world

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Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:

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Originally posted by Scrumtum:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I found the challenge of my bad boy quite thrilling when I was 19, now I am 29 I am more than bored with it, wish he would grow up and I'm about 1 more pissed up weekend from packing my bags...again. I would advise all to go for the nice boy.

u bin wid dis dog for 10 years?????????

girl u wastin ur life!!!!!!!!!

Tell me about it, says he is sorry blah, blah. Tells me that he should be able to go out etc without me breathing down his neck, true but he takes it to the extreme.

Left twice, took him back because he begged me to. Currently I should be grateful that its weekends only because he stopped going out during the week for me!! Yeah right!

I don't want him 24/7, definately not, just a bit of consideration. Never gonna happen, just can't be bothered moving out again right now.

Aww hun. Do you still love him though or have you lost it now?

No, I definately do love him *feels pathetic*. When its good, its very good but thats not too often. I am very frustrated. I left last time because it came to a head, I want to buy a house, have children etc and he couldn't manage it but then months later he is all teary, promising the world. Promising all the things I wanted because he didn't want to be without me.

It took me a good 6/12 months before I stared to get comfy and then it happens again. He doesn't want any of that and now I am here again. So mad with myself for allowing myself to get in this situation again but right now its a choice of here or back to my Mums again and I don't know which one I would rather have. Its like having a flat mate at the moment.

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Originally posted by Scrumtum:

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Originally posted by stupidcupid:
Why do girls love bad boys?
Hm!
Maybe to make their own lives more interesting?
Who knows!

yea thats like the WORST thing!!!!!

easy prey for a dude... a girl with no common sense.

absolutely!

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:

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Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:

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Originally posted by Scrumtum:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I found the challenge of my bad boy quite thrilling when I was 19, now I am 29 I am more than bored with it, wish he would grow up and I'm about 1 more pissed up weekend from packing my bags...again. I would advise all to go for the nice boy.

u bin wid dis dog for 10 years?????????

girl u wastin ur life!!!!!!!!!

Tell me about it, says he is sorry blah, blah. Tells me that he should be able to go out etc without me breathing down his neck, true but he takes it to the extreme.

Left twice, took him back because he begged me to. Currently I should be grateful that its weekends only because he stopped going out during the week for me!! Yeah right!

I don't want him 24/7, definately not, just a bit of consideration. Never gonna happen, just can't be bothered moving out again right now.

Aww hun. Do you still love him though or have you lost it now?

No, I definately do love him *feels pathetic*. When its good, its very good but thats not too often. I am very frustrated. I left last time because it came to a head, I want to buy a house, have children etc and he couldn't manage it but then months later he is all teary, promising the world. Promising all the things I wanted because he didn't want to be without me.

It took me a good 6/12 months before I stared to get comfy and then it happens again. He doesn't want any of that and now I am here again. So mad with myself for allowing myself to get in this situation again but right now its a choice of here or back to my Mums again and I don't know which one I would rather have. Its like having a flat mate at the moment.

It sounds to me as though he's just very immature. How many of his mates have wives/kids/mortgages? If it's not that many then you'll probably find that he'll change when they all do, which assuming that he & they are all about the same age as you should be fairly soon. If most of his mates already have these things though then the chances are that he'll never be ready unless you force him to be, and then he'll probably resent you for it.

yea men are 4 years young than their actual age. VERY slow developers.

HOWEVER in this instance its been 10 years and he aint sayin or doin nuffin.

your floggin a dead horse.

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:

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Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:

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Originally posted by Scrumtum:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I found the challenge of my bad boy quite thrilling when I was 19, now I am 29 I am more than bored with it, wish he would grow up and I'm about 1 more pissed up weekend from packing my bags...again. I would advise all to go for the nice boy.

u bin wid dis dog for 10 years?????????

girl u wastin ur life!!!!!!!!!

Tell me about it, says he is sorry blah, blah. Tells me that he should be able to go out etc without me breathing down his neck, true but he takes it to the extreme.

Left twice, took him back because he begged me to. Currently I should be grateful that its weekends only because he stopped going out during the week for me!! Yeah right!

I don't want him 24/7, definately not, just a bit of consideration. Never gonna happen, just can't be bothered moving out again right now.

Aww hun. Do you still love him though or have you lost it now?

No, I definately do love him *feels pathetic*. When its good, its very good but thats not too often. I am very frustrated. I left last time because it came to a head, I want to buy a house, have children etc and he couldn't manage it but then months later he is all teary, promising the world. Promising all the things I wanted because he didn't want to be without me.

It took me a good 6/12 months before I stared to get comfy and then it happens again. He doesn't want any of that and now I am here again. So mad with myself for allowing myself to get in this situation again but right now its a choice of here or back to my Mums again and I don't know which one I would rather have. Its like having a flat mate at the moment.

I so wish i could put u in my shoes from yrs ago,was treated like shit but its a very long story but will say man who i thought was my life n he was a shit didnt want to know i was having his baby n fecked off.God was good to me cos he gave me my hubby who is my life n the best dad in the world

He is older than me. 37 in a couple of weeks, only one of his friends has settled down so he thinks he is normal.

Flogging a dead horse is exactly what I am doing.

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
He is older than me. 37 in a couple of weeks, only one of his friends has settled down so he thinks he is normal.

Flogging a dead horse is exactly what I am doing.

I thought so. It's true that lads these days don't grow up as fast as they did but I think 37 is pushing it a bit to still be wanting to act like he's still 21. You have to really think about what you want out of life and then think whether he can give that to you. If not, you have to move on hun before you waste anymore time.

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:

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Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:

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Originally posted by Scrumtum:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I found the challenge of my bad boy quite thrilling when I was 19, now I am 29 I am more than bored with it, wish he would grow up and I'm about 1 more pissed up weekend from packing my bags...again. I would advise all to go for the nice boy.

u bin wid dis dog for 10 years?????????

girl u wastin ur life!!!!!!!!!

Tell me about it, says he is sorry blah, blah. Tells me that he should be able to go out etc without me breathing down his neck, true but he takes it to the extreme.

Left twice, took him back because he begged me to. Currently I should be grateful that its weekends only because he stopped going out during the week for me!! Yeah right!

I don't want him 24/7, definately not, just a bit of consideration. Never gonna happen, just can't be bothered moving out again right now.

Aww hun. Do you still love him though or have you lost it now?

No, I definately do love him *feels pathetic*. When its good, its very good but thats not too often. I am very frustrated. I left last time because it came to a head, I want to buy a house, have children etc and he couldn't manage it but then months later he is all teary, promising the world. Promising all the things I wanted because he didn't want to be without me.

It took me a good 6/12 months before I stared to get comfy and then it happens again. He doesn't want any of that and now I am here again. So mad with myself for allowing myself to get in this situation again but right now its a choice of here or back to my Mums again and I don't know which one I would rather have. Its like having a flat mate at the moment.

GET BACK TO YOUR MUMS RIGHT NOW! .............he's no good and you know it - you have a whole life ahead of you ............dont waste it on that loser. You know you're worth more. Don't settle for shite .....................it may take some time but the right one is out there ........you'll know when you find him.

I know, I know! Think I am waiting for things to come to a head again, not brave enough to do it unless there is a steaming arguement that I can walk out on. Said before on here that I just brush it all under the carpet until the next time.

I am wasting my life and I can't sit around much longer. Gave him twelve months once this started up again, I said if it doesn't change by the time I am 30 I am off but why wait that long. I don't know where my back bone went but wish I could find it again.

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:


I know, I know! Think I am waiting for things to come to a head again, not brave enough to do it unless there is a steaming arguement that I can walk out on. Said before on here that I just brush it all under the carpet until the next time.

I am wasting my life and I can't sit around much longer. Gave him twelve months once this started up again, I said if it doesn't change by the time I am 30 I am off but why wait that long. I don't know where my back bone went but wish I could find it again.

i want tto cry for you ..............i honestly and truly have known people like you who wasted years before they made their move. Please ........do it now! What are you waiting for? Just pack up and go .........too many years can go by waiting for someone to change.

My sister was 22 years into a horrible and wasteful marriage .........she plucked up the courage to leave and now 14 years on is getting married again to her soulmate (in July) ......don't wait for a massive argument ..............plot your moves - plan your escape and just go ...............quite calmly (when you're ready) just tell him to eff off as you've had enough.

No one should stay in a relationship if they're not happy - especially if there's no kids involved.

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Originally posted by Soozy woo:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:


I know, I know! Think I am waiting for things to come to a head again, not brave enough to do it unless there is a steaming arguement that I can walk out on. Said before on here that I just brush it all under the carpet until the next time.

I am wasting my life and I can't sit around much longer. Gave him twelve months once this started up again, I said if it doesn't change by the time I am 30 I am off but why wait that long. I don't know where my back bone went but wish I could find it again.

i want tto cry for you ..............i honestly and truly have known people like you who wasted years before they made their move. Please ........do it now! What are you waiting for? Just pack up and go .........too many years can go by waiting for someone to change.

My sister was 22 years into a horrible and wasteful marriage .........she plucked up the courage to leave and now 14 years on is getting married again to her soulmate (in July) ......don't wait for a massive argument ..............plot your moves - plan your escape and just go ...............quite calmly (when you're ready) just tell him to eff off as you've had enough.

No one should stay in a relationship if they're not happy - especially if there's no kids involved.

I agree. If you're going to make the change, you need to do it in a deliberate and rational way. If you wait for there to be some big emotional crescendo you'll never really break away because there will always be the emotional factor there to fall back on and blame. I feel so bad for you hun, but I really do think you need to do something before you wake up and find you're life's passed you by.

I was trying to piece it all together before when soaking in the bath, thinking go downstairs and say its not working but he doesn't do talking, says I am giving him grief and backs right off.

So I am sat here again, downing a few beers and telling strangers what I should be telling him.

I think your right, I need to get it straight in my head thats what I am doing and just go.

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I was trying to piece it all together before when soaking in the bath, thinking go downstairs and say its not working but he doesn't do talking, says I am giving him grief and backs right off.

So I am sat here again, downing a few beers and telling strangers what I should be telling him.

I think your right, I need to get it straight in my head thats what I am doing and just go.

Dont do it straight from the bath. Write it down .........plan your moves - sort your finances and just go .........tell him when it's all sorted. I know it sounds callous etc. but that is what you need to do. Dont let him second guess you - just go - he doesn't sound like he's worth a second chance ........on the other hand you do .............get out there and find someone new - he's not the only guy in the world.

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I was trying to piece it all together before when soaking in the bath, thinking go downstairs and say its not working but he doesn't do talking, says I am giving him grief and backs right off.

So I am sat here again, downing a few beers and telling strangers what I should be telling him.

I think your right, I need to get it straight in my head thats what I am doing and just go.

Oh Linds, I really want to give you a hug now. I feel bad sitting here as someone that's never experienced a really bad relationship and dishing out advice on what to do, but I've seen it happen with friends and relations and I know how destructive these things are, especially for women. At least you seem to know that this was going to happen. It will be hard at first. Making any major change to your life is but it will all be good in the end.

I wanna give you two a hug too!

Thank you to those who replied. My friends have given up telling me this sort of thing. I probably could afford my own house if I got myself together and stopped paying the bills here and buying his food. A bit of forward planning is what I need to get my back bone in its rightful place. Thanks again. I have listened and I will take it all on, not brush it under the carpet again.

Its the toughness of making that big change thats put me off but I realise it can be any harder than doing this over and over again forever.

Linds.. it's not going to get better. You can't live for what might be. Who he is here and now is who you have got... fantasy man who is kind, thoughtful, plans a future with you and sticks to those plans does not exist.. only in your head.

You have no control over what he does/thinks/says.. you are powerless. But you do have control over yourself.. you are powerful. Right now you probably don't feel it because all this 'push you, pull you' crap has your self esteem in the floor. Get yourself sorted so you can leave.. then leave.. and have no contact with the bugger whatsoever. I guarantee that after the initial period of it being damned hard.. if you keep that up.. you'll wonder wtf kept you with him for so long.

Or you can stay.. maybe waste another 10 years on a man whose emotional immaturity sounds progressive.. wake up and realise life has passed you by.. no fairytale wedding, no kids, not even a secure loving partner.

It was Einstein who said the definition of insanity thing.. he was a clever bloke.. maybe he had a point huh..

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I wanna give you two a hug too!

Thank you to those who replied. My friends have given up telling me this sort of thing. I probably could afford my own house if I got myself together and stopped paying the bills here and buying his food. A bit of forward planning is what I need to get my back bone in its rightful place. Thanks again. I have listened and I will take it all on, not brush it under the carpet again.

Its the toughness of making that big change thats put me off but I realise it can be any harder than doing this over and over again forever.

you need to talk to my Pespi hun shes in bed now, but I will tell her to "ave a word" with ya she has been where you are,...stay strong ok?

Aaaaarghhh!!!

Tupps sometimes you ability to speak the truth makes me shrink but again your words will be ringing in my ears as the week progreses. I guess Einstein knows what he was talking about but its this bit that sticks out to me

"Or you can stay.. maybe waste another 10 years on a man whose emotional immaturity sounds progressive.. wake up and realise life has passed you by.. no fairytale wedding, no kids, not even a secure loving partner. "

Its going nowhere. I am going nowhere and its time I stopped bleating and started acting on it. I am waiting for him to wake up and say god your right, lets buy a house, lets have some kids, NEVER GONNA HAPPEN!!

Time to stop having an easy life and get on with tough bit.

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Originally posted by old hippy guy:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I wanna give you two a hug too!

Thank you to those who replied. My friends have given up telling me this sort of thing. I probably could afford my own house if I got myself together and stopped paying the bills here and buying his food. A bit of forward planning is what I need to get my back bone in its rightful place. Thanks again. I have listened and I will take it all on, not brush it under the carpet again.

Its the toughness of making that big change thats put me off but I realise it can be any harder than doing this over and over again forever.

you need to talk to my Pespi hun shes in bed now, but I will tell her to "ave a word" with ya she has been where you are,...stay strong ok?

See, like I said earlier, OHG is a naughty boy not a baddun, a baddun would never have written that.

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Originally posted by old hippy guy:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I wanna give you two a hug too!

Thank you to those who replied. My friends have given up telling me this sort of thing. I probably could afford my own house if I got myself together and stopped paying the bills here and buying his food. A bit of forward planning is what I need to get my back bone in its rightful place. Thanks again. I have listened and I will take it all on, not brush it under the carpet again.

Its the toughness of making that big change thats put me off but I realise it can be any harder than doing this over and over again forever.

you need to talk to my Pespi hun shes in bed now, but I will tell her to "ave a word" with ya she has been where you are,...stay strong ok?

You were one of my favourite C4 FMs OHG...so glad you found happiness with Pepsi, remember you from old night owl days on C4. A word from someone who got out of this shit and ended up in a much better place would be warmly welcomed

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Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:

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Originally posted by old hippy guy:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I wanna give you two a hug too!

Thank you to those who replied. My friends have given up telling me this sort of thing. I probably could afford my own house if I got myself together and stopped paying the bills here and buying his food. A bit of forward planning is what I need to get my back bone in its rightful place. Thanks again. I have listened and I will take it all on, not brush it under the carpet again.

Its the toughness of making that big change thats put me off but I realise it can be any harder than doing this over and over again forever.

you need to talk to my Pespi hun shes in bed now, but I will tell her to "ave a word" with ya she has been where you are,...stay strong ok?

See, like I said earlier, OHG is a naughty boy not a baddun, a baddun would never have written that.

DAMN....busted...erm....erm....it wasnt me wot writ that... load of tosh...it was.....erm... er...a wussy burglar wot broke in while I was downstairs killin some kittens

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Originally posted by old hippy guy:

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Originally posted by Queen of the High Teas:

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Originally posted by old hippy guy:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I wanna give you two a hug too!

Thank you to those who replied. My friends have given up telling me this sort of thing. I probably could afford my own house if I got myself together and stopped paying the bills here and buying his food. A bit of forward planning is what I need to get my back bone in its rightful place. Thanks again. I have listened and I will take it all on, not brush it under the carpet again.

Its the toughness of making that big change thats put me off but I realise it can be any harder than doing this over and over again forever.

you need to talk to my Pespi hun shes in bed now, but I will tell her to "ave a word" with ya she has been where you are,...stay strong ok?

See, like I said earlier, OHG is a naughty boy not a baddun, a baddun would never have written that.

DAMN....busted...erm....erm....it wasnt me wot writ that... load of tosh...it was.....erm... er...a wussy burglar wot broke in while I was downstairs killin some kittens

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:

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Originally posted by old hippy guy:

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
I wanna give you two a hug too!

Thank you to those who replied. My friends have given up telling me this sort of thing. I probably could afford my own house if I got myself together and stopped paying the bills here and buying his food. A bit of forward planning is what I need to get my back bone in its rightful place. Thanks again. I have listened and I will take it all on, not brush it under the carpet again.

Its the toughness of making that big change thats put me off but I realise it can be any harder than doing this over and over again forever.

you need to talk to my Pespi hun shes in bed now, but I will tell her to "ave a word" with ya she has been where you are,...stay strong ok?

You were one of my favourite C4 FMs OHG...so glad you found happiness with Pepsi, remember you from old night owl days on C4. A word from someone who got out of this shit and ended up in a much better place would be warmly welcomed

See, you never know, there's probably a YHG waiting out there for you too.

To answer the original question.....because they feel they are the one that'll change 'em.

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I wanna give you two a hug too!

Thank you to those who replied. My friends have given up telling me this sort of thing. I probably could afford my own house if I got myself together and stopped paying the bills here and buying his food. A bit of forward planning is what I need to get my back bone in its rightful place. Thanks again. I have listened and I will take it all on, not brush it under the carpet again.

Its the toughness of making that big change thats put me off but I realise it can be any harder than doing this over and over again forever.

you need to talk to my Pespi hun shes in bed now, but I will tell her to "ave a word" with ya she has been where you are,...stay strong ok?

You were one of my favourite C4 FMs OHG...so glad you found happiness with Pepsi, remember you from old night owl days on C4. A word from someone who got out of this shit and ended up in a much better place would be warmly welcomed

well she DID go through some SERIOUS shit with a real ahole and it took her years n years to realise her LIFE was tickin away while she kept on sayin next time...next week...just get cristmas out of the way on n on,
she will put ya right lass