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A bit of the same, long lie in then off to town for lunch, some shopping where'd I'd buy new PJs and socks.  Home for a bubble bath with scented candles, new PJs and socks on and have someone do my hair for me ( I hate the drying/straightening process ) then open a bottle of wine, order take away and watch a good film.  At the end of which I'd switch over to BBC to catch the lotto results an realise I've won millions.

I got a bit greedy at the end there but you did ask about a PERFECT day lol
Ells
Funnily enough, my perfect day would not be where I exclude the kids.  I can't understand people whose only way of having a good time, or enjoying themselves, is when they are without their children.   

It's like some people I know can't wait til their kids leave home, so they can 'have their life back.'  I just think WTF?    

A really long lazy day at the beach - WITH the children - is my idea of heaven, and the whole family singing along to cheezy songs together on the way home. 
FM
Wake up somewhere near the sea about 8am...shower...cup of coffee...bit of a walk to a beachside cafe, nice full English brekkie...bit of swimming in the sea and a lounge with a good book for several hours with the odd dip to cool down (cos its nice and warm)...walk back to house, shower to get rid of the sand....nice chat and sit out in the garden with family before roast dinner (cooked by someone else) and topped by a nice film and bed.
Croctacus
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I can totally see Tinas point (No kids) Everyone needs a break from time to time, and not everyones idea of a perfect day involved children. I don't think it says anything about anyone as a person. Each to their own and all that.

I think it was a perfectly innocent remark to be honest Zazz. When my 2 were small it was nice to have some "me" time now and then. Didn't make me less of a Mum. 
FM
Realistically though, kids DO take over your life. Once you have them, everything changes (well, it does for parents who give a shit - not all parents do). To have a complete day to yourself where you know your kids are safe at the grandparents or whatever, and to have nobody else to consider or worry about apart from yourself, to be totally free and do what the hell you like, that's heaven to a lot of parents who dedicate most of their time doing things to invest in their child's future.

Wanting a selfish day to yourself doesn't mean you love your kids any less.
Karma_
"I think it was a perfectly innocent remark to be honest Zazz. When my 2 were small it was nice to have some "me" time now and then. Didn't make me less of a Mum"

Couldn't agree more, and wouldn't take what anyone on here says to heart with regards to "you have to ask why it's stressful etc etc" everyones situations are different, some have saints for kids, some don't, some are single parents, some aren't etc etc.
zazz
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Wanting a selfish day to yourself doesn't mean you love your kids any less.


agree  
SazBomb
I think those whose "perfect day" involves some me time are probably those who don't get that much of it - that is - those who do spend a lot of time with their children.


It's a tad "precious" to suggest anyone is less of a parent for wanting some spaceof their own. I've been a sole parent for that last 9 years and for 13 days out of 14 it's just me and them 24/7. I adore them but it's also absolutely shattering (less so in some ways now they are teenagers but I rarely sit down before 9pm having been on the go from 6.30am). That 24 hour period by myself is a godsend for me. I can sleep in, I don't have to prepare meals, I don't have to taxi them everywhere.


That one day a fortnight allows me to recharge my batteries and be me, not Mum.


Now then, my prefect day:

Somewhere warm, a pool or beach nearby, a damn good book, wine on tap and a lovely nrestaurant nearby for when I get peckish. Now I can do this with or without the kids.
Cariad

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