Guys i am in a right pickle...
My BF has a 7 year old son, he comes to stay over every other weeekend and on the other weekends we take him out somewhere and drop him back to his mum's..
On the weekends that he stays over i don't stay - i always feel like i'm stealing time from this little lad with his Dad and i'd prefer them to have a good laugh and do some father/son bonding without me there..
Now my BF is saying that i am treating his son like his ex used to, not wanting him staying over and not seeing him etc .. but its not like that at all - we don't have our own place and my BF is staying with his parents until he gets his own place sorted in a few months so i feel like its a squash with us all in their house aswell.
I get along fab with his son, we are good mates - we go out and i buy him things, we have a laugh but now the whole family are starting to question my time with him, i've not seen him in a few weeks cos i've been busy or at home in Ireland and they are comparing me with how his Ex was with him (she didnt like him and never wanted him around)
Now he is saying i am making him choose between his son and me and if i can't change my mind about the staying over then we may as well not be together... i've told him how i feel but he says its about his son spending time with both of us and not just him - is it??
Any advice is welcome xxx
My BF has a 7 year old son, he comes to stay over every other weeekend and on the other weekends we take him out somewhere and drop him back to his mum's..
On the weekends that he stays over i don't stay - i always feel like i'm stealing time from this little lad with his Dad and i'd prefer them to have a good laugh and do some father/son bonding without me there..
Now my BF is saying that i am treating his son like his ex used to, not wanting him staying over and not seeing him etc .. but its not like that at all - we don't have our own place and my BF is staying with his parents until he gets his own place sorted in a few months so i feel like its a squash with us all in their house aswell.
I get along fab with his son, we are good mates - we go out and i buy him things, we have a laugh but now the whole family are starting to question my time with him, i've not seen him in a few weeks cos i've been busy or at home in Ireland and they are comparing me with how his Ex was with him (she didnt like him and never wanted him around)
Now he is saying i am making him choose between his son and me and if i can't change my mind about the staying over then we may as well not be together... i've told him how i feel but he says its about his son spending time with both of us and not just him - is it??
Any advice is welcome xxx