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I'm not doing too well this year. When she came in I thought she was great. Her contemptuous dismissal of Kenneth was a joy to watch. Unfortunately that just seems to be her default setting. She's obviously a very intelligent girl (check out her use of words like 'diffident' and 'antiquarian' in the diary room). But she's got no emotional intelligence whatsoever. Let's face it, calling someone a bully because they disagree with you's hardly a page from Dale Carnegie. She's barely been in there a month and she's had a set to with almost everyone. They can't all be wrong.

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Originally posted by shirehorse:
I'm not doing too well this year. When she came in I thought she was great. Her contemptuous dismissal of Kenneth was a joy to watch. Unfortunately that just seems to be her default setting. She's obviously a very intelligent girl (check out her use of words like 'diffident' and 'antiquarian' in the diary room). But she's got no emotional intelligence whatsoever. Let's face it, calling someone a bully because they disagree with you's hardly a page from Dale Carnegie. She's barely been in there a month and she's had a set to with almost everyone. They can't all be wrong.
Don't worry Shirehorse Hug cos many of us were duped by her seemingly sweet nature that was on display,initially.

Couldn't last for ever though, and once the mask slipped - we all saw how nastily bitchy and confrontatinal she can be.

And, hey, don't get me wrong because I am confrontational too but I don't ever try to get others 'on side' in order to say what I feel that I need to.

In fact, my inability to keep my trap shut, to those concerned has mostly made me end up in the brown and smelly stuff, but at least its me alone and I don't try to encourage others to join 'my fight' (that was metaphorial) Big Grin

I'd rather just do my own thing, really - then I have nobody to blame apart from myself if it all goes tits-up and that's exactly how it should be.

I'm 45 now, and I really think I've passed the point of changing how I approach my manner in fora.
K
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Originally posted by subatomic partygirl:
She set out to play the lot of them like a Strad...and, so far, the numpties are letting her. Isn't even one of them emotionally intelligent enough to spot her mean-girl 'manipulate and giggle at the plebs' streak? I get the impression she's revelling in it (and it's her default mode).


Exactly, and again it's going to be another case of Hubris.
GMA
I think most of us spotted her manipulative streak fairly early on but we cut her lots of slack because her targets were so well chosen. I still find her the most watchable person in the house but I'm finding her patronising attitude towards those she sees as the proles, and that's pretty much anyone who isn't Bea, more than a bit irritating
captain marbles
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Originally posted by subatomic partygirl:
She set out to play the lot of them like a Strad...and, so far, the numpties are letting her. Isn't even one of them emotionally intelligent enough to spot her mean-girl 'manipulate and giggle at the plebs' streak? I get the impression she's revelling in it (and it's her default mode).
I love that! Thumbs Up But does that make us 'elitist' or 'snobbish?' Whaddya reckon? Think it does, a bit because everyone who might want to come in and congratulate, or berate, might not know WTF you're on about *cries*

Tell em what it is, Subby Thumbs Up They'll love you for it! At least you had the decency to make yourself understood Wink

You don't have to pretend to be thick and 'dumb-down' just be yourself in the hope that others who don't understand WTF you're on about,will ask more questions, and learn something constructive.

That's how I learn. I don't CARE WHO I ask questions of, if I'm not understanding what's going on. I don't feel at all thick. I feel empowered, because I come away knowing something that I didn't know before Wink

I work peeps last nerve, with all the questions I ask Ninja Laugh
K
I don't mind watching them argue if they are evenly matched or if there is a point or reason to argue. I think that Bea knows her strengths in a confrontation and she picks her victims carefully. Her fights seem to be premeditated as she spends a few days before hand putting the victim down or trying to make them disliked by other hm's. She can do this in the outside world, but surely in the bb environment it can only happen a few times before the rest of the hm's work out what she is doing.
S
Meh ............... we don't do too bad! Big Grin

We were not all born to be intellectuals - my Father couldn't stand the thought of me being 'artistic' which I clearly am, just because I could put together a flat-pack box of furniture in about 20 mins flat, without looking at the instructions Laugh

He was an Architect/Draughtsman/Builder/Carpenter (sounds mad - but you can do all that back home)and wanted me to learn a Trade Wink

We didn't get along at all. Probably, because we were so much alike Frowner
K
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Originally posted by shirehorse:
I'm not doing too well this year. When she came in I thought she was great. Her contemptuous dismissal of Kenneth was a joy to watch. Unfortunately that just seems to be her default setting. She's obviously a very intelligent girl (check out her use of words like 'diffident' and 'antiquarian' in the diary room). But she's got no emotional intelligence whatsoever. Let's face it, calling someone a bully because they disagree with you's hardly a page from Dale Carnegie. She's barely been in there a month and she's had a set to with almost everyone. They can't all be wrong.
all is forgiven now Shire, you have seen the light Smiler
LGS
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Originally posted by mozart:
i dint particularly like her and never did from the start, but she has sort of made an otherwise dull house into a more interesting house, simply because she will start a row and she will baffle the lesser intelligent HMs with her words.

Agree that the house can be dull but I find Bea cruel and condescending. I could do without her barbed comments and hope she's out this week,
W

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