My great aunt fancied having her ashes tipped into someone hand and being blown away (she always loved travelling) but her daughter was horrified and didn't do it.

I've already donated a bit of me already so the rest can go to where it's needed. If my twinnie toddler girls want to make bling bling accessories with my carbonated remains then they are welcome, even though they'll have some Cartier/Baume Mercier/Tiffany/Bulgari etc.. bits to remember me (and Grandma) by (the ungrateful wretches).

My aunts in Canada don't like funerals so when one died her sister had her cremated without ceremony and only the sister knew the time & place.
My brother wants the same to happen to him.

I think if people find comfort in it then it is fine...

I'm not a particularly spiritual person or anything like that but ..............if a person makes their 'death' wishes known .....................I think they should be honoured - if they've gone to the effort of expressing their views - it must mean a lot to them. I know that they'll never know but ............I think there should be some kind of respect.

My grannie used to batter me with her walking stick and we had to go to bed at 5.30 when she visited, now had she been a wee glass ornament......

Suzy, I used to think that when I didn't have a care in the world, but now it feels different. I don't just want to be a moment in time. I am somebody who had children and loved people and felt lots of things, so I don't want to be discarded off any old way. I did think I wouldn't care when I was in my 30s.

Your neighbours may not be too happy.

Me too ..................but - I think we live on in the memories of our children and their children I haven't meant this thread to be disrespectful at all ..............TBH ..........i think if someone actually takes the time out to make something symbolic to remember there's nothing wrong.

I'm guessing Cologne that you wish to be buried and that is important to you. I think it's what is important (or not) to the individual that matters. I don't want to be a moment in time .........................I want a bloody good send off that people talk about afterwards but ..............at the end of the day we are all reaLLY JUST A MOMENT IN TIME THAT LIVES ON IN THE MEMORIES OF OTHERS.

No, I don't, I'd like to be cremated.  Problem is my daughter who keeps telling me that she wants to be able to come to a grave, but I really, really don't want that.

I'd go along with this, but I would say having the ashes turned into a glass object would run the risk of that object being broken somewhere along the line.  I personally wouldn't want to take that risk.

Sorry ..........just assumed by the way you were talking. Do you have wishes as to what happens to your ashes?

God i'm getting morbid .......sorry!

I'm still (just about) in my 30s Cologne, so I don't know how I'll feel later. I hope that the memories I have consciously and unconsciously created for my nearest and dearest will be a part of my footprint left on Earth. My mortal remains may be used at the discretion of the ones I leave behind. I trust and love them.

Easy soozy, we are at the Devon /Cornish cost, Burn my rainbow coffin and let me drift off the Atlantic.

That's how I feel.

OMG Cologne.... I have had exactly the same conversation with my daughter   

It's been really nice to have a convo that isn't BB related with all the drama that it entails but ................I've rather depressed myself now.

Sorry if I've done the same to you lot. Thank's for sharing though!

Chin up soozy, you could be a bit of bling if you want 

It's good to share.

Well there is always that 

You'd probably get somebody else's ashes mixed into the glass ornament. Several people actually. The whole ashes thing isn't exactly a refined art, and things tend to get mixed up at the ol' burner.

I don't think it's such a bad idea though. If it brings comfort to people, that's good. 

I had a friend who worked at the crem ................she said that really doesn't happen. They are very particular - after each burning they empty out properly ............i think the old story about ashes getting mixed up is a fallacy.

This is absolutely untrue. They are very particular believe me and they never get anyone mixed up.
This  is a fallacy with no basis in fact.

Interesting thread, Soozy.
Death and funerals can be diificult subjects to discuss but it's important that our loved ones know our wishes.

Well I've already got my plot and funeral paid for 



interesting concept though     - it wouldn't be something I'd do but I can understand people wanting may be jewellery made of ashes to have a person close to them 

Well how bloody rude is THAT!!! 'Sorry love, we've had a butchers at your bits and bobs and to be honest there's nowt there that would be of any interest to any of us so as you were'.

Oh I'd smack their face

im really not dealing with this thread very well

I want my body to be strapped to thousands of balloons and float away... is that an option? Either that or just stick me through a wood chipper.

Why? I don't think anyone's been disrespectful have they? I'm sorry if you're recently bereaved ................I didn't start this thread with the intention of offending.

I've tried to think about what I would want to happen to me after my demise and I suppose if I were cremated then I'd like to be planted with a tree (right outside my son's window so I can keep an eye on him). But depending on when it is and how much notice I had then I'll probably leave it to my loved ones to do what they wanted as it would be them in mourning (I hope ), so whatever brought them the most comfort would suit me. As long as they don't stick me in front of the tele when that Godawful ruddy bollocksack Michael bloody Ball is on. One would NOT be amused.

Justa.

not offended or bereaved like some have been on here.
its just sad reading through it sorry
yogi hun

aw... sorry Jaf.. 

death is something discussed openly in our family...    its come about because of my paralysing fear of death (mine or my families)....   I have found the open & frank talks we have all had about it have really really helped me.

And... my mum seriously does want me to have her ashes made into a pair of diamond studs for me to wear.    Far from disrespectful...  its an idea I find very sentimental...   and I like the idea of my daughter doing the same with me.

 Cremation for me.'Ashes to ashes' etc.As long as i don't wake up in the furnace like in that James Bond film.Put my ashes in the skip.

Not for me Sooz.  I would rather scatter them over a place they loved, but I can understand folk who 'do' want to keep them.

Amazing! I've never really discussed it with my mum. We had my dads ashes planted around a rose bush in her garden. When she moved here we dug up the rose bush so she/we still have our memories.

It really is a sensitive subject .....................it's good to talk to people who are annonymous to us.

Really and truly sorry if I've offended anyone. i just think it's healthy to discuss these things especially when there is no personal issues amongst us.

then its good that you have talked about it ditty,

a couple of years ago my bessie mate lost her dad very very suddenly...   her mum was distraught... and though in a complete state herself my friend had to deal with all the arrangements.   She said having to look through a catalogue of coffins when you are feeling like that is the pits.

I then started talking to my parents about it (well... I brought it up during a conversation my father started to do with family finances in the event of his or my mum's, or both of their deaths...   they also wanted to double check with me that should the worst happen I would have their dog.. which is a no brainer... but they wanted to be sure)...   Anyway...  I told them about what my friend had said, and asked them if they could possibly put a preference for all this stuff down in the will...  so I don't have to try & deal with these decision.

My father has now insisted, in his will... that he be put in the cheapest coffin available!!!!  I am not happy about it!   But he said he was terrified I would go on a spending spree...  and end up throwing him a funeral with glass carraige & horses... Kray Twins Style!

I agree with your father, Ditty.  I would be horrified at the thought of my family spending more than the absolute minimum on anything to do with my funeral, and  I would much rather any money was spent on a good piss up to remember me.  I feel very strongly about my funeral; I want it to be completely non religious, I want to be cremated, and to have 'Fire' by Arthur Brown is played as my coffin starts to move away.  I want people to laugh rather than to cry, and to wear very bright colours.  It will also be the last occasion when I'll have a captive audience to listen to music that I have alway loved, and I've specified two other songs by Black Sabbath and Machine Head that I want played during my funeral   

I think it's very disrespectful not to follow someone's wishes when they have strong feelings about their funeral, and have included details of what I want to happen with my will.  If she doesn't follow my wihses, I will most definitely haunt my daughter for ever

I agree ...................not a day goes by when I don't say ..........oooooooooooooh I want that song played at my funeral. I really should write it all down .........and I should inform people in advance as they'll need to book a couple of days off work ................the list is endless!