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I'm honestly not fussed what happens to my body when I'm gone. I believe - when you're dead you're dead. my husband is paranoid about it though ............he's not bothered whether he's buried or cremated but says if I bury him up here (north) and then move back down south and leave him on his own he'll come back and haunt me.

I think he'd like me to wear his ashes in an urn around my neck . I would have a pendant made if I honestly felt it would make him feel better.
Soozy Woo
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Oh Soozy thats not right, hubby is a bit controlling , perhaps ......
Errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrm no . Not at all.. He has a right to voice his views on what happens to him when he dies. He really hasn't asked me to do that ............he simply worries about what happens to his remains. I actually think a lot of people feel strongly about it.

I was joking when I said he'd want me to have his ashes around my neck!  I really don't think it's at all controlling if he states he wants to be near me when I've gone. It was me who half heartedy suggested the ring/pendant thing/
Soozy Woo
Personally I can't see the point....but then I don't see the point in people visiting graves either and we never even bothered collecting the ashes when my parents were cremated.

I've told my husband he can sling my body over the fence when I'm gone for all I care.

However, like most things its down to individual choice....i wouldn't do it but i wouldn't berate someone else if they did (though i wouldn't understand).
Croctacus
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I've told my husband he can sling my body over the fence when I'm gone for all I care.


My lovely Dad once told an insurance woman who came to the door asking him about life insurance and funeral plans that he was quite happy to be buried at the top of the garden with all the dead pets.
She was completely shocked and left  
FM
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I've told my husband he can sling my body over the fence when I'm gone for all I care. However, like most things its down to individual choice....i wouldn't do it but i wouldn't berate someone else if they did (though i wouldn't understand).
I'm with you on this .........I'm happy to leave my body to medical science or donate everything that's of use. My husband feels very differently ...........I think you have to respect peoples choices re this as it is the last  thing that they have (or should have) control over. I think it's terrible to say ........do whatever you want - once they're dead they know nothing about it.

It's not something we've ever really discussed (although we are at the moment) ....................if he wanted me to do that with his remains I would. In all honesty - I'm not arsed what happens to mine ..........he's just said he would find comfort in having me close .................I'm OK with that TBH.

Nothing to do with controlling behaviour as mentioned above ^^^^^^^^^.
Soozy Woo
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  .........I'm happy to leave my body to medical science or donate everything that's of use. My husband feels very differently ...........I think you have to respect peoples choices re this as it is the last thing that they have (or should have) control over.
My mother wanted her body left to medical science although she did not put it in her will or anything.  My father was appalled at the thought and opted for burial instead.
Smarting Buttocks
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My mother wanted her body left to medical science although she did not put it in her will or anything.  My father was appalled at the thought and opted for burial instead.
i would be happy to do that ...........however I don't feel that strongly. If my husband found it too hard to accept it ...........i'd be happy for him to do whatever he wanted . It means far more to him than me .............my view is - once you're dead you're dead ...........he has a bit more 'souls and feeling' than me. I'd be happy for him to do whatever when I'm gone.
Soozy Woo
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Leaving bodies to medical science basically means the body will be used for medical students to learn anatomy on
An old lady that I worked for wanted to do that: she had it in her will and her sons knew about it. But when they tried to sort it out after she died, they were told by the hospital that you have to register in advance and they decide when you die whether you would be 'of any interest'  to them.

PMSL - you can even get rejected after death
FM
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I watched Amadeus the other night and it just seems wrong that any human being should be disposed of without any thought.
I suppose it's all down to personal beliefs etc. i'M REALLY NOT SAYING THAT i'M UP FOR THIS GLASS/JEWELLRY LARK BUT ..............CREMATION AND MAKING A MEMENTO TAKES A  bit of thought doesn't it? (Sorry for the caps). I think it's all down to personal choice.
Soozy Woo
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Personally I can't see the point....but then I don't see the point in people visiting graves either
I had my granddaughter today and we went to my best friends grave, which i hadnt been for a bit. I said to her say hello to ...., she waved and blethered away . While leaving she said "bye" which she doesnt do, she usually turns her head and says bye later. When my daughter came to pick her up after work, she said she saw ...... She is only 2 years old.
FM
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talk of wee wee yellow   Me - "nooo...  white diamond"..    her "green diamond"..  me "nooo - white diamond"  her "BLACK diamond...  YES black diamond... that so symbolises you Mum"
Personally I'd want to be a diamond encrusted triple A Tanzanite ............yes I'll put my hands up .............I'm an avid viewer of Gems TV.
Soozy Woo
I want to have one of my cats stuffed.  Mr G hates her, and would prefer to stuff her now, rather than when she dies

Mr G has always been adamant that he wants me to dump his body in a bin bag on the Town Hall steps when he dies, but I might have his ashes made into a toilet seat instead so that I can think of him several times each day    I would be quite happy to think that my ashes could be made into something useful or decorative when I die, but I am going to try my very best to come back to haunt someone
FM

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