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Originally posted by scatterby:

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Originally posted by mary_bee:

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
One thing I do predict with certainty... SSMSF will not be on your xmas card list in 5 years time... in fact I would be surprised if you are still calling her a friend in 6 months!

Real friends do NOT behave like this!

She is an insecure manwhore!

No I know! I'd never even DREAM of doing this to her! I remember with this whole thing that happened last year she told me she was starting to like him but was going to try and back off because it wasn't fair on me...and I also said to her that it wasn't fair if she tried anything and she was like "Well if he likes me then it's not my fault."

She's actually said she can't just be friends with a bloke because the possiblility of a relationship gets in the way. OH and might I add, that she's never actually done anything with anyone (apart from her dirty texting) so she lives off of the idea that everything is like the films and the books and won't take things slowly she just is totally ott and suggestive. She said to Blokey about going to the gig and he said that if she couldn't find a place to stay she could have his spare room and she actually said "Oh I don't know if I could do that because I'd have to kiss you and I'd need to get rid of my other bloke first."

Grrrrrr

My thoughts exactly

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by mary_bee:


She's actually said she can't just be friends with a bloke because the possiblility of a relationship gets in the way. OH and might I add, that she's never actually done anything with anyone (apart from her dirty texting) so she lives off of the idea that everything is like the films and the books and won't take things slowly she just is totally ott and suggestive. She said to Blokey about going to the gig and he said that if she couldn't find a place to stay she could have his spare room and she actually said "Oh I don't know if I could do that because I'd have to kiss you and I'd need to get rid of my other bloke first."

You have got nothing to worry about Maz! I hadn't realised she was a complete idiot!!!!!

I am tempted to say let her talk to him lots.... most of the boys I used to know would have run a mile from a div like that!

He did say how he thought it was really ott of her to say and how he felt really uncomfortable with it. If I could get the guts to say to him how much I liked him and had confirmation from him that he liked me too I wouldn't give a toss how much she spoke to him but atm I don't so I just want her to get away from him.

Mary it's Beas fault, she's the reason for all this bad luck .

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Originally posted by darloboy07:
Mary it's Beas fault, she's the reason for all this bad luck .

!! YES!

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by mary_bee:

OH! And a few days ago she said that she knew I liked him and that she wouldn't want to hurt me again so she'd try and back off etc. so...obviously she didn't mean that.

I hate people sometimes

TRY! TRY! WTF does TRY mean???

Sorry... had to pop off for a min so just catching up..... but just had to say

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Originally posted by mary_bee:

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Originally posted by darloboy07:
Mary it's Beas fault, she's the reason for all this bad luck .

!! YES!

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Originally posted by mary_bee:

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
On the bright side.... if she makes an all out play for blokey it'll sort out his trustworthiness.

This is very true actually!

Another thing btw, the other day he was really down and started confiding in me about his ex gf and how she had a new man and how it was really upsetting him and I can't tell if that's being more us in the friend area or the possible bf/gf area?

My brother also put a caption on this picture that was 'Mary texting her bf' as a joke and he seemed really..idk weird about it and was like "oh. I didn't know you had a bf" so...that's just another thing there.

oh! eek!

Ermmmm.... do you think he may be on the rebound then?

I typed a load of crap about rebound blokes... but I backspaced it when I remembered you two have actually been on dates!

Oh Maz I remember how bloody complicated it all was... you're just gonna have to go with your instincts, don't sell yourself short, trust ABFitW and go with the flow.

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Originally posted by mary_bee:
If I could get the guts to say to him how much I liked him and had confirmation from him that he liked me too I wouldn't give a toss how much she spoke to him but atm I don't so I just want her to get away from him.

JUST DO IT! ball your fists... take a deep breath and do it.

What is the worst thing that could happen? Him say he doesn't feel the same? That is not the end of the world. And that is not humiliating cos you OWNED the moment. Its state of mind Maz... pleeeese believe me!

Ok... I think I'm up to speed. SSMSF is now FSSMSF in my head

And Maz... I may be useless at relationships, but I'm a damn good slapper when I need to be.

Ok that sounded wrong.

I'd love to offer some amazing words of wisdom to Maz...but as I was a total whoooore in me yoof I fear my words may not be very wise

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Originally posted by Duckypup:
Ok... I think I'm up to speed. SSMSF is now FSSMSF in my head

And Maz... I may be useless at relationships, but I'm a damn good slapper when I need to be.

Ok that sounded wrong.

Oh Ducky! I would have loved to have been Maz's age with you... I have an image of you saying that in a girly group row!

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by mary_bee:

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
On the bright side.... if she makes an all out play for blokey it'll sort out his trustworthiness.

This is very true actually!

Another thing btw, the other day he was really down and started confiding in me about his ex gf and how she had a new man and how it was really upsetting him and I can't tell if that's being more us in the friend area or the possible bf/gf area?

My brother also put a caption on this picture that was 'Mary texting her bf' as a joke and he seemed really..idk weird about it and was like "oh. I didn't know you had a bf" so...that's just another thing there.

oh! eek!

Ermmmm.... do you think he may be on the rebound then?

I typed a load of crap about rebound blokes... but I backspaced it when I remembered you two have actually been on dates!

Oh Maz I remember how bloody complicated it all was... you're just gonna have to go with your instincts, don't sell yourself short, trust ABFitW and go with the flow.

Well I don't know if he is or not because it was a long time ago..but then it still could be.

And my instincts tell me it could be good and he could actually be genuine but I'm a massive pessimist so

How about some:

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Originally posted by MrsB:
I'd love to offer some amazing words of wisdom to Maz...but as I was a total whoooore in me yoof I fear my words may not be very wise

I don't think that exempts you from advisory services MrsB..... I have a rather long rap sheet meself!

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by mary_bee:
If I could get the guts to say to him how much I liked him and had confirmation from him that he liked me too I wouldn't give a toss how much she spoke to him but atm I don't so I just want her to get away from him.

JUST DO IT! ball your fists... take a deep breath and do it.

What is the worst thing that could happen? Him say he doesn't feel the same? That is not the end of the world. And that is not humiliating cos you OWNED the moment. Its state of mind Maz... pleeeese believe me!

Next time it's just me and him I may just try and do it because SSMSF said it to him and he's still fine with her so he seems the mature type who won't just be like "ohhhh no way am I speaking to you again!".

Although, it did take me almost 6 months to tell someone I like them once

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Originally posted by darloboy07:
How about some:

Darlo....are you trying to get Maz drunk? Are you a closet SSFSF?

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Originally posted by Duckypup:
Ok... I think I'm up to speed. SSMSF is now FSSMSF in my head

And Maz... I may be useless at relationships, but I'm a damn good slapper when I need to be.

Ok that sounded wrong.

I love this post!!

No it's for all of us .

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Originally posted by MrsB:
I'd love to offer some amazing words of wisdom to Maz...but as I was a total whoooore in me yoof I fear my words may not be very wise

It matters not! Words of wisdom are words of wisdom

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Originally posted by mary_bee:

And my instincts tell me it could be good and he could actually be genuine but I'm a massive pessimist so

I am gonna tell you what my old boss and mentor used to say to me (my hero he was... another Northerner living in the south... so imagine it in a Northern accent)

"Lass... there are no such things as problems, only opportunities. And you have first decide what outcome you want, before you plan any actions"

In other words..... the outcome you really want out of this, is to know if you are on the right track with blokey or not. There is only one way to find out. Ask him.

I have found that men really like the direct approach

Its always worked rather well for me!

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Originally posted by mary_bee:

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Originally posted by Duckypup:
Ok... I think I'm up to speed. SSMSF is now FSSMSF in my head

And Maz... I may be useless at relationships, but I'm a damn good slapper when I need to be.

Ok that sounded wrong.

I love this post!!

Embarrassingly it was an honest mistake too and not at all contrived.

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by MrsB:
I'd love to offer some amazing words of wisdom to Maz...but as I was a total whoooore in me yoof I fear my words may not be very wise

I don't think that exempts you from advisory services MrsB..... I have a rather long rap sheet meself!

So you reckon...go out, sleep with as many as possible...check behind ears for gils cos THAT'S always useful....don't let any of them get under your skin until you're ready...don't feel guilty...DO stay safe...and when he's the ONE, you'll know....will do then, do ya Ditty???

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Originally posted by mary_bee:

Next time it's just me and him I may just try and do it because SSMSF said it to him and he's still fine with her so he seems the mature type who won't just be like "ohhhh no way am I speaking to you again!".

Although, it did take me almost 6 months to tell someone I like them once

Right, so if you knew that by saying something to him he would knock you back and not talk to you... you'd prefer to not have the convo, just so he talks to you?????

Maz... he either likes you like that or he doesn't. You saying something won't change that. You actually have nothing to lose. Its a win win. You either get your man. Or you are saved alot of wasted time and heartache!

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by mary_bee:

And my instincts tell me it could be good and he could actually be genuine but I'm a massive pessimist so

I am gonna tell you what my old boss and mentor used to say to me (my hero he was... another Northerner living in the south... so imagine it in a Northern accent)

"Lass... there are no such things as problems, only opportunities. And you have first decide what outcome you want, before you plan any actions"

In other words..... the outcome you really want out of this, is to know if you are on the right track with blokey or not. There is only one way to find out. Ask him.

I have found that men really like the direct approach

Its always worked rather well for me!

Ooh! That's rather good advice isn't it!

Tbh I think he'd have to be a liiiittle bit thick not to have guessed I like him...every one else bloody has

I really do want to tell him but don't want to yet until we've had like...another meeting.

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Originally posted by Duckypup:

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Originally posted by mary_bee:

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Originally posted by Duckypup:
Ok... I think I'm up to speed. SSMSF is now FSSMSF in my head

And Maz... I may be useless at relationships, but I'm a damn good slapper when I need to be.

Ok that sounded wrong.

I love this post!!

Embarrassingly it was an honest mistake too and not at all contrived.

That makes it even better!

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by mary_bee:

Next time it's just me and him I may just try and do it because SSMSF said it to him and he's still fine with her so he seems the mature type who won't just be like "ohhhh no way am I speaking to you again!".

Although, it did take me almost 6 months to tell someone I like them once

Right, so if you knew that by saying something to him he would knock you back and not talk to you... you'd prefer to not have the convo, just so he talks to you?????

Maz... he either likes you like that or he doesn't. You saying something won't change that. You actually have nothing to lose. Its a win win. You either get your man. Or you are saved alot of wasted time and heartache!

Remember Maz...fortune favours the brave...or the very drunk...

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Originally posted by MrsB:

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by MrsB:
I'd love to offer some amazing words of wisdom to Maz...but as I was a total whoooore in me yoof I fear my words may not be very wise

I don't think that exempts you from advisory services MrsB..... I have a rather long rap sheet meself!

So you reckon...go out, sleep with as many as possible...check behind ears for gils cos THAT'S always useful....don't let any of them get under your skin until you're ready...don't feel guilty...DO stay safe...and when he's the ONE, you'll know....will do then, do ya Ditty???

Its kinda the way I did it! But I got hurt first, thats what upgraded my skin to become impermeable to males!

hi

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Originally posted by MrsB:

Remember Maz...fortune favours the brave...or the very drunk...

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THIS!

MrsB said in a sentence, what I have rambled over three pages!

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by mary_bee:

Next time it's just me and him I may just try and do it because SSMSF said it to him and he's still fine with her so he seems the mature type who won't just be like "ohhhh no way am I speaking to you again!".

Although, it did take me almost 6 months to tell someone I like them once

Right, so if you knew that by saying something to him he would knock you back and not talk to you... you'd prefer to not have the convo, just so he talks to you?????

Maz... he either likes you like that or he doesn't. You saying something won't change that. You actually have nothing to lose. Its a win win. You either get your man. Or you are saved alot of wasted time and heartache!

Ohh you're all so wise!

I guess you're right, if he says he's not interested then I can try and accept that and carry on as I was before, and if he says yes then...well obviously that's just excellent.

Ros .

Hi Ros

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by MrsB:

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by MrsB:
I'd love to offer some amazing words of wisdom to Maz...but as I was a total whoooore in me yoof I fear my words may not be very wise

I don't think that exempts you from advisory services MrsB..... I have a rather long rap sheet meself!

So you reckon...go out, sleep with as many as possible...check behind ears for gils cos THAT'S always useful....don't let any of them get under your skin until you're ready...don't feel guilty...DO stay safe...and when he's the ONE, you'll know....will do then, do ya Ditty???

Its kinda the way I did it! But I got hurt first, thats what upgraded my skin to become impermeable to males!

Worked perfectly for me...except MrB hasn't got gils...but he can hold his breath for aaaaaages

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by MrsB:

Remember Maz...fortune favours the brave...or the very drunk...

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THIS!

MrsB said in a sentence, what I have rambled over three pages!

Wellllll he did say the other day how keen he is for a picnic under blankets with candles and wine so much wine=maybe the right time to say something?

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Originally posted by rosgirl:
hi

Ello Rosser

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by mary_bee:

And my instincts tell me it could be good and he could actually be genuine but I'm a massive pessimist so

I am gonna tell you what my old boss and mentor used to say to me (my hero he was... another Northerner living in the south... so imagine it in a Northern accent)

"Lass... there are no such things as problems, only opportunities. And you have first decide what outcome you want, before you plan any actions"

In other words..... the outcome you really want out of this, is to know if you are on the right track with blokey or not. There is only one way to find out. Ask him.

I have found that men really like the direct approach

Its always worked rather well for me!

I agree!


I've just remembered I do have a teensy bit of success in this area......


I was on the verge of "seeing" this bloke recently (move on if you've heard it before).... we had been texting and met up one night sorta accidently. I realised I wasn't that into him and actually really liked his friend (who was there too).

At the end of the night I'd decided I wouldnt be seeing the first man again so the chances are I wouldn't have another chance to see his friend, so as we were all leaving the club I managed to work it so I was walking next to the friend and just blurted out that I really liked him. He didn't even have chance to reply because everyone else caught up.

I had 12 hours of thinking it was all for nothing but I tell you what Maz.... you don't half feel proud of yourself! That feeling overides any of the squirmy embarrassment stuff.


(for those who don't know the end of the story..... man #2 told man#1 what I had said and man#1 kindly passed my number onto man#2. We lasted two weeks before the "arrrggghhhh... I can't do this, no one's sharing my TV remote" gene kicked in. )

Ok... that was a bit long.


Summary..... JUST DO IT MAZ!

Also Maz.... self confidence is sexy!!! And... you don't have to be self confident to act self confident! (although it tends to be self fulfilling!)

Take MrsB's advice... brave or drunk... whatever it takes.

Only not as drunk as I was in Poland... wailing "I reaally love you" with ones head resting on the loo seat is NOT sexy!

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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:

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Originally posted by MrsB:

Remember Maz...fortune favours the brave...or the very drunk...

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THIS!

MrsB said in a sentence, what I have rambled over three pages!

During which no-one even noticed we passed page 1100....

Alright everyone

*gets a microscope to find Mrs B's title*

Just put the potatoes in the oven

hi mary - your hair is looking good -wary of posting on FB re my stalker status still don't know how that duck escaped