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Originally posted by Soozy woo:

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Originally posted by stupidcupid:
Its like kids going away to summer camp.
Parents are split up from their kids but they send them to them anyway as it is good for their character building.
Similarly if the parents can make a lot of money and a career from a kind of a summer camp then it can also change the lifestyles of their offspring too.

Never heard of sending a 10 month old off to summer camp TBH.

Well yes I agree with you and I couldn't do it myself.
Thats the difference with the sort of people who appear on bb as opposed to the rest of us who only comment.

Now she is crying about leaving her children and talking about being a single Mum

Saffia crying on live feed cos she left her kids. She saying this in a group discussion. She shouldnt of left her kids

FFS she's crying already about leaving her kids, so why did she???? She said her youngest is 1 and that she'd like to adopt in the future...what planet is this woman on???

Saffia clearly isnt fit to have kids by leaving them to go on Big Brother

Nope i could and would never do it.
Davina gave me the impression that she applauds her because she is doing it for her kids, but then the likes of Davina do leave their kids behind dont they.

A baby of 7months is still getting to know their mother, at 7 months babies do feel Trauma when parted from their mums, as a nursery nurse i see this everyday with the babies and their mums are only gone for a matter of hours.

well she said she was leaving them so in the lnog term it would help them (financially I am presuming)...as Davina said on BBBM playing the "ulrika card"

I don't have kids but I still have an opinion, she shouldn't be in that house. No Way!

I'm surprised anyone would leave such a small baby for what could be (but clearly won't ) three months.

But we don't know the circumstances - maybe the babba is perfectly happy with the grandparents?

she wont be in the house long. If she doesnt pass the challenges or taken into the house by someone else, then if its up to our vote she wont go in because of her leaving the children.

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Originally posted by Yellow Rose:
I took a dislike to her BEFORE she even mentioned she had children. From what she said she doesn't like many people, she could end up with not many liking her, what you put out you get back

She should be at home with her kids they are too young to watch mummy chasing fame on tv

Didn't Jennifer do the same last year?

Gosh if the little one is 10 months old , she could potentially miss his first birthday

I wouldn't leave my child for anything

just been watching the live feed showing from last night she said her youngest was 1.

I wouldnt be able to leave my children either.

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Originally posted by Shar:
No ... it's not right ... and I don't see any grey areas with this ...

I agree Shar.

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Originally posted by Shar:
No ... it's not right ... and I don't see any grey areas with this ...

I agree completely. I can't ever see any justification for a mother to leave young children voluntarily for what could possibly be three months. There is nothing that can compensate those children for their mother's love and time during this period.

Apart from that, children, especially babies, change on a daily basis - how could any woman leave her baby in particular at such a crucial time for their development? If she were to be in the house for a long time, she could miss her baby's first steps, first proper words. And when children come home from school, they want to share their day with their mothers (or fathers) at some point, NOT some other relative or carer.

This is a regular thing now.

I'm neutral on it. It is not something I would do unless I was particularly driven to making a better life for my loved ones but it's not my place to do someone else's moral inventory when it comes to their family or children.

I know people who have to work away to provide and to me this could be the same thing.. so I reserve judgement.

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
They might be with their Dad for three months. Still the baby will miss Mum but if they are with their Dad then maybe it might be alright.

She said last night that they've got different dads. So if the ARE with their fathers, the two children would be apart from each other as well as their mother!

I would love the opportunity to make a lot of money to give my kids a better life but if I was given the chance to go into BB and was assured the £100grand prize I still couldn't do it 3 months away from your babies (and however many weeks prior to BB) is too much.

Three months would be too young for me. I know it's a great opportunity bla bla bla, but those first few month are so important. I couldn't do it.

No fathers in their lives to look after them while mummy dear hunts for fickle fame.

My sons almost 12, and I couldn't contemplate leaving him for potentially 3 months.

No I don't like her, get her out so she can go back to her kids.

Some folk aren't maternal, fair enough. But to then say "My kids are my priority" and then potentially leave them for a few months is disgusting.

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Originally posted by Tartanveggie:
Some folk aren't maternal, fair enough. But to then say "My kids are my priority" and then potentially leave them for a few months is disgusting.

didnt she say she was doing this for her kids

of course you are

I am sure she has made arrangements for the children to be cared for. Maybe she just wants to give them a better life *shurgs*

Nothing could make me leave my kids for that long a time, however old they are or if they were with family members, n my eyes children of all ages need routine and stability and you can't provide that if your in the BB house.

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Originally posted by ~Orchid~:
I am sure she has made arrangements for the children to be cared for. Maybe she just wants to give them a better life *shurgs*

But I can't understand how material possessions, holidays etc could possibly compensate for their mother's love and attention for potentially 3 months

You can be completely penniless, with no TV, no holidays, no outings, second hand clothes, but still give your children a wonderful upbringing if you are there to give them the love, safety, security, and attention that they need. Nothing can compensate for that.

Just to play devils advocate, someone has alrady mentioned parents who work away, what if she had been offered a job in a company working away for up to three months, she could be gone one week and earn a grand, she could be gone three months and earn 1 hundred grand, would we still criticise her, is it just because this "job" is a reality tv show?

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Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
Just to play devils advocate, someone has alrady mentioned parents who work away, what if she had been offered a job in a company working away for up to three months, she could be gone one week and earn a grand, she could be gone three months and earn 1 hundred grand, would we still criticise her, is it just because this "job" is a reality tv show?

I know what you're saying Linds, but if I had a baby, there is no amount of money that would make me leave him, even for a week. Even one night away would just feel wrong. Babies have little routines and they thrive on them.

Saffia said on live feed last night her children are 1 years old and 7 years old. Just correcting from my first post. Thats still to young. She should be ashamed of herself leaving those young kids for possibly 13 weeks if she stays til the end

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Originally posted by Growlybear:

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Originally posted by ~Orchid~:
I am sure she has made arrangements for the children to be cared for. Maybe she just wants to give them a better life *shurgs*

But I can't understand how material possessions, holidays etc could possibly compensate for their mother's love and attention for potentially 3 months

You can be completely penniless, with no TV, no holidays, no outings, second hand clothes, but still give your children a wonderful upbringing if you are there to give them the love, safety, security, and attention that they need. Nothing can compensate for that.

Completely agree.

You can't give your child a better gift than giving them the best possible start in life

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Originally posted by Tartanveggie:
Some folk aren't maternal, fair enough. But to then say "My kids are my priority" and then potentially leave them for a few months is disgusting.

i'm not maternal but i wouldn't leave my daughter for that long. you don't have to be 'wonder earth mother' to feel a duty of care to your kids.

When my daughter was 10 months old and the OH was working away, I would have loved a break, but for 2weeks max. No way could I have left her for 3 months

Ladies, Ladies maybe she has a network of relatives who can take care of her kids... I dont blame her for going in, its a recession and if she can make some ££££s then she should...

Army Mum's. Thats all I have to say.

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Originally posted by Growlybear:
She said last night that they've got different dads. So if the ARE with their fathers, the two children would be apart from each other as well as their mother!

I agree

Long time no see growlybear

[QUOTE]Originally posted by pretty~cocoa~eyes:
Ladies, Ladies maybe she has a network of relatives who can take care of her kids...

Just not the same imo, especially for the raelly little one

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Originally posted by pretty~cocoa~eyes:
Ladies, Ladies maybe she has a network of relatives who can take care of her kids... I dont blame her for going in, its a recession and if she can make some ££££s then she should...

I agree. I'm sure she hasn't left them home alone somewhere, she may not be in the full 3mths, and i imagine she's seeing it as an investment for the future.

I don't even particularly like her, but I like even less the snappy judgemental attitudes of some people.

I wont run her down but i will add i could have never left my kids that long but thats me