Suffia left her young children to go on Big Brother. Do you think this is right. Her children are only 7 years old and 10 months old. I dont think a mother should do this. Your thoughts?
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It's not surprising, with an emotionless personality like that.
I don't like her at all ................maybe it's the fact that she's left her kids ....the fathers aren't around after all. Don't know what it is but I reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeely am not liking her at all.
This crops up every year. I think that the older child might be able to understand that her Mum is away for a bit and might come back but the baby wouldn't.
I am not a mother though so don't feel qualified to say.
I am not a mother though so don't feel qualified to say.
Her youngest was only 7 months.... 
Hmm...not too sure.If was the the seven year old maybe,but definitely not a seven month old babe.No doubt she'll be called all sorts anyway.
quote:Originally posted by Baz:quote:Originally posted by Soozy woo:
I don't like her at all ................maybe it's the fact that she's left her kids ....the fathers aren't around after all. Don't know what it is but I reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeely am not liking her at all.
Ditto
Double ditto
quote:Originally posted by ozzycam:
Her youngest was only 7 months....
I think that was during the interviews ...........the baby is now 10 months old as I understand. What the hell ........it's a baby - TBH - I couldn't have left my kids at that age ....nor would I have wanted to.
No ... it's not right ... and I don't see any grey areas with this ... 
Its like kids going away to summer camp.
Parents are split up from their kids but they send them to them anyway as it is good for their character building.
Similarly if the parents can make a lot of money and a career from a kind of a summer camp then it can also change the lifestyles of their offspring too.
Parents are split up from their kids but they send them to them anyway as it is good for their character building.
Similarly if the parents can make a lot of money and a career from a kind of a summer camp then it can also change the lifestyles of their offspring too.
quote:Originally posted by Shar:
No ... it's not right ... and I don't see any grey areas with this ...
I agree Shar.
I don't have kids, but can't imagine I'd want to leave such a young baby.
I think her children are 5 and 7 months old considering they could be in the house for three months not something I would do but each to their own.
quote:Originally posted by stupidcupid:
Its like kids going away to summer camp.
Parents are split up from their kids but they send them to them anyway as it is good for their character building.
Similarly if the parents can make a lot of money and a career from a kind of a summer camp then it can also change the lifestyles of their offspring too.
Never heard of sending a 10 month old off to summer camp TBH.
Leaving a 10 month old baby think that is beyond unforgiveable.. It says on the BB website she considers herself a fantastic mum 
think that is beyond unforgiveable.. It says on the BB website she considers herself a fantastic mum 
It depends - If I like her, which is doubtful, then I'll think she's doing it for the right reasons, and if I dislike her, then I'll be pleased for the kids that they get a break from her. 
They might be with their Dad for three months. Still the baby will miss Mum but if they are with their Dad then maybe it might be alright.
Right is the babe 6,7 8,9,10 months old?No matter still needs his mammy.
I had a friend who left her daughter for 6 weeks when she was 9 months old. She left her with her Mum (babies gran), to go 'backpacking'!
She admits now (some 15 yrs later) that is was wrong to do it. She reckons that when she got back.. and her baby daughter saw her... her daughter burst into tears and had obviously thought she was never going to see her mum again!
She admits now (some 15 yrs later) that is was wrong to do it. She reckons that when she got back.. and her baby daughter saw her... her daughter burst into tears and had obviously thought she was never going to see her mum again!
Like I said, I am not a Mum so not qualified to comment but I know that my friends who are Mums wouldn't dream of it,for their own sake as well as the babys.
quote:Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
I had a friend who left her daughter for 6 weeks when she was 9 months old. She left her with her Mum (babies gran), to go 'backpacking'!
She admits now (some 15 yrs later) that is was wrong to do it. She reckons that when she got back.. and her baby daughter saw her... her daughter burst into tears and had obviously thought she was never going to see her mum again!
Did the relationship ever recover Ditty?...Sounds like a recipe for attachment disorder to me
quote:Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
I had a friend who left her daughter for 6 weeks when she was 9 months old. She left her with her Mum (babies gran), to go 'backpacking'!
She admits now (some 15 yrs later) that is was wrong to do it. She reckons that when she got back.. and her baby daughter saw her... her daughter burst into tears and had obviously thought she was never going to see her mum again!
That's so sad. I know I'm old fashioned but .................i could never leave my kids at that age. who knows what inpression it leaves on them? Potentially she could be gone for 14 weeks - that's a hell of a long time in a baby's life.
I really hope her children dont suffer with their mum being away so long
quote:Originally posted by Blizzie:
It depends - If I like her, which is doubtful, then I'll think she's doing it for the right reasons, and if I dislike her, then I'll be pleased for the kids that they get a break from her.
Hahahahaha
It'll give her an excuse to walk if it's not going well for her...the old "I miss my kids" line....just can't believe anyone could leave a babe for potentially that long, possibly miss their 1st birthday etc. Unlikely 'though - predict she'll be out pretty quick
quote:Originally posted by Supercalifragilistic:quote:Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
I had a friend who left her daughter for 6 weeks when she was 9 months old. She left her with her Mum (babies gran), to go 'backpacking'!
She admits now (some 15 yrs later) that is was wrong to do it. She reckons that when she got back.. and her baby daughter saw her... her daughter burst into tears and had obviously thought she was never going to see her mum again!
Did the relationship ever recover Ditty?...Sounds like a recipe for attachment disorder to me
Yeah.. kinda. My friend was very young when she had her daughter... and brought her up on her own.. so yes they were close. Different relationship to most mother daughter relationships. (the bond between the grandmother and granddaughter continued as well)
She took her off to India for a year when she was 12 (a life experience being as good as a years education apparently)... my friend is a hippy at heart.
The daughter has grown up a good kid and is now a lovely young woman, as I said its just a very different relationship to most.
quote:Originally posted by Soozy woo:quote:Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
I had a friend who left her daughter for 6 weeks when she was 9 months old. She left her with her Mum (babies gran), to go 'backpacking'!
She admits now (some 15 yrs later) that is was wrong to do it. She reckons that when she got back.. and her baby daughter saw her... her daughter burst into tears and had obviously thought she was never going to see her mum again!
That's so sad. I know I'm old fashioned but .................i could never leave my kids at that age. who knows what inpression it leaves on them? Potentially she could be gone for 14 weeks - that's a hell of a long time in a baby's life.
I couldn't have done it either... and my friend knew I was shocked when it happened.
quote:Originally posted by Soozy woo:
That's so sad. I know I'm old fashioned but .................i could never leave my kids at that age. who knows what inpression it leaves on them? Potentially she could be gone for 14 weeks - that's a hell of a long time in a baby's life.
oh, and for what its worth... I don't think its about being old fashioned really... more to do with how committed you are as a mum, in my opinion. The moment I laid eyes on my baby all my wants and needs became very secondary to hers.
I took a dislike to her BEFORE she even mentioned she had children. From what she said she doesn't like many people, she could end up with not many liking her, what you put out you get back
quote:Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:quote:Originally posted by Soozy woo:
That's so sad. I know I'm old fashioned but .................i could never leave my kids at that age. who knows what inpression it leaves on them? Potentially she could be gone for 14 weeks - that's a hell of a long time in a baby's life.
Me too .............. still like that now with my grand kids .....can't even begin to tell you buyt I get withdrawl if I dont see them for a couple of days.
oh, and for what its worth... I don't think its about being old fashioned really... more to do with how committed you are as a mum, in my opinion. The moment I laid eyes on my baby all my wants and needs became very secondary to hers.
Its never going to go well for you when you start out by saying "I am not a nice person"
Didn't that sour faced Jen last year bleat on about leaving her kid,'till she spotted slack jawed Dale and his taller tandem partner Stu.
quote:Originally posted by Lindsxdx:
Its never going to go well for you when you start out by saying "I am not a nice person"
That's so true. I'd forgotten she said that ............why would anyone say that about themselves? Very, very odd .......really have taken an extreme dislike to her TBH.
quote:Originally posted by kattymieoww:
Didn't that sour faced Jen last year bleat on about leaving her kid,'till she spotted slack jawed Dale and his taller tandem partner Stu.
Kinda... then she shut up about her kid.. cos of her male fan club... but did mention she missed her dog!
Yeah, why leave your kids behind then bleat on about missing them, nobodies fault but her own, couldn't stand Jen for her mother teresa attitude. She thought that just by being a Mum it made her some kind of saint, takes a bit more than that, selfish bigot that one, worst female HM ever 
Mothers shouldnt leave their kids to go on realty tv shows. Its just not right
Nothing in the world would have taken me away from my baby when she was 10 months old or for that a 7 year old, i would say you can explain to a 7 year old and it would be ok for a couple of weeks at most, but not all summer long, it's dam cruel, that poor Baby will be looking around for her Mummy at that age, as you gather i don't think much of her for doing it
Everyone is different I guess but personally I could never have left my baby and gone into the house and I don't know anyone else that would have either
I'm not a mum yet but I have no idea why anyone would want to miss out on what could potentially be a massive chunk of your baby's first months. Sorry but the way I see it if you have a baby then its needs should be put above your own wants.