how horrible

Oh no how sad

Poor lad must have been desperate to this.

My uncle took his own life and it shocked our family to the core but for a young person to do this is just so tragic.

Hope your stepson doesn't get too affected by this. My step nephew has just been diagnosed with aspergers.

Hugs and thoughts and prayers for the family.

That's terrible

Very,very sad

Hope your son is OK.. Wonder what made the poor lad do it ? Thats awful.

i tell you what
the day just gets bloody worse
the lads dad and bro turned up at the pub,there was about 80 lads and girls, so they wanted to say thanks for the support-bearing in mind theyre in bits and the mom has to identify her lads body at 4pm
loads of black lads turned up-his mates (my step son is mixed race) and they all share the same group of friends
two 'big' men have turned up cos they know where to find each other and there was an almighty fight involving knives
it was a f*ckin running battle up the street, the poor dead lads dad had to run in the middle and stop it-saying he'd just lost his son etc..
the cops turned up
what a nightmare!
this lad was respectable and these arseholes are using his death to fight cos there was a 'lack of respect'
bastards

OMG charmer, the whole thing is just so awful! As for people turning up to cause trouble, they make me feel sick!!!!

...as if the lads family & friends don't already have enough on their plate...words fail me!

quote:

Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:
OMG charmer, the whole thing is just so awful! As for people turning up to cause trouble, they make me feel sick!!!!

...as if the lads family & friends don't already have enough on their plate...words fail me!

words fail me D.I.D.
the cops turned up and no one would say a thing!
i cant believe it
OH and step son are still there, my step son wont leave so OH is staying
what do i do?
how about if some twat does a drive by shooting?
she wont come home and i cant drag her

Sounds like a really crap 24 hours all round for you and yours, charmer

quote:

Originally posted by evviva!:
Sounds like a really crap 24 hours all round for you and yours, charmer

im pissed off
we dont live in no 'ghetto' land
fancy bringing your problems to a get together for a young lad who's just died-i just dont get it

Bloody hell.

for all of this, the entire thing is just awful.

And people turning up to cause trouble? What the hell is wrong with people?

Very little surprises me, charmer. If people are feckers by nature, then they will usually just go ahead and be feckers in any given situation

Don't be getting yourself involved. Just be there for your OH & stepson.. Hope things get a little easier for you soon.

quote:

Originally posted by charmer:
i tell you what
the day just gets bloody worse
the lads dad and bro turned up at the pub,there was about 80 lads and girls, so they wanted to say thanks for the support-bearing in mind theyre in bits and the mom has to identify her lads body at 4pm
loads of black lads turned up-his mates (my step son is mixed race) and they all share the same group of friends
two 'big' men have turned up cos they know where to find each other and there was an almighty fight involving knives
it was a f*ckin running battle up the street, the poor dead lads dad had to run in the middle and stop it-saying he'd just lost his son etc..
the cops turned up
what a nightmare!
this lad was respectable and these arseholes are using his death to fight cos there was a 'lack of respect'
bastards

omg thats so frightening, i cant bare things like that,
is your son ok charmer?

thats just awful Charmer, some people just have no respect whatsoever . Thoughts with the boys family and friends though.

you i know i said no one would give info to the police?
i just phoned 'em up
and told 'em all that i witnessed (about the attempted stabbing)
i asked that they dont bother me after, they said'you havent give us your name' i said youve got my bloody phone number!
they reckon they wont bother me, they just want the info
did i do right?
am i a grass?
if it was different circumstances i wouldnt have said a word
am i right in what ive done?

I think you did the right thing.

And I'm so sorry for your step son, it's just awful, hope he copes with all this ok.

I also think you did the right thing!

quote:

Originally posted by Veggieburger:
Young lads are most at risk of suicide - it's because they can't/don't talk about the things that are worrying them.

Too true. Adolescence for lads is a strange time.

When I was a student, I ended up sitting on a window ledge 15 storeys up deciding whether to push myself off. Basically, I was young, gay, very alone, and seeing no future when being gay wasn't as acceptable and family expectations pointed at marriage and kids. I'm glad I didn't now. The only thing that stopped me was the likely impact on my family.

The son of a work colleague of my mum's shot himself in his parent's bedroom aged 17 because the academic expectations of his private school and his parents were too high and presumably his approaching A levels were very stressful. It destroyed his parents - sent his mother a bit nutty for years, really. Very sad, that one.

Yes Charmer you did the right thing. How disrespectful of those people!

If I cdan give you any advice it's this: Gather your OHs son and his mates round and tell them to look at thedamage this one persons suicide has done. Tell them to look at the greif of the boys parents, relatives and each of his friends standing in that room and then ask them to think about what kind of devastation would happen if another mate were to try it. Tell them even though they are grown men it's ok to talk to someone if they are feeling down and maybe that will help them cope a little better.

Someone I know hung themselves 2 years ago and the effect its had on his family has been horrendous, I hope your OHs son and the boys family will come through this ok

What a disaster Charmer, I feel so bad for your lad. You're just gonna love him all you can, poor fella

quote:

Gather your OHs son and his mates round and tell them to look at thedamage this one persons suicide has done. Tell them to look at the greif of the boys parents, relatives and each of his friends standing in that room and then ask them to think about what kind of devastation would happen if another mate were to try it.

Good idea Ella, kids will be devastated and not thinking right. Bless ya.

quote:

When I was a student, I ended up sitting on a window ledge 15 storeys up deciding whether to push myself off. Basically, I was young, gay, very alone, and seeing no future when being gay wasn't as acceptable and family expectations pointed at marriage and kids. I'm glad I didn't now. The only thing that stopped me was the likely impact on my family.

And that's it, a momentary decision can change the world. My brother hung himself with his dog lead at 27. I could still kick the stupid stupid twat's arse

That poor lad's mother

heartfelt to all in this thread

God bless.

quote:

Originally posted by fracas:
What a disaster Charmer, I feel so bad for your lad. You're just gonna love him all you can, poor fella

quote:

Gather your OHs son and his mates round and tell them to look at thedamage this one persons suicide has done. Tell them to look at the greif of the boys parents, relatives and each of his friends standing in that room and then ask them to think about what kind of devastation would happen if another mate were to try it.

Good idea Ella, kids will be devastated and not thinking right. Bless ya.

quote:

When I was a student, I ended up sitting on a window ledge 15 storeys up deciding whether to push myself off. Basically, I was young, gay, very alone, and seeing no future when being gay wasn't as acceptable and family expectations pointed at marriage and kids. I'm glad I didn't now. The only thing that stopped me was the likely impact on my family.

And that's it, a momentary decision can change the world. My brother hung himself with his dog lead at 27. I could still kick the stupid stupid twat's arse

That poor lad's mother

quote:

Originally posted by charmer:

quote:

Originally posted by fracas:
What a disaster Charmer, I feel so bad for your lad. You're just gonna love him all you can, poor fella

quote:

Gather your OHs son and his mates round and tell them to look at thedamage this one persons suicide has done. Tell them to look at the greif of the boys parents, relatives and each of his friends standing in that room and then ask them to think about what kind of devastation would happen if another mate were to try it.

Good idea Ella, kids will be devastated and not thinking right. Bless ya.

quote:

When I was a student, I ended up sitting on a window ledge 15 storeys up deciding whether to push myself off. Basically, I was young, gay, very alone, and seeing no future when being gay wasn't as acceptable and family expectations pointed at marriage and kids. I'm glad I didn't now. The only thing that stopped me was the likely impact on my family.

And that's it, a momentary decision can change the world. My brother hung himself with his dog lead at 27. I could still kick the stupid stupid twat's arse

That poor lad's mother

your bro did that?
you know, thats how i feel, if it was this time a few hours back, id grab the little sod and tell him not to be so stupid
sorry about your bro

Oh good Lord fracas

My thoughts are with you.

quote:

you know, thats how i feel, if it was this time a few hours back, id grab the little sod and tell him not to be so stupid

I know, and it's all too bloody late, silly silly lad

quote:

sorry about your bro

Aye, me too. Sorry for your loss

quote:

Oh good Lord fracas

Silly sod. When I get to the other side I'm gonna give him SUCH a dirty look.

Grrrr.

oh fracas - you remind me of my friend whose brother hung himself.

She is gonna whoop his arse when she catches up with him, for all the hurt and upset he caused.

He did is about 20 years ago - the family is still fractured.

fracas, charmer and anyone else affected

still it coulda been worse today
these arseholes were out to kill each other-whats all this bollox about 'respect'?
if these people hadnt have ran so fast it could have been a stab fest-why?
sometimes it makes you wanna give up
im sooooo pissed off-i could bloody cry
cry for the lad that topped himself
and cry for the way these other 'you must respect me' wankers just invaded today
it makes you feel like the cops should back off till the little bastards have wiped each other out

for fracas, charmer's stepson and everyone else who has lost a loved one by suicide

a friend of mine from school commited suicide a few years ago, he did it whilst petsitting for his best mate who was in australia. his mum reported him missing when he didn't come home one night and the police searched his mates house, found the cat food bowl piled high with food. but didn't find him. week later they searched house again and found him in the garden (they didn't look there before). his mum is still in bits now and adamant he was murdered, despite a letter
he was just 20...

i saw him about a month before he died, in the pub. he fancied me at school but i never felt the same...but when i saw him in the pub, and he smiled and me and started to walk over, i got all flustered and hid in the loos

quote:

Originally posted by charmer:
still it coulda been worse today
these arseholes were out to kill each other-whats all this bollox about 'respect'?
if these people hadnt have ran so fast it could have been a stab fest-why?
sometimes it makes you wanna give up
im sooooo pissed off-i could bloody cry

None of it makes any sense. The world is just ****ed up sometimes. And ****ing unfair.

Big big hugs and lots of love to you mate. I'll be thinking of you (and I mean it mate)