Well done for losing the weight CC......and good edit at the end there

They are the same type of helpful souls who point to your lip/face and say "you've got a cold sore/spot"  Oh have I? I hadn't noticed  *wanders off mumbling to lamp posts and shouting at strangers*

There's other weird things in this here waters too

Yes it is bloody horrid when folk point out you have put weight on, and like I said, I would never ever ever comment, even though I have had people say stuff to me in the past.  Karma has sorted that, by making them fatter than me now!  I don't know WHY people feel they HAVE to tell you you are putting on weight... do they think they're doing you a favour???  Thing is, as i mentioned earlier, people do comment a lot on how I have LOST weight now, so I guess you do have to take the rough with the smooth in life...

Indeedy *funny handshake*

Ohhhhh you can always count on Karma to right them wrongs no matter how long it takes 

Cockney Chick - I think I love you! Brilliant post from you my dear And well bloody done on losing the weight, I know you dont want congrats but you're gonna get em so put up and shuddup

My weight goes up and down like a whore's draws, losing weight at the mo but the lils are getting bigger and I hate it. Thank feck I didn't get a tattoo of a swallow on my boob when I was younger cos it would look like a nuclear missile by now .
I'm banned from exercise right now but even if I was allowed you would NOT see me pounding the pavements doing marathons at 6am for the good of my health. There are just some things I wouldn't even do for charity.

The thing to remember is size 8 and perfect doesn't suit everyone. Look at the state of Victoria Beckham ffs. I've seen Jordan a few times and the only reason her top half looks ok is cos of her fake lils. The bottom half of her looks anorexic. I'd rather have my footballers legs ta very much!

Ah well, never mind, suppose everything can have a downside

Thanks Karma, I was afraid that someone would say 'oh you pious cow, all smart and 'up-yerself,' coz you lost weight..' as I have mentioned this on forums a couple of times before and gotten some really rude remarks...from people who can't lose weight and say they don't over-eat or anything...  saying stuff like 'you are SOOOOO superior aren't you???  with your AMAZING weight loss!!!  just be careful you don't END UP FAT AGAIN!!!!' and other rants


I did actually put on the end of the post when I first put it...'if people have a problem with my views, that's their problem, because they're just my views' as I was expecting some snotty remarks .. then I thought that sounded a bit rude and I was inviting conflict before anyone had even read the post!  LOL!  So I changed it after 5 minutes or so, and I actually do mean it, (what I edited it to...) I really don't mean offence...I am just giving my views and thoughts.

CC, are you telling me people were having a go at you cos you managed to achieve something that by all accounts, is bloody hard to do?!  My God, there really are some sick, envious people out there. Obviously not at all comfortable in their own skin, they need help

I can't think of anyone on here who would put you down for that tbh. F**k the jealous lot who wanna knock your mojo, don't even give them headspace cos clearly they aint very well

Cockney Chick, I love what you've written.  Well said and anyone who would consider you pious, needs their bumps feeling. You have eloquently put how I feel about Joise, for me its not even her weight, but her slovenly ways. It's just off-putting and in fact, sad to see how she has let her self go (IMO) I congratulate you on loosing your weight, I'm sure it wasn't easy, but you have done it and I genuinely hope you're enjoying life at your personal best Well done

Nice post CC and well done on losing the weight, good for you

Thanks Karma.    Yes, I did get people having a go because of an achievement I was quite proud of.  Most seem quite supportive and pleased, but there have been a few who are quite nasty, and try and put me down and tried to make me feel I was 'full of myself' when i was just sharing my story.  I know people who have lost weight can be annoying 'diet-bores,' but I only mention it, if the subject of weight comes up.  Going back to the original post; I do think that naturally, people who are fat will get upset by fat comments aimed at others...but as I said, I have had lots of comments about 'losing' weight, so I can't complain, but then again, I wish people wouldn't comment when you put weight on, because they must know it's offensive.

Thank you Kaytee and Fairfax; you're all very sweet here.  Not at all like other forms I have been on LOL! 

Gotta go now... need to go get some shopping.  Take care everyone. 

I suppose it depends on what the individual who is doing the name-calling has been through themselves. We all have something we don't like about ourselves, and/ or a situation we've been through that is sensitive. Every one of us has something that will push that button. And quite often, what we hate about ourselves is what some others desire to have. Like the thing about my lils (sorry it's the best example I can think of) I was talking to my very tall, very pretty, very slim friend about it and she's telling me to stop moaning cos she would love not to look like an ironing board and wishes her feet weren't like paddles! I then went on to remind her she's got legs like a giraffe but she doesn't see what I and others see. Sure, she knows how to 'sell' her good points, but her brain emphasies on the negatives she feels about herself. And she also finds it difficult to gain weight and hates it, whereas if she loses more than 7lbs she feels she starts to look anorexic and gaunt, so it can be very much a 2 way street.

great post Cockney chick .. and well done on your personal  achievement... 

That's what I like about this place, over C4,   people can post lengthy and excellent observations without some troll coming in and saying 'too long to read'  . .that used to really get my goat on the C4 forums. .normally was when school was on hols but not always.. .     and being more a reader than a poster I like the longer well thought out stuff.. 

CC, I really do think that I'd have the same reaction if I was fat or thin, and believe me I've been both on several occasions... the upside being if any of my friends put on or lose weight I've got good wardrobes of clothes ranging from a size 10-18

Well done on your weight loss Cockernee Chick

Tis the problem for a lot of peeps I think

imo, the only thing to do if you feel embarrassed  about your weight is:  do something about it .... no point in moaning about it all the time.

the problem is if you're unhappy with your weight and it gives you confidence issues/self esteem issues etc........you then become embroiled in the vicious circle of comfort eating.........you're unhappy so you eat....you know you shouldn't but it's your comfort blanket.....it's hard to break the circle........i think josie was aware that the other girls in there were alot slimmer than her from the beginning......she kept saying 'i'm doing it for the big girls'..........then dave made the massive man mistake of guessing her dress size wrong.......and i think that knocked her even more.....so she ate for comfort cos in her head it would 'make her feel better'.......then she feels bad.....so then she eats again......

i personally don't think there's anything wrong with her size.....its a bit sad i think when you see pics in the paper or magazines of celebs ...particularly women with the caption of ....'so and so balloons to a size 14' followed by some other insult.........no wonder  so many girls have eating disorders when they're constantly told that anything over a size 10-12 is huge and unattractive

oooo i had my serious head on there!!

Really good post Ms SpongeRobert!

why fankooooo leccy xxxx.....

a mate of mine had a gastric band fitted a while ago........she'd tried every diet going......she'd be inspired....someone would call her fat on a night out or insult her.....and she'd be comfort eating in no time.........it's really hard to get out of it.......it's not as easy as some people think to just 'eat less and exercise more'......for some people it's a whole different matter.......food is an addiction......so before you can even start a 'eat less/exercise' regime...you gotta get past the mental addiction to food

I know someone who had a gastric bypass, it changed her life, she could have the kneee op she wasn't allowed to have before becasue of her weight, She trained as a TA...she works with disturbed kids now.  She'd never have been able to do that before.

Like when Sophie (last year's winner) had "ballooned from a size 6 to a size 10" She's still only size 10 FFS

A lot of the housemates are nasty and judgemental too 

Exactly velvet. Just for starters...it was Sam who called Josie Miss Piggy

Hello you 

Great post Cockney Chick, I enjoyed reading your thoughts and feelings on that as someone who has been a larger Lady...

A point you made got me thinking. You mentioned that larger people get fed up about their weight and then comfort eat even though they know it will make them feel worse in the long run, but it's a kind of cycle....

...I'm not ashamed to say, that for many years, from my teens to my late twenties I went the other way. I was anoroxic, although at the time I would never have admitted it...it's only now I can. I am 5ft 7 and weighed 5st 6 at my lowest weight....

Anorexia is more mental than about the weight, it's hard to explain as I really didn't realise at the time what I was doing, not eating....it was probably the only thing I could control in my life at the time (looking back I can see this now) and I was very unhappy for various reasons......i don't want to bore folks, but whenever anyone asks me what my biggest achievement it life has been so far...that's easy...beating anorexia all by myself

I am now a healthy size 10/12 and folks who haven't seen me for years comment on how well & healthy I look 'now you've put weight on'...I won't lie and say that comment doesn't stab slightly at me BUT, I know I AM healthy and eat healthy food (and junk food), and cannot believe I wasted all those years of my life doing what I did as this is probably my natural weight anyway.....I don't think it ever completely goes away, but now I have learned to be happy with what I've got, wobbly bits, cellulite, the lot....

I hope I've not bored you all to death, lol, I know it's different than losing lots of weight, but it' is about body image and low self-esteem and the love/ hate cycle it can create....

Hi Scotty  Hi Scotty   

   

And became the new Forum Hero!

DiDs xxxxx

Josie and John James...

There you go.

No way DID,  v well done, it must have been sooooo hard

That'll be Sam with the manly physique to die for will it! 
(Admits to calling him Pepperoni!)

Then the forum went back to normal....and they all lived happily ever after  Great post Cockney Chick 
I still think this place is nothing like the old C4 place when it comes to BB vileness. I'm quite confident in real life, but that place felt intimidating to me at times.