YEP ELLA your right - i never knew it was just for an hour wen i first heard
BUT why wud she go to see them and never tell me?

TRIXY i'm protesting over the deciet, she aint in the mood to socialise then goes out, never tells me,etc...

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Originally posted by RENTON:
TRIXY i'm protesting over the deciet, she aint in the mood to socialise then goes out, never tells me,etc...

Do you know if it was definately her that set up the meeting? Or was it one of the mutual friends- maybe if they caught her at the right moment it was just the thing she needed. I'm not saying that she should lie to you but I'm saying I can see why she does after your reaction.

well my twopenneth on renton's friend situation.....

jesus....give the girl some space!!!....reading yesterday...and today....you're not letting her breathe!......so she met some mates and didn't invite you...it's not the end of the world...busting her chops over it and rowing on why you weren't invited makes you appear clingy and needy.....the poor girl's marriage is breaking down....her head is probably all over the shop....with more important things to think about than how you'd feel by not being invited....give her the benefit of the doubt!.

if you're going to relay to her things you've said on here...like 'i don't know if i can trust her now'...then she'll probably run a mile....from the outside...it seems you're pushing too much renton....stand back...let her breathe...and see what happens....cos if you keep on and on....you'll be pushed further away


just let her know you're there for her SHOULD she need you....and if she doesn't for a while...then that's fine too....

don't keep trying to force the issue.

TRIXY I aint ever reacted like this before
See . . .she sed she wanted to keep away from them due to their bitching and trouble making - then meets them!!!
I was stunned she then met them after sayin she wanted nothing to do with thwm
Which makes me feel she has a whole diferent agenda going on to wot she says

Thanx Spongey - i will bear (sp?) that in mind
I dunno if i am pushy cos we have barely spoke in 2 weeks cos she sed she wasn't in a social mood
Then she goes out .. but maybe it was just a "Just wot i need moment"

One other thing - she wud have to travel about 5 miles to meet them so she was willing to put the effort in for them - and never mention it to me

hi all, nevermind RENTON

It definately sounds like a just what I need moment
I agree with spongey
Back down, let her know you are there if you are needed and let her work out what she needs to be doing

Hi funky

One other thing - we hadn't chatted much in 2 weeks, sed she wasn't in much of a mood to socialise, wasn't responding to many of my texts
Which i thought was due to personal problems
Then ... goes out with others and keeps it from me in our future chats
Aint that odd to you lot?

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Originally posted by RENTON:
Thanx Spongey - i will bear (sp?) that in mind
I dunno if i am pushy cos we have barely spoke in 2 weeks cos she sed she wasn't in a social mood
Then she goes out .. but maybe it was just a "Just wot i need moment"

pushy in the sense that you're on her case about this meeting you weren't invited too....i really think you need to step back.....let her sort her head out.....let her know you're there should she need you...

if you keep on at her...i suspect she'll become more withdrawn from you....cos it seems you want to be there for her too much....a little space may be needed.....not on her case over a quick drink with some friends

RENTON my best friend has not wanted to know me since 23rd Dec 07 and he really hates me he still really hates

hi Trix-ster

hi sponge

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Originally posted by RENTON:
One other thing - we hadn't chatted much in 2 weeks, sed she wasn't in much of a mood to socialise, wasn't responding to many of my texts
Which i thought was due to personal problems
Then ... goes out with others and keeps it from me in our future chats
Aint that odd to you lot?

no.....sorry renton......but i think (from what you've said yesterday and today)....she just wanted space....not a bombardment of txts etc....

and maybe she knew your reaction would be ott....that's why she never told you.....

trix....xxxxxxx

funky xxxxxxx......read your thread the other day.....you ok now???.....

No
To me that is exactly what you've been saying before and I've already told you I don't find that odd the lack of reply to texts may just be because shes getting annoyed having told you that she wants space and you are still messaging her.

You remind me of a person I know Renton, especially when I saw the things you were saying to the women in the bad boys thread. He is very possessive and he gets annoyed by the smallest things, like if you don't text back straight away then you get about 5 more...if you don't answer your phone then you get a rant over voicemail...I told him that I couldn't meet up with him until the end of exams, so instead he showed up at my house and he got annoyed when I went out with my flatmates. It drove me mad and right now I'm taking a break from speaking to him because if I was busy and we were chatting over facebook he would think I was in a mood with him- no I was revising.

i just find her actions questionable
For her not to even mention it in passing makes me feel like she was hiding it.
She sed she was surprised at my reaction wen i found out - so she didn't hide it cos she thought i'd be upset, hmmm

I wnated to know why my best friend ditched me and I still ain't found out all this time and months and motnhs go by without me trying to contacthim

I feel anothe rdream about him coming on one of these nights I'm telling you, lol

I really do appreciate everyone's advice - cheers

Last night she called and couldn't hav been nicer - inviting me out, bit charitable i felt
But then i thought .... well she didn't hav to chat, invite or anything did she

Its obvious she didn't want to upset you renton, so just let it be now, if she invites you out, go.

my best friend just plain blanks me and has been for nearly a year and a half now so unfair and I did nothing wrong.

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Originally posted by RENTON:
i just find her actions questionable
For her not to even mention it in passing makes me feel like she was hiding it.
She sed she was surprised at my reaction wen i found out - so she didn't hide it cos she thought i'd be upset, hmmm

to put it bluntly.....she's not your wife...she's not your girlfriend.....she's a friend.....she doesn't need to run by you everything she does....or seek permission from you on who she sees or where she goes....(not that she should do that even if you were in a relationship)

i'm sorry but the way you're going on about it....if i were her i'd be running for the hills.....

if you want to stay friends with her.....stop being so demanding and back off

she's done nothing wrong....but you're turning it into a problem that doesn't have to be one.

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Originally posted by RENTON:
I really do appreciate everyone's advice - cheers

Last night she called and couldn't hav been nicer - inviting me out, bit charitable i felt
But then i thought .... well she didn't hav to chat, invite or anything did she

exactly......put it behind you and move on....or you'll spoil a friendship.

Well we smothed it out last night - i sent several text apologises first
We are ok now and i told her if i had been her i wud hav told me to bugger off
So she has been lovely and i have learned

Ok ok - hint taken - me stop now - cheers!!

thank god for that.........

Morning

awwww sorry - next time i'll take it to the one and only Relationships thread
I think Astoria wud be proud of my rants, lol

Hello JENSEN ((hug)))

Hey Renton

You ok ?

I'm fine thanks How are you?

Much better thanx - made up with my frend after our arguement - so feeling ok
And jobs are on the horizon too

Thats good

Wot you up to ?

I'm about to go onto my forum .. do a bit of work on it.

. . . erm, ok then

i shud take a look sometime wen i'm feeling all smutty, lol

THought you only read that stuff or are you contributing too now?

His hand moved onto my thigh - i knew wot was coming. I pushed him away eventhough i wanted him to.