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Originally posted by RENTON:
Hello ELLA

I'm fine - just woke after a late night heart to heart with my gorgeous mate. i shud save it for the Relationships thread

I had Martini last night - so i don't feel tooo bad
Wots your tiple??


I had some vodka but didn't drink much and was in bed just after midnight. Might have to make up for that tonight Thumbs Up

So tell us about this heart to heart?
Ells
Well i shud put my heart to heart in the Relationships thread so ...
Me and mate had hoooj argument for over 2hrs
in a nutshell she had been telling me she wasn't in any mood for socialising - i later discover she had been out with mutual aquantances and never told me.
We argued - turns out it was for an hour, impromtu and as i live 30miles away she thought i wouldn't go.
I still told her she's sayin one thing and doing another

Last night she called from work at 1am and we chatted and both apologised, she invited me out BUT
now i feel she is being charitable to keep me sweet
Saint
quote:
Originally posted by RENTON:
Well i shud put my heart to heart in the Relationships thread so ...
Me and mate had hoooj argument for over 2hrs
in a nutshell she had been telling me she wasn't in any mood for socialising - i later discover she had been out with mutual aquantances and never told me.
We argued - turns out it was for an hour, impromtu and as i live 30miles away she thought i wouldn't go.
I still told her she's sayin one thing and doing another

Last night she called from work at 1am and we chatted and both apologised, she invited me out BUT
now i feel she is being charitable to keep me sweet


Nod I know it sounds silly but I hate when my mates do that too. A wee phone call to invite you out wouldn't kill them would it? Even if they know you wont go anyway....courtesy, especially seeing as I bet you would invite your mate if it was the other way round?
Ells
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BUT the main problem is ... she never told me she had been anywhere even after the event during our chats - so i felt like she was hiding it


I can see you having the problem there Hug she should have told you. I wouldn't have given not inviting you a second thought (as horrible as that sounds but when I arrange to meet for coffee its with the people who are closest) but I wouldn't have kept it secret. That shows she knew you would be upset.
T
quote:
Originally posted by RENTON:
ELLA this is exactly wot i sed - a text - one text is all outta courtesy - see hav told her over and over that i want to put in the effort to keep in touch

BUT the main problem is ... she never told me she had been anywhere even after the event during our chats - so i felt like she was hiding it

Hi TRIXY


Same thing happened with me and best friend...she kept saying she didn't want to go to a certain club one night and when I asked why she just said she didn't like it. But later that night when our other mate insisted we go to the club my best friend then told me the real reason she didn't want to go in was because she hadd been the week before with 3 girls (who have made her sisters life hell and who do their best to pick a fight with me when we are out) and got involved in a brawl. I let it slide because I was drunk but when I thought about it afterwards I was fuming.
Ells
quote:
Originally posted by RENTON:
Well i shud put my heart to heart in the Relationships thread so ...
Me and mate had hoooj argument for over 2hrs
in a nutshell she had been telling me she wasn't in any mood for socialising - i later discover she had been out with mutual aquantances and never told me.
We argued - turns out it was for an hour, impromtu and as i live 30miles away she thought i wouldn't go.
I still told her she's sayin one thing and doing another

Last night she called from work at 1am and we chatted and both apologised, she invited me out BUT
now i feel she is being charitable to keep me sweet



renton, if a mate invited me for a coffee/drink which was on the spur of the moment, I would not dream of ringing someone I knew who lived 30 miles away to invite them too for an hour..it would be putting them in an awkward position and to expect a pal to travel 30 miles for a quick drink sounds absurd...try to look at it from the other side...would YOU ring someone up just as you decided to go out on spur of the moment, expect them to travel 30 miles for an hour? Valentine
BQ
quote:
Originally posted by RENTON:
HI BAGEL

"That shows she knew you wud have been upset" makes me feel even worse
it makes me feel she has done something - didn't want me there and thought of not talking about it cos she knew i wud protest

hmmmm can i trust her?


I do think you are making too big a deal out of ths. I don't think her not inviting you makes it seem like she didn't want you there- you were 30 miles away. Reading more into this it is possible she didn't tell you because she knew you would protest- because lets face it you are proving just that. In my eyes your friend did nothing wrong and you have overreacted meaning that time and time again the same sort of thing is going to keep happening
T

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