O/T: What would you do?? Insulted and fuming!!

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mummymaz

Ok I'm going to make this as easy for you to understand as possible - believe me its a long story !

My friend (we'll call her H) and her fella (call him W) split up over a year ago, he found a new gf (before they split up) and within 2 weeks she was pregnant with his child.

H & W were together for 5 years and obviously have the same friends, there was a period of bad atmosphere for a while but eventually they both got over it and got on fine.

Now F (the new gf) wants to start coming out with all of us (who are all friends, good friends with H) and basically a huge row has erupted and i have been involved in it somehow - i called W a chinless cnut and took take is no mark family aay from me after he said i was a sh1tsirring irish bint and a freak of nature.

(incase you are all wondering, we are all late 20's here, i am 30)

I then get a message from F (who i barely know) saying the following : -

why dont you fcuk off back to ireland and grow some potatoes you fat cow, maybe then you will lose some of that excess weight you like to carry around with you! you insult my bf i insult you got it??? now you have something else to bitch about over a box of chocolates

To which i sent a condescending message back to her showing her up for the child she is ... anyways she's now apologised for what she said but said that it was my own fault as i had said that about 'her family'... what do i do?? can anyone help??

Sorry this is so long ... xx

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justafriendMember

have you talked to your other friends hun?
are these txt messages you are getting? if so id give them the silent treatment, and not answer anymore until you have talked to others who are close to you.
im not good with bad situations, hope someone else on here can give you some good advice.

8/20/095:49 AM

TrollopMember

I would have a good bitch over another box of chocolates

8/20/095:53 AM

mummymazMember

thanks JAF!

They are on facebook (no good can come of that thing!!) - i've blocked her and she's sent her apology through her BF's account .. My friends have all said that she is out of order and they couldnt let it go if it were them but they are all still friends with her BF...

8/20/095:53 AM

mummymazMember

quote:
Originally posted by Trollop:
I would have a good bitch over another box of chocolates

To be perfectly honest she's bigger than me so she has a cheek ...

8/20/095:54 AM

AngelMember

Just search your heart and do what you feel is right Maz

I always think a good dose of restraint at a time like this, will serve you better in the long run ..... It's all too easy to get into slanging matches ...... Sometimes best to let the dust settle for a while & see how you feel later on

8/20/095:55 AM

LindsxdxMember

Ignore them. Don't get involved in a slanging match as if you say anything back the others close to you can stick up for them. Just blank her and at the most just be polite to him.

If she wants to get along with his friends she is going the complete wrong way about it. Just let her show herself up.

8/20/095:55 AM

justafriendMember

quote:
Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
thanks JAF!

They are on facebook (no good can come of that thing!!) - i've blocked her and she's sent her apology through her BF's account .. My friends have all said that she is out of order and they couldnt let it go if it were them but they are all still friends with her BF...

grrrrr at facebook thats why i closed mine to much hassle when you fall out with partners etc
their family friends drive ya mad.

id have a good chat with your close friends and hopefully he will say sorry for talking like that about you after being friends with him for so many years.
wish ya all the best hun.

8/20/095:56 AM

KayteeMember 10 years

quote:
Originally posted by Trollop:
I would have a good bitch over another box of chocolates

Me too Trollop

8/20/095:57 AM

TrollopMember

quote:
Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
quote:
Originally posted by Trollop:
I would have a good bitch over another box of chocolates

To be perfectly honest she's bigger than me so she has a cheek ...

Send her the chocolates, and bitch about her after shes eaten them then!

8/20/095:57 AM

jacksonbMember

your friends are shit maz, get some new ones.

8/20/095:58 AM

Hootie McBoob1Member

Get some new friends, that's my advice or better still, become a shut in

At least that way you never have to deal with other peoples shit

8/20/095:58 AM

Former Member

awwww maz, this is a really awkward situation

i would stay out of any slanging match cos your mutual friends will feel like they will have to take sides too - just blank them

sorry thats not much help

hope its all sorted soon

8/20/095:58 AM

MentalistMember

Did H mind if F started coming out with you. Maybe W thought that as he and his ex were getting on alright it wouldn't be a problem. On her part not a good idea to start alienating his group of friends but if she has apologised maybe you could take it on face value and see how it goes.

8/20/095:58 AM

spongebob squarepantsMember

tell her that if you wanted you could lose weight....but as there's no such thing as a personality transplant she's stuck with being a nasty bitch....

8/20/095:59 AM

TrollopMember

quote:
Originally posted by Kaytee:
quote:
Originally posted by Trollop:
I would have a good bitch over another box of chocolates

Me too Trollop

YAY!! Shall we drink wine and get pissed at the same time? Its only right! Rip 'em to shreds and fall asleep in a drunken stupor with chocolate all around our mouths

8/20/095:59 AM

Former Member

Refuse the invitation to go on Jeremy Kyle! Sorry to be so flippant, but that's what she reminds me of - those people who air their dirty linen on telly.

You can't blame her for wanting to share part of her BF's life, but you don't have to be part of it. Just tell them both no thanks and be done with it.

8/20/096:00 AM

TrollopMember

quote:
Originally posted by Suzi-Q:
Refuse the invitation to go on Jeremy Kyle! Sorry to be so flippant, but that's what she reminds me of - those people who air their dirty linen on telly.

You can't blame her for wanting to share part of her BF's life, but you don't have to be part of it. Just tell them both no thanks and be done with it.

Suzi I'm disappointed in you!

Not even a bit of hair pulling?

8/20/096:02 AM

LuxorMember

It does seem to get nasty when women have a bitching contest.
I much prefer a good smack in the mouth for settling disputes. Not that I condone such action in others you understand.
Mummy I would just ignore all other messages/texts and just be civil if you ever meet up.

8/20/096:02 AM

captain marblesMember

The fact that she's apologised, or been made to apologise, means that someone, and it's probably not her, values your friendship. It'll cost you nothing to be gracious about the matter without committing yourself to be her bestest buddy.

8/20/096:03 AM

DemantoidMember

Send her an empty choc box and say "Ta very much, me and H enjoyed that loads. Pity the cure to your shitty attitude doesn't come in a box."

And have nothing to do with the malicious cow ever again.

8/20/096:04 AM

LindsxdxMember

How does the ex feel about it?

8/20/096:04 AM

mummymazMember

quote:
Did H mind if F started coming out with you. Maybe W thought that as he and his ex were getting on alright it wouldn't be a problem. On her part not a good idea to start alienating his group of friends but if she has apologised maybe you could take it on face value and see how it goes.

Errm thats a whole other story! As H and W were still together when F came along - she's not really that willing to be 'friends' with her but has said she'll tolerate her somewhat

8/20/096:04 AM

TrollopMember

quote:
Originally posted by Demantoid:
Send her an empty choc box and say "Ta very much, me and H enjoyed that loads. Pity the cure to your shitty attitude doesn't come in a box."

And have nothing to do with the malicious cow ever again.

I'm never falling out with you

8/20/096:05 AM

KayteeMember 10 years

quote:
Originally posted by Trollop:
quote:
Originally posted by Kaytee:
quote:
Originally posted by Trollop:
I would have a good bitch over another box of chocolates

Me too Trollop

YAY!! Shall we drink wine and get pissed at the same time? Its only right! Rip 'em to shreds and fall asleep in a drunken stupor with chocolate all around our mouths

*gets diary out* I'm free!

8/20/096:05 AM

Hootie McBoob1Member

You could also shit through her letterbox

8/20/096:07 AM

longcatMember

quote:
Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
quote:
Did H mind if F started coming out with you. Maybe W thought that as he and his ex were getting on alright it wouldn't be a problem. On her part not a good idea to start alienating his group of friends but if she has apologised maybe you could take it on face value and see how it goes.

Errm thats a whole other story! As H and W were still together when F came along - she's not really that willing to be 'friends' with her but has said she'll tolerate her somewhat

If your friend is willing to tolerate perhaps you should to. Its not like you have to be good friends. Just head nodding will suffice.

8/20/096:07 AM

mummymazMember

quote:
Originally posted by Demantoid:
Send her an empty choc box and say "Ta very much, me and H enjoyed that loads. Pity the cure to your shitty attitude doesn't come in a box."

And have nothing to do with the malicious cow ever again.

I've always liked you Deman

8/20/096:07 AM

LindsxdxMember

She's got a nerve showing up with a group of you. If H is up for tolerating her then let them get on with it. Just let her come out, sit with her bf and then ignore the bitch all night, hahaha! Noone said you had to be nice to her just do the bare minimum, hello. Not very grown up I know but hey ho.

8/20/096:09 AM

Former Member

quote:
Originally posted by Trollop:
quote:
Originally posted by Suzi-Q:
Refuse the invitation to go on Jeremy Kyle! Sorry to be so flippant, but that's what she reminds me of - those people who air their dirty linen on telly.

You can't blame her for wanting to share part of her BF's life, but you don't have to be part of it. Just tell them both no thanks and be done with it.

Suzi I'm disappointed in you!
Not even a bit of hair pulling?

Nah, I don't have the energy anymore. I couldn't stand the negativity!

8/20/096:10 AM

mummymazMember

quote:
negativity!

You said the N word...oooooooooooo!

8/20/096:11 AM

DemantoidMember

quote:
Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
quote:
Originally posted by Demantoid:
Send her an empty choc box and say "Ta very much, me and H enjoyed that loads. Pity the cure to your shitty attitude doesn't come in a box."

And have nothing to do with the malicious cow ever again.

I've always liked you Deman

8/20/096:13 AM

stonksMember

Put poo in a paper bag, put it on her doorstep, set light to the paper bag and ring the doorbell..her instinct will be to stamp the flame out....

8/20/096:15 AM

Former Member

quote:
Originally posted by stonks:
Put poo in a paper bag, put it on her doorstep, set light to the paper bag and ring the doorbell..her instinct will be to stamp the flame out....

you can take the girl out of birkenhead

8/20/096:18 AM

KayteeMember 10 years

quote:
Originally posted by stonks:
Put poo in a paper bag, put it on her doorstep, set light to the paper bag and ring the doorbell..her instinct will be to stamp the flame out....

Stonksssy

8/20/096:20 AM

mummymazMember

quote:
you can take the girl out of birkenhead

OMG F is from Birkenhead!!!!!!!

8/20/096:20 AM

DemantoidMember

quote:
Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
quote:
you can take the girl out of birkenhead

OMG F is from Birkenhead!!!!!!!

You better watch out for burning paper bags on your doorstep, then

8/20/096:21 AM

TrollopMember

quote:
*gets diary out* I'm free!

7.30 OK? I will put my long press on nails on in advance, cant have a good bitch without long nails

8/20/096:22 AM

TrollopMember

quote:
Originally posted by Pistol Petey:
You could also shit through her letterbox

Might be difficult if its got spring-loaded flaps

8/20/096:23 AM

Former Member

quote:
Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
quote:
you can take the girl out of birkenhead

OMG F is from Birkenhead!!!!!!!

i am in Birkenhead now

8/20/096:24 AM

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