I have absolutely no idea - but it sounds to me like you need a hug.

 

 

 

me neither, but like Rexi, here's a hug 

Thank you both.  Hugs are definitely welcomed at the moment! 

I have no idea either   and we are always here if you need too chat 

I'd go and see your GP first thing tomorrow or the nurse at the surgery. I'd be insistent on getting some straight talking/laymans stuff that you can understand. Don't sit at home worrying!

I really wish you all the best - I send hugs and will say this ....................you have a new life /a new person/ a little baby growing inside of you. I understand it may be scary but believe me - IT'S WONDERFUL too. Get out there - get some help/advice - I know it's a huge step but this really could turn everything around for you!

Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life. Don't look back - look forward!

Lisa, make an appointment to go and discuss whatever literature your Doctor has face to face with them.  Hope it all works out well for you 

big hugs to you, I've suffered panic attacks in the past and they were horrendous I still get waves of anxiety if I'm stressed out now but manage it with breathing exercises & positive affirmations etc, I'm also a huge yoga fan. I'd first say, try to worry too much until you have all the facts Next, take things one step at a time, see your doctor and find out as much as you can and what your options are. Then go from there. Breathe, if you feel panicky, just breathe- count 1234 in, and 1234 out, make your breathes longer, fuller and slower, your heart rate will relax in just a few mins and you will feel calmer There are stress management techniques that you can try, and possibly a natural remedy instead of anti-depressants. I used the herbal tincture passiflora at the height of my panic attacks and it worked a treat again, see your doctor for advice and enquire at the health shop. Most importantly, remember you're not alone and you don't have to feel like you are we're here of you need to talk, and I think this baby could be just what you need. I truly believe they come along when they're meant to, and for all kinds of special reasons. So congratulations mama

 For what it's worth - my friend was on Seroxat  during  her pregnancies , and her kids are all fine and healthy . She was advised not to breastfeed after her second pregnancy , and her dosage was dropped in her third trimester( this was round about the time of the first scare about birth defects with SSRI drugs) , but during her last pregnancy she was told it was fine to stay on a higher dosage and safe to breastfeed  . Your doc will be able to give you full details in the morning - hope it all goes well ! 

^thats really reassuring slinki, hope this makes you feel better about it mama to be

That's what's so wonderful about this place. There's always someone who knows about about something.

Slinki sorted me out a while ago . AngNlis ...............please don't panic - please keep us posted -I sincerely hope you get things sorted!

Hope you got to talk things thru with your GP today and all is well. 

Lisa - how'd your day go?

Hi everyone, thanks so much for your messages.  I really appreciate them.

 

I saw the Doctor this morning, the literature she has is basically the same as everything I've read online.  Yes, there appears to be more of a risk of heart defects when taking Seroxat (2 in 100 babies as opposed to 1 in 100 when Mum isn't taking it)

 

Now it's down to me and whether I feel I can take that risk.  It's anhorrendous situation and I'm torn.

Lots of thinking to do, and I'm going back for another chat with my Doctor on Monday.

 

Thank you all again,

Lisa

Do you have access to a counsellor to talk things through ?Talking really does help - if there isn't professional help do you have friends/family? Having a baby is a big step and quite frightening especially if you suffer from anxiety! Please ask at the docs to seek out all the help available ..............insist on it! I really wish you well,

Glad you saw the doctor ... and hope you feel a bit better very soon

ahhh, rotten situation.  Did your doc mention screening for heart defects? I think they can do that by ultrasound .. hope all goes well.

Slinki, no she didn't mention it.  I will ask her about that on Monday, thank you

+ by the way .. rubbish circumstances, but it's good to see you on here  

Soozy, the Doctor recommended I talk to a counsellor, and whatever happens I think I will do that anyway.

I do have friends and family, although my closest friends and family live in Brum (I'm in Wales) they've all been great, but none of them knew about the effects of Seroxat during pregnancy, hence me asking on here (I'm glad I did, it's helped to have such positivity from people who aren't as close to me as my family etc)

 

I've thought about it from so many different angles and I'm still not getting anywhere.  One minute I'm really happy that I'm pregnant, and the next, I'm scared to death.  I know that'll have a lot to do with hormones too, and also that being scared is natural.  I'm 34 and never been in this situation before, didn't think it would ever happen to me!

 

The father is being really good and very supportive, he says ultimately it's my decision, which it is, but heck it's difficult.

 

I'll let you all know what the Doctor says again on Monday.

 

Thanks all.

Thank you!  I'm around quite often, but just tend to read rather than post, have to keep up and make sure everyone's ok!

Thank you for taking the time to reply Sweet Summer, I really do appreciate it.  I got so bad, just over a year ago, that my parents had to come over and make me go to the Doctor, I couldn't face it on my own.  In fact, I couldn't face anything, I remember at my worst, someone asking me if I wanted sugar in my tea, and I screamed at them, because I couldn't make that decision (sounds mental I know) but my mind was so tired after constant panic attacks that I just couldn't cope.  I was depressed, because of the constant fear of having another panic attack.

 

I've learned to breathe properly again, and that really helps, although there are times even now when I feel my shoulders hunch up, and I start to shallow breathe.

 

I wouldn't wish panic attacks on anyone, they are truly horrible things.  It's surprising how many people have suffered with them though, it just seems it's not something people usually talk about.

 

i haven't heard of Passiflora (sp)  going to google now - thanks again for telling me about your experiences.  I'm glad you managed to beat it

passiflora's contraindicated in pregnancy .. lots of herbal remedies are unfortunately . 

 

There's lots online about coping techniques for panic disorder .. this website's a good one 

http://www.llttf.com/ - you need to sign up to use it , but it's great. Based on cognitive techniques, and has relaxation exercises etc on it.

No useful advice to offer but I hope everything works out for you.

Hope all goes well at the doctor's on Monday.

Awww..    I've had my world turned upside by unexpected pregnancy too Angenlis...    was nearly 19 years ago for me..      and..    I didn't realise I was pregnant til I was about 8 weeks...     and I was still raving & partying hard up until the point I found out...  so I understand your concerns about the antidepressants.

 

I really wanted to post more about the turmoil & confusion towards the pregnancy..     for me, I was 22, my relationship was on the rocks (more than I knew..  he was having an affair, which I found out about mid way through the pregnancy)..  

 

I didn't want a baby..   but I didn't want an abortion either.     The bravest thing I have ever done in my whole life was deciding to keep her.   Everyone, friends, boyfriend, my parents... said I was mad & I was throwing my life away.    Only one person had anything postitive to say, & I didn't really know her.. twas a girl round a mutual friends house who had a daughter & was a single mum...   she said "you'll be fine.. it will all be fine"

 

Ok.. so there have been times, especially in the early years, where it didn't feel fine, I was single from 6 months pregnant onwards & it was lonely, it was hard..   I felt very very alone..     but then I had my baby girl & everything in my world clicked into place.   

 

I even reoffended & had another 5 years later.     My daughter is now 18 & my son is coming up for 14..    and they are the best thing I have ever ever done in my life...   having them defined me, and I just wouldn't have it any other way.     

 

There are differences in our situations.. I know that.    I was younger, there are advantages to that, but disadvantages too..     I think the early years with my kids would have been more organised & stable had I been 10 years older. 

 

 

Whatever you decide to do, I can understand.      There is no easy decision here..     but don't let fear stop you having your baby..      Actually the fact that you are undecided pretty much suggests to me that you do want have this baby..   

 

So.. take a deep breath..   it will be ok..  whatever happens, whatever you decide...  it will be ok, you will be ok xxxx

I knew posting on here was the right thing to do, thanks again everyone.

 

Dirtyprettygirlthing, thank you for sharing all of that with me.  I hope that whatever I decide to do, I can be as strong as you clearly have been.  What a scary time it must have been, being pregnant with your daughter.

 

Like you, I don't like the idea of having an abortion (but if I feel I can't cope, I know it's probably the right thing to do)  everytime that thought enters my mind I think 'No, I can't do it'

It is just the fear thing.  There are so many things that scare me about all this.  I'm scared that after all the negative thoughts I've had about this baby, that I'll be a useless mother, and no child deserves that.

 

I'm feeling very pregnant now too, morning sickness, afternoon sickness, and the tiredness is overwhelming, I just want to sleep all the time, and can't think straight.

Earlier I went to chop some veggies for tonights dinner and had to sit down for half an hour afterwards I felt so shattered, it's a horrible feeling!

I was just as scared as you....   and I only know I was brave when I look back on it with hindsight.. at the time I didn't feel brave.

 

I wouldn't normally say this, not when someone was uncertain..  but  I think you'll make a great mum xxxx   I say this cos you sound exactly like me when I found out I was pregnant.. I was having all those thoughts too.   This is gonna sound a bit slushy for me..   but, after I'd had her & I was back in my room at the hospital, I looked at her & everything clicked..  I'd spent the entire pregnancy out of my mind with worry, heartbroken when her dad walked out on me for someone else...  but that really was the hard bit.   It all made sense when I'd had her.   

 

 

 

(oh & ..   the first three months are shit!!   the fatigue & sickness are the pits!   The fatigue should pass..   the sickness might take a bit longer.    The hormones will drive you to the point of insanity.   But, you get through it)

 

Thanks for the reassurance, I almost had a little smile then for the first time in while!

 

You said before, that you were about 8 weeks when you found out and you'd been partying until then.  That's something else that's worrying me, until I found out, I'd been going out quite a bit and having the odd few drinks and smoking.  I mentioned this to the Doctor and she said as long as I've stopped that now, then not to worry, but....I'm still worried!!