That's up to her I guess Stonksy, but those few words spoke volumes to me. Poor woman.

BTW I don't get the argument that this is humiliating for her, she's the victim of a crime, none of which is her fault or responsibility, why should that be considered humiliating

(With a feather duster?) Meanwhile observant posters will note that the twat concerned had dragged her to a seafood restaurant. Elsewhere, the filthy pervert in the news was an expert in English Grammar, probably fascist grammar police like. I rest my case.

  the very admission that she may have felt humiliated makes it abundantly clear that he was doing something she should be ashamed to be letting him get away with    (not that I think she should be ashamed... I know what I mean though!)

I know what you mean too Kaffs, which is more than I can say for Mr. Jer's feather duster comment ...although top marks for me getting his tongue in cheek comments about seafilth and the grammar police, 2 outta 3 ain't bad!

My solicitor suggests I mention your earlier comment about tiffing your arse, and my enquiry about using a feather duster.

..... Playfully apparently.

Thanks for the explanation GJ!

 

Really?  She was being humiliated and some pap was clicking away on a camera and pics of said humiliating situation were splashed in a rag of a newspaper with people talking about her private business?  I never said any of this was her fault or responsibility.

Bang to rights.

 

He'll need Terry McCann.

 

 

I think some people  have more complex relationships, than can be summarised in  a headline.

 

We don't know why she  was in tears, we are assuming it's because of the way he grabbed her throat,that is certainly enough to have  most people in tears.

And before I get hung drawn and quartered,I think he is  a bully and abusive, and is no sort of proper man.

But she could also be in tears because it was a row with some one she loves,she is holding his hand, is that to restrain him( I seriously doubt she could restrain him) or to calm him?

She kissed him, was that to calm him? or to let him know everything was alright?

We honestly have no idea,I can read as much into a photograph as the next person.But people in volatile relationships can have an understanding of each other, that baffles the rest of us.

Temps, I wasn't referring to your comments, rather the general points that are being made all over the place that having the pics published in the press are, of themselves, humiliating for her. I don't see that personally

that's all true, of course...   I just don't know how he can try to explain it as 'playful'  - if she's in tears for any reason, be it being strangled, afraid, or just having had a row with someone she loves.  What's playful about any of that?    Anyway - at least we agree he's a bit of a scumbag.

http://www.fleetstreetfox.com/

Cos - says it all.   

Follow her on Twitter, Kaff; I think you'll like her

Wherever you are I hope you see the light

Done - I think I will...

Wow Cos. That was magnificent. Thanks. 

Yes excellent article Cos. Those who slowly adjust to having their life taken over by control freaks don't always notice the gradual changes within themselves and the relationship. For many by the time they do they've lost their own identity and have become submissive and want to keep the peace to save them from verbal or physical abuse. I've come across many instances over the years online and in rl.

 

Any woman or man who finds the courage and strength to walk away from such subservience has my respect as it must take a lot of courage.

Interesting quotes from his own book:

 

"Saatchi’s main philosophy in the book is it’s a “mistake” to be nice or  caring. He writes: “Unlock yourself from the neurotic need to please. It erodes the soul.”

Saatchi also takes swipes at females. He says: “It’s ok for little girls to  whine. They are practising to be women.”

And talking about his two divorces, he writes: “Wives make excellent  housekeepers.

“They always manage to keep the house. Boom boom!”

Saatchi — who has wed three times — is not kind about marriage. He says: “It’s  a flawed ideology, with a miserable track record, and only gives comfort  to  the insecure and needy, like me.”

So far Saatchi has refused to say sorry publicly for assaulting telly cook  Nigella.

He writes in the book: “There is absolutely no shame in an apology made with  your fingers crossed behind your back. It’s actually quite elevating.”

 

I'm in the sandwich shop waiting for m 'salad box and the scum paper reckon that she has taken off her ring and left him or something like that.

I just saw it too joe, I'll read the story now. I hope she has dumped him!

Me neither cos she had already been humiliated by a person who is meant to love and protect her, he did'nt count how many people were watching and noone interviened to help her so it going to press just broadened the audiance and might give her the wake up call to tell her that his behaviour is unacceptable..its not nice for her and it was'nt nice for those who witnessed it first hand....

One ponders the general consensus amongst his peers?

Saatchi is to divorce Nigella. Read this crap at your peril. It's the Daily Mail and I feel dirty now. 

 

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/new...hand-throat-too.html

"Said he made 'heartbreaking' decision after she refused to defend him"

 

Only they know what their marriage was really like and perhaps at times it was volatile, who knows, but why should she have defended his action. If she had isn't that what some abused women do, or wouldn't people in general have assumed that's what she was doing.

 

Maybe he's suing her for divorce before she sues him and he's worried that would make him look even worse. I wonder what reason he'll give for divorcing her.

That's exactly what I think is going on Yella.  His divorce pleading will be one to hear. 

Do they really think we will swallow such paper thin excuses?

Its desperate stuff.

Have you ever felt justified in grabbing someone around the throat til they cried? Do you know someone who has?

The damage is done.

he's trying to control everything - boorish, nasty man.  What must poor Cosima be thinking with him naming his defence of her staying at the Economist as the catalyst of their argument 

 

Charles Saatchi

Nigella been granted a divorce today, GOOD

I wish mine had gone through as quickly!

 

Good.

Clearly what happened was the tip of the iceberg.

 

Onwards and upwards Nigella.

 

well shot of 

she should have 

 

I would have 

How come Paul McCartney and Mick Jagger are free to travel to the US. they've actually been convicted of taking drugs.