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reality check i've always spent at least £500 on her for xmas *but i do saving clubs*

blimey Aimesss, £500 is what I pay for 4 kids for xmas the more you give the more they expect.

Too true.

Looking at some of the replies on here, I feel really mean, but if you havn't got it, you can't do you it

Don't feel mean. Loving your kids is about more than just spending vast fortunes on them or giving them whatever they want whenever they want.

It's about life-training. They have to learn there isn't an endless supply of money for presents. They have to learn to do without by learning to choose between one thing and another.

Among the people I know, it never fails to amaze me how little the rich spend on their kids, and how much the poorer ones spend on theirs.

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Has anyone watched that programme on BBC3 - "Young, Dumb and Living off Mum"?

Giving a child everything that it wants (not needs) is a recipe for disaster!

Yep, they turn up on Big Brother and become Beatches.

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Originally posted by pussycatj:

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Originally posted by Aimee:
reality check i've always spent at least £500 on her for xmas *but i do saving clubs*

blimey Aimesss, £500 is what I pay for 4 kids for xmas the more you give the more they expect.

Too true.

Looking at some of the replies on here, I feel really mean, but if you havn't got it, you can't do you it

Very true PJ..
but for those who can afford to indulge their children a little more then as long as it is constructively given then I don't see it as a problem.

Not a problem Slim, I just feel stingy

Awww PJ..Love,time and effort is more important hun..and that doesn't come from money it comes from the heart and I know you have a big heart and your children I'm sure don't feel shortchanged at all..

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Up until the age of 12 it would be £50 plus £25 for a party or an outing..if they chose to opt out of a party etc then they were allowed the pennies to keep..so £75.
£100 for subsequent birthdays
£300 for 16th
£500 for 18th
Christmas is a big pressie and lots of little ones.

Cor blimey - you must be very very rich

No..but then I don't smoke or drink and don't have the expense of running a car. Generally they save their money and spend it wisely so am not worried that they don't value it..if they want driving lessons or the deposit for a place of their own or indeed the latest in phone technology..then they pay for it.

Now, that's the one thing I did pay for on their 17th birthdays - driving lessons. I saw it as part of their education and I reckoned that, if nothing else, they could always get back-up jobs as taxi-drivers, milkmen or delivery people if ever they needed it in the future. One became a police officer so it was useful for driving his company car!

One of the best lessons in life you can give your kids is the value of money, and the need to earn and budget.

I think buying her an expensive phone, with her record, is unneccesary. You will be making a rod for your own back. But, ultimately, it's your daughter and you should make the decision on what you think is best.

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I can't think of anything my kids would want that would cost £500.

Apart from a car, but he is NOT geting that!!

When they were born, we took out little insurance policies on our kids which matured when they were 18. They used that money to buy their first cars.

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Originally posted by Aimee:
reality check i've always spent at least £500 on her for xmas *but i do saving clubs*

blimey Aimesss, £500 is what I pay for 4 kids for xmas the more you give the more they expect.

Too true.

Looking at some of the replies on here, I feel really mean, but if you havn't got it, you can't do you it

Very true PJ..
but for those who can afford to indulge their children a little more then as long as it is constructively given then I don't see it as a problem.

Not a problem Slim, I just feel stingy

Awww PJ..Love,time and effort is more important hun..and that doesn't come from money it comes from the heart and I know you have a big heart and your children I'm sure don't feel shortchanged at all..

thank you sweetie, and they sure do get lots of that. oooh just reminded me, my 14 year old is late for his chimney sweep job

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Originally posted by pussycatj:

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Originally posted by Aimee:
reality check i've always spent at least £500 on her for xmas *but i do saving clubs*

blimey Aimesss, £500 is what I pay for 4 kids for xmas the more you give the more they expect.

Too true.

Looking at some of the replies on here, I feel really mean, but if you havn't got it, you can't do you it

Very true PJ..
but for those who can afford to indulge their children a little more then as long as it is constructively given then I don't see it as a problem.

Not a problem Slim, I just feel stingy

Awww PJ..Love,time and effort is more important hun..and that doesn't come from money it comes from the heart and I know you have a big heart and your children I'm sure don't feel shortchanged at all..

thank you sweetie, and they sure do get lots of that. oooh just reminded me, my 14 year old is late for his chimney sweep job

Bit old for that, isn't he?

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Originally posted by Suzi-Q:
Has anyone watched that programme on BBC3 - "Young, Dumb and Living off Mum"?

Giving a child everything that it wants (not needs) is a recipe for disaster!

Yep, they turn up on Big Brother and become Beatches.

Kids need to learn that you don't always get what you want in life and that sometimes they will hear the word no.

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Originally posted by jennywren:

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Originally posted by Suzi-Q:
Has anyone watched that programme on BBC3 - "Young, Dumb and Living off Mum"?

Giving a child everything that it wants (not needs) is a recipe for disaster!

Yep, they turn up on Big Brother and become Beatches.

Kids need to learn that you don't always get what you want in life and that sometimes they will hear the word no.

Exactly. Everyone needs to understand suffering and frustration (without going into the more heartbreaking definitions of suffering).

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NOTHING, AND whats more I have NEVER bought MY kids a present of ANY kind EVER, and I will NEVER as well,

I bet its coz you dont have any, you naughty little OHG!!

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Originally posted by jennywren:

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Originally posted by pussycatj:

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Originally posted by Aimee:
reality check i've always spent at least £500 on her for xmas *but i do saving clubs*

blimey Aimesss, £500 is what I pay for 4 kids for xmas the more you give the more they expect.

Too true.

Looking at some of the replies on here, I feel really mean, but if you havn't got it, you can't do you it

Very true PJ..
but for those who can afford to indulge their children a little more then as long as it is constructively given then I don't see it as a problem.

Not a problem Slim, I just feel stingy

Awww PJ..Love,time and effort is more important hun..and that doesn't come from money it comes from the heart and I know you have a big heart and your children I'm sure don't feel shortchanged at all..

thank you sweetie, and they sure do get lots of that. oooh just reminded me, my 14 year old is late for his chimney sweep job

Bit old for that, isn't he?

Well he started at the age of 6, bless