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Aimee

i am fuming with my daughter i bought her an ipod nano (£179) about 4 weeks and she text me last night to say she had left it on the table in a restaurant

her grandparents turned the car straight round and went back, the table had been cleared but the ipod had gone

they think it might have been 1 of the staff, they have asked to look at the cctv tapes but the staff have refused, has daughters grandparents got the right to look at the tapes or are the restaurant right to refuse?

i'm not insured either, this week goes from bad to worse

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SpiderMonkeyMember

Get the police involved.

8/29/097:04 AM

Little Miss SpursMember

Phone the police. Sounds dodgy to me

8/29/097:04 AM

AimeeMember

quote:
Originally posted by Little Miss Spurs:
Phone the police. Sounds dodgy to me

don't think they'd be too bothered about an ipod, the girl is a liability

8/29/097:06 AM

BazMember VIP10 years

I would call the police Aimee.... or at least I would tell the restaurant that is what you are going to do! Who knows they might suddenly *find* the Ipod

8/29/097:09 AM

AimeeMember

quote:
Originally posted by Baz:
I would call the police Aimee.... or at least I would tell the restaurant that is what you are going to do! Who knows they might suddenly *find* the Ipod

good idea

thanks baz

i'm going to start padlocking her belongings to her

8/29/097:11 AM

CagneyMember

The police have the right to look at the tapes so I'd phone them. If one of the staff nicked a customers ipod then what else are they nicking? Might be worth mentioning that to the restaurant owner.

8/29/097:12 AM

Queen of the High TeasMember

I'd get the police involved immediately Aimee before the restaurant has a chance to wipe the tape. If they've got staff nicking things then something ought to be done about it, what if someone leaves a purse or a bag there in future?

8/29/097:12 AM

SJMember

yip - call the police.

8/29/097:14 AM

BlackpudlianMember

Go into your nearest police station and report it.
It may be that the restaurant has had incidences like this before and the police may be able to help.

8/29/097:14 AM

DanceSetteeMember

Aimee, is this the daughter who keeps losing her phones? or am I mixing you up with someone else?

8/29/097:15 AM

MysTerryMember

Is it a 'chain/group' restaurant, or an independent ?
If it's part of a group, contact their customer service people and make a formal complaint.

If it's an independent, report it to your local police.

I doubt they'll do anything about it, because they need all their resources to catch the naughty motorists..

Actually, check your Home Contents Insurance Policy, you may be able to claim on that for some things that you lose away from home..

8/29/097:20 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

As others have said... only the police can demand to see the tapes.

To be honest though, I am not sure they will for the theft of an iPod. When I worked at a pub one of the customers was found dead in his home the morning after drinking in our pub (he overdosed).... obviously there was a police investigation, but it still took the police 5 weeks to come and look at our cctv tapes....

Likewise when my (then) 8 year old daughter got beaten up by a group of teenagers, resulting in her ending up in hospital.... took the police a fortnight to come and take a statement from her.

8/29/097:26 AM

AimeeMember

quote:
Originally posted by DanceSettee:
Aimee, is this the daughter who keeps losing her phones? or am I mixing you up with someone else?

yes, this is her

8/29/097:26 AM

AimeeMember

quote:
Originally posted by MysTerry:
Is it a 'chain/group' restaurant, or an independent ?
If it's part of a group, contact their customer service people and make a formal complaint.

If it's an independent, report it to your local police.

I doubt they'll do anything about it, because they need all their resources to catch the naughty motorists..

Actually, check your Home Contents Insurance Policy, you may be able to claim on that for some things that you lose away from home..

i don't know if its a chain or not, i wasn't there, her grandad and some of the footie lads have gone back there know apparently to have another word with them

8/29/097:29 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

BTW.... one of my brother in laws has just given my daughter the latest iPod 30GB MP4 player... (I have no idea what they cost... I shudder to think)....

I keep grabbing it off her before she leaves the house... and questioning her as to whether "she really needs to take it out with her"...

And I have picked it up off the floor 3 times!!!!

I am resigned... it is only a matter of time before something happens to it!

8/29/097:30 AM

MysTerryMember

quote:
Originally posted by Aimee:
quote:
Originally posted by MysTerry:
Is it a 'chain/group' restaurant, or an independent ?
If it's part of a group, contact their customer service people and make a formal complaint.

If it's an independent, report it to your local police.

I doubt they'll do anything about it, because they need all their resources to catch the naughty motorists..

Actually, check your Home Contents Insurance Policy, you may be able to claim on that for some things that you lose away from home..

i don't know if its a chain or not, i wasn't there, her grandad and some of the footie lads have gone back there know apparently to have another word with them

The restaurant isn't in Chelsea or Millwall by any chance..... ???

8/29/097:32 AM

Little Miss SpursMember

quote:
Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
As others have said... only the police can demand to see the tapes.

To be honest though, I am not sure they will for the theft of an iPod. When I worked at a pub one of the customers was found dead in his home the morning after drinking in our pub (he overdosed).... obviously there was a police investigation, but it still took the police 5 weeks to come and look at our cctv tapes....

Likewise when my (then) 8 year old daughter got beaten up by a group of teenagers, resulting in her ending up in hospital.... took the police a fortnight to come and take a statement from her.

What? OMG

That is awful Why did they do that? Hope they got done

8/29/097:33 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

quote:
Originally posted by MysTerry:

I doubt they'll do anything about it, because they need all their resources to catch the naughty motorists..

Trouble with the traffic police?

8/29/097:34 AM

AimeeMember

quote:
Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
BTW.... one of my brother in laws has just given my daughter the latest iPod 30GB MP4 player... (I have no idea what they cost... I shudder to think)....

I keep grabbing it off her before she leaves the house... and questioning her as to whether "she really needs to take it out with her"...

And I have picked it up off the floor 3 times!!!!

I am resigned... it is only a matter of time before something happens to it!

i can't believe she left it in the first place, its bloody shocking pink, how could she had not seen it on the table

she's been really good with it so far, she didn't even take it out with her for the first few weeks of having it, i bought her the sock things to put it in so it wouldn't be too visible when she was out and now she's gone and done this

if it is one of the staff though, we might have a chance of getting it back but if its a customer its long gone and i have bought a very expensive present for someone i don't know

8/29/097:35 AM

BazMember VIP10 years

quote:
Originally posted by Aimee:
quote:
Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
BTW.... one of my brother in laws has just given my daughter the latest iPod 30GB MP4 player... (I have no idea what they cost... I shudder to think)....

I keep grabbing it off her before she leaves the house... and questioning her as to whether "she really needs to take it out with her"...

And I have picked it up off the floor 3 times!!!!

I am resigned... it is only a matter of time before something happens to it!

i can't believe she left it in the first place, its bloody shocking pink, how could she had not seen it on the table

she's been really good with it so far, she didn't even take it out with her for the first few weeks of having it, i bought her the sock things to put it in so it wouldn't be too visible when she was out and now she's gone and done this

if it is one of the staff though, we might have a chance of getting it back but if its a customer its long gone and i have bought a very expensive present for someone i don't know

Awwwwww.....

How's the bruises by the way?

8/29/097:36 AM

AimeeMember

quote:
Originally posted by Baz:
quote:
Originally posted by Aimee:
quote:
Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
BTW.... one of my brother in laws has just given my daughter the latest iPod 30GB MP4 player... (I have no idea what they cost... I shudder to think)....

I keep grabbing it off her before she leaves the house... and questioning her as to whether "she really needs to take it out with her"...

And I have picked it up off the floor 3 times!!!!

I am resigned... it is only a matter of time before something happens to it!

i can't believe she left it in the first place, its bloody shocking pink, how could she had not seen it on the table

she's been really good with it so far, she didn't even take it out with her for the first few weeks of having it, i bought her the sock things to put it in so it wouldn't be too visible when she was out and now she's gone and done this

if it is one of the staff though, we might have a chance of getting it back but if its a customer its long gone and i have bought a very expensive present for someone i don't know

Awwwwww..... How's the bruises by the way?

not too bad today, my dad nearly passed out today when i shown him my leg

8/29/097:40 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

quote:
Originally posted by Little Miss Spurs:
quote:
Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
As others have said... only the police can demand to see the tapes.

To be honest though, I am not sure they will for the theft of an iPod. When I worked at a pub one of the customers was found dead in his home the morning after drinking in our pub (he overdosed).... obviously there was a police investigation, but it still took the police 5 weeks to come and look at our cctv tapes....

Likewise when my (then) 8 year old daughter got beaten up by a group of teenagers, resulting in her ending up in hospital.... took the police a fortnight to come and take a statement from her.
What? OMG That is awful Why did they do that? Hope they got done

Was a long time ago now... 8 years ago. We lived in a different area... she used to play out with other kids her age.

A group of 14 year old girls had seen her and her friend and started jeering and stuff at them... they pushed and jostled them a bit... but then one of them shoved my daughter to the floor... onto a rusty jagged metal pipe.

She had to have loads of stitches in her leg.. still has the scars.

Cos of the ages of the girls it was hard for the police to do much, but the one that pushed her has it on her record as 'recorded but not proven' ?? or something.

We moved house shortly after.

8/29/097:42 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

quote:
Originally posted by Aimee:

she's been really good with it so far, she didn't even take it out with her for the first few weeks of having it,

*nods*... we are still in the 'being extra careful with it' phase... I am expecting complacency to set in at some point.

That said... since she killed her first two mobiles (one in the washing machine... one got stood on)... and I went ballistic... she has managed to keep them safe and intact.

Time will tell.

8/29/097:44 AM

Little Miss SpursMember

quote:
Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
quote:
Originally posted by Little Miss Spurs:
quote:
Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
As others have said... only the police can demand to see the tapes.

To be honest though, I am not sure they will for the theft of an iPod. When I worked at a pub one of the customers was found dead in his home the morning after drinking in our pub (he overdosed).... obviously there was a police investigation, but it still took the police 5 weeks to come and look at our cctv tapes....

Likewise when my (then) 8 year old daughter got beaten up by a group of teenagers, resulting in her ending up in hospital.... took the police a fortnight to come and take a statement from her.
What? OMG That is awful Why did they do that? Hope they got done

Was a long time ago now... 8 years ago. We lived in a different area... she used to play out with other kids her age.

A group of 14 year old girls had seen her and her friend and started jeering and stuff at them... they pushed and jostled them a bit... but then one of them shoved my daughter to the floor... onto a rusty jagged metal pipe.

She had to have loads of stitches in her leg.. still has the scars.

Cos of the ages of the girls it was hard for the police to do much, but the one that pushed her has it on her record as 'recorded but not proven' ?? or something.

We moved house shortly after.

B***ards! Makes me sick. I moved out of my last street, years ago due to a totally nutty neighbour and her weirdo kids. I wasnt the only one either

best thing I ever done. Been here nearly 10 years now and love it

Hope all is ok where you are now DPGT

8/29/097:47 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

quote:
Originally posted by Little Miss Spurs:
B***ards! Makes me sick. I moved out of my last street, years ago due to a totally nutty neighbour and her weirdo kids. I wasnt the only one either best thing I ever done. Been here nearly 10 years now and love it Hope all is ok where you are now DPGT

I love where we are now. It was the good thing to come out of the bad thing if you know what I mean.

The policeman that (finally) took on our case, told us when he went round to the girls house the family were like something from "neighbours from hell".... effing and blinding... denying her daughter was involved.... they were basically scum!

There are some bloody awful people about... glad you got away too

BTW You can call me Ditty, its easier

8/29/097:50 AM

Little Miss SpursMember

quote:
Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
quote:
Originally posted by Little Miss Spurs:
B***ards! Makes me sick. I moved out of my last street, years ago due to a totally nutty neighbour and her weirdo kids. I wasnt the only one either best thing I ever done. Been here nearly 10 years now and love it Hope all is ok where you are now DPGT

I love where we are now. It was the good thing to come out of the bad thing if you know what I mean.

The policeman that (finally) took on our case, told us when he went round to the girls house the family were like something from "neighbours from hell".... effing and blinding... denying her daughter was involved.... they were basically scum!

There are some bloody awful people about... glad you got away too

BTW You can call me Ditty, its easier

will remember that

8/29/098:02 AM

AimeeMember

she's just text me and said the restaurant say the camers don't reach to where they were sitting

8/29/098:06 AM

BlackpudlianMember

quote:
she's just text me and said the restaurant say the camers don't reach to where they were sitting

For goodness sake don't let Marcus know about it or he will his duvet over there before you can shout,"What's for pudding?"

8/29/0910:09 AM

PussMember

Awww ditty, thats terrible

did you not feel like going to the girls house and bash the door down

8/29/0910:14 AM

AimeeMember

quote:
Originally posted by Blackpudlian:
quote:
she's just text me and said the restaurant say the camers don't reach to where they were sitting

For goodness sake don't let Marcus know about it or he will his duvet over there before you can shout,"What's for pudding?"

8/29/0910:20 AM

Former Member

quote:
Originally posted by Aimee:
they think it might have been 1 of the staff, they have asked to look at the cctv tapes but the staff have refused, has daughters grandparents got the right to look at the tapes or are the restaurant right to refuse?

Nope. Although it's difficult. You have a right under Data Protection law to ask for and look at the images of you but you don't for images of other people in the same shots. Technically, they should 'redact' the images of the other people, possibly using pixellating technology. It's very odd that they're refusing. I'd involve the police I think. Or threaten too. They'll probably have 'lost' the tape by then though.

8/29/0910:33 AM

AimeeMember

well daughter is now home and she has just realised she has lost her glasses as well

she only has to wear them for computer and TV etc, but they cost me a fortune FFS

i've had it with her, no more soft touch mum

this weekend alone she has lost about £280

for her birthday in 2 weeks she is getting ziltch

8/29/093:57 PM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

quote:
Originally posted by pussycatj:
Awww ditty, thats terrible did you not feel like going to the girls house and bash the door down

Yep... I thought of a thousand different ways to destroy them all!

But cos I had to look after my daughter, and a toddler and a full time job to try to hold down, I didn't have the opportunity to act in the heat of the moment.

Besides, word soon got back to me that she was gonna come and kick me and my lying daughter in the 'foo foo'...

So I handed the whole thing over to the police... and put my house up for sale, got a good enough price for it to move to a lovely rural village with a happy village primary school, and lived happily ever after.

I laughed last!

8/29/095:13 PM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

quote:
Originally posted by Aimee:
well daughter is now home and she has just realised she has lost her glasses as well she only has to wear them for computer and TV etc, but they cost me a fortune FFS i've had it with her, no more soft touch mum

this weekend alone she has lost about £280

for her birthday in 2 weeks she is getting ziltch

*whispers* you know you won't be able to stick to that!

8/29/095:15 PM

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