avoid avoid avoid dump dump dump - sorry but she's mugging him off to use a phrase - gold digger 

Oh and if the space is really available can I go?  

I'm with Pengy ....he needs to run as fast as possible.... in the opposite direction  

Pirate is your step-son called Mug by any chance 

Pirate, you aren't being cynical. You've got her sussed.

thing is he's got aspergers

since she 'dumped him' first time-he's been self harming

he's on tablets from docs

he's got counciling lined up

now she's back he's skipping around very happy

in all honesty if it was one of us we'd think 'piss off' & we'd see what the jolly bird is up to

he cant see it

his younger bro told him shes using him-they had a massive fight-strangling each other!

me & his mom know the score

we darent tell his gran

she'd buy an AK47

You can tell him to get rid til the cows come home, unfortunately he probably won't listen. Maybe her going on the holiday could be a good thing.... Nowhere for her to run off to. If she is just using him, spending a week or two together might open his eyes to what she's really like? It's not ideal but letting her get a free holiday rather than him buying her an engagement ring, asking her to marry him and then getting hurt.

Awww what a shame for your stepson Pirate That makes things  more complicated .... 

and as far as the holiday is concerned ive told lisa to say place is filled

but i know she wont cos she wants him to be happy & no doubt jolly bird will go

i dont think you can understand how bloody annoyed i am

cos she'll get her own way

ah!  that is a complication but it sounds like he's going to have to understand that the hard way.  As Jen said, if she goes then at least she's got no where to run and that time together might show him what she's like but I'd be ticked she's getting a free holiday out of it 

jen-she treats him like gold when theyre together!

maaaan she got that boy sussed

What does Lisa think of her?

im telling you on here cos i cant say much at home cos causes friction

but FFS

its really annoying

she stayed at ours friday

on saturday we spent £30 on BBQ food

which she ate most of

step-son went back to hers

so we dropped them off & i paid for a chinese meal for them

im just trying to keep the peace

im a tw@t

thing is the girl is really chatty

really nice

but i s'pose if yer gonna rip people off

youre not gonna be a moody arsehole are you?

we liked her

no you are not! In the long run he's going to get hurt again 

It's hard to say nothing, when you know your child is being mugged off (I'm not known for keeping quiet in those instances) but sometimes you just need to let things run their course - and help them pick up the pieces afterwards.

yep

and his mom will aswell

cos he keeps cutting himself

not deep cuts

but bad enough

he did it over another girl

that time he cut his tendons & couldnt move his hand

so

this is why im telling you lot-cos i cant say anything at home

or it causes ructions

so i just go to bed when it all goes tits up

you are in between a rock and a hard place Pirate 

It's probably the totally wrong thing to do but i would be tempted to have a 'chat' with her..... don't do this though as it would cause more problems for you

and!

i got that off my chest lol

Good! A typed out rant is often better than a shouty one

his 15yr old bro text her & told her to stop messing his bro about-like i said earlie,r all out war-each proper trying to strangle each other

so best i dont get involved

i wouldnt mind if she was a looker!

she's jolly

in a frog kind of way

anyway

if id been in the nick for 15yrs

and she offered

i wouldnt

is that spiteful?

well

i feel annoyed

awww, what a lucky lad he is that you are watching his back. My niece is aspergers and I know how hard it is (well, actually I don't, as I don't live with her - but I do have an inkling).

You know there's nothing you can do but be there for him when he gets hurt. Which he will

and now im off

i maybe back

so hold that thought

What Yogi said is good advice, though its hard 

Sorry for your trouble Pirate 

That's where I'm at with it too, Jen.  A word in her shell-like, let her know you've got her card marked etc..  None of this is to be done - nor should it be - in front of anyone else, least of all your step son.  But you can't sit there and let her carry on mugging everyone.

Either way, he's going to end up the victim in all of this.  The angle is, how do you let this one pan out without too much damage once the fall out takes place?  It's a bit of a sh*tty stick all round.

she's back here again

announcing she's on a diet

i said to lisa

i hope she's not gonna try & squeeze her bumper into a bikini-thinking shes going on holiday

At least she won't be eating you out of house and home, Pirate