Charlotte Rampling, the well known extremely attractive English actress who is advanced in years now and was the star of the Night Porter and Woody Allen’s Stardust Memories, in an interview some years ago revealed she had awful problems with men falling in love with her. She would be naturally pleasant, charming and friendly with men and before she had even batted an eyelash many would fall for her and started cluttering up the garden path, asking to be trodden on and pleading for attention and declaring undying love. To unclog the garden she decided to make a constant effort to be a less attractive woman; she would tone down the smiles, she wouldn’t be as charming or friendly and she would avoid dressing in anything appealing. She had to save men from themselves and avoid creating trauma for herself. I suspect that she still could only keep the garden clear of men with patrolling savage dogs as there was no way she could suppress her enormous appeal to thinking men.
Great demands are placed on attractive, gracious and intelligent women; demands they must meet successfully otherwise they suffer not only at the hands of legions of frustrated and distraught admirers incensed by rejection but the jealousy and resentment of less attractive, less gracious and particularly less intelligent women who can’t understand what is going on except for their feelings of inadequacy and resentment. All actions of these unfortunately attractive women are microscopically and critically analysed for errors of judgement or insensitivity, or any other imperfections in their character, however small. Flaws are punished severely and advertised enthusiastically by the critical hordes to a willing audience desperate to judge and degrade to feel less inadequate. In short attractive women are made to feel responsible for the emotional welfare of others without ever being asked to sign up to the responsibility.
When these attractive women are sensitive, caring and generous in spirit then their problems are amplified further because any emotional pain they may directly or indirectly cause to others causes them empathetic pain. Their social and diplomatic skills, intellect, perspicacity and sensitivity are tested to extremes in their constant wish to avoid being the creator and recipient of pain. Alas there is sometimes no route to a pain free existence in a closed environment, the short term solutions can generate more pain in the longer term or are simply too painful in themselves to implement, for instance if only isolating oneself or rejecting or sabotaging all friendships are the only solutions. If the natural demeanour of someone is to be friendly, generous and accommodating to the wishes of others, then to suppress these natural character traits is a difficult sacrifice. And of course the more sensitive the woman, usually the more sensitive are the men that are attracted, which amplifies problems again.
Noirin is the Charlotte Rampling of BB10, very attractive, intelligent, charming, articulate, gracious and surrounded by admirers and as a result she seems to have acquired some undeserved unpopularity amongst some members of the BB audience.
Some have said that Norin is not the victim of suffering admirers but actively collects them and leads them on with implied sexual rewards, this flies in the face of reality and the facts and reflects more on the accusers who no doubt are drawn from the stupid, jealous or resentful. They claim she is not entitled to wish to be attractive and to attract admirers and that in her situation she has to be cruel to be kind and that she, like other attractive women, have to be brutal, evaluate attractiveness immediately and reject advances immediately they appear. This willingness to reject out of hand requires attractive women to be unfeeling, insensitive and dispassionate in character, have an ability to foresee the future perfectly and deny themselves the opportunity to give some admirer a chance to impress, and to endanger the chance of any sort of friendly relationship with an admirer. Why should attractive women have to deny themselves friendships or contact with other people through fear of the emotional impact of that engagement with those other people? Why can they not have the sort of friendly relationship they want? Why are only the smitten entitled to think they can get what they want?
Noirin made her position perfectly clear to Marcus, she doesn’t want a sexual relationship with him, but she does enjoy his company as a friend. She has had to make this point repeatedly and forcefully because his persistence and refusal to acknowledge her wishes is making her miserable and insecure. He cannot claim she is sending confusing signals and neither can her critics. Her naturally accommodating nature and desire for friendship means she will accede to Marcus’ constant appeal for attention and time. She does not want to cause him the pain of rejection of reasonable requests nor does she wish him to cease being her friend. She knows that he will be looking to interpret all friendly acts for something more and this must be wearing her down and so she struggles for the relationship she wants without causing him pain, but she cannot know, and neither do we and perhaps neither does he, whether he will accept anything less than a sexual relationship. She has a target in mind for the relationship and she is only human and she is doing what she thinks is right for a painless as possible path to that target.
She was also in a dilemma in the house, the reservoir of people she would wish to have as friends was pitifully small: Lisa is as dim as she is offensive; Charlie is as thick and as unappealing as Lisa and can barely communicate in English; Sophie is pleasant but utterly vacuous; Karly was objectionable, incomprehensible and a Lisa acolyte; Freddie is barely sufferable, socially inept and barely capable of a conversation without including embarrassing pauses or comments or some self-indulgent projection of how he enjoys something interleaved with longing sighs of satisfaction of a life he likes to project he has but doesn’t; Siavash while stimulating is still tinged in her eyes with rabbitgate and the doubt as to whether he is honest; Kris was wrapped up in Sophie and seemed to find conversation uncool, tiresome and too much effort unless it was followed by a grope or pranks; Sree was a stupid, ignorant, spiteful, conceited social misfit and arse; and Rodrigo isn’t exactly someone to go to for stress-free intelligent conversation. Only Marcus offered some sort of thoughtful, mature and pleasant conversation. Should she have rejected the only oasis of worthwhile chat in the house prior to the new hms?
Noirin is burdened with being attractive and the responsibilities and power that entails, and alas this position draws attention, resentment and criticism, all unjustified. The critics should consider the burdens of the attractive intelligent woman and give her the same consideration they would give to the less attractive. Noirin has maintained her dignity, her honesty, her generous spirit, her charm and her attractiveness despite being assailed and deserves to win BB10.
Great demands are placed on attractive, gracious and intelligent women; demands they must meet successfully otherwise they suffer not only at the hands of legions of frustrated and distraught admirers incensed by rejection but the jealousy and resentment of less attractive, less gracious and particularly less intelligent women who can’t understand what is going on except for their feelings of inadequacy and resentment. All actions of these unfortunately attractive women are microscopically and critically analysed for errors of judgement or insensitivity, or any other imperfections in their character, however small. Flaws are punished severely and advertised enthusiastically by the critical hordes to a willing audience desperate to judge and degrade to feel less inadequate. In short attractive women are made to feel responsible for the emotional welfare of others without ever being asked to sign up to the responsibility.
When these attractive women are sensitive, caring and generous in spirit then their problems are amplified further because any emotional pain they may directly or indirectly cause to others causes them empathetic pain. Their social and diplomatic skills, intellect, perspicacity and sensitivity are tested to extremes in their constant wish to avoid being the creator and recipient of pain. Alas there is sometimes no route to a pain free existence in a closed environment, the short term solutions can generate more pain in the longer term or are simply too painful in themselves to implement, for instance if only isolating oneself or rejecting or sabotaging all friendships are the only solutions. If the natural demeanour of someone is to be friendly, generous and accommodating to the wishes of others, then to suppress these natural character traits is a difficult sacrifice. And of course the more sensitive the woman, usually the more sensitive are the men that are attracted, which amplifies problems again.
Noirin is the Charlotte Rampling of BB10, very attractive, intelligent, charming, articulate, gracious and surrounded by admirers and as a result she seems to have acquired some undeserved unpopularity amongst some members of the BB audience.
Some have said that Norin is not the victim of suffering admirers but actively collects them and leads them on with implied sexual rewards, this flies in the face of reality and the facts and reflects more on the accusers who no doubt are drawn from the stupid, jealous or resentful. They claim she is not entitled to wish to be attractive and to attract admirers and that in her situation she has to be cruel to be kind and that she, like other attractive women, have to be brutal, evaluate attractiveness immediately and reject advances immediately they appear. This willingness to reject out of hand requires attractive women to be unfeeling, insensitive and dispassionate in character, have an ability to foresee the future perfectly and deny themselves the opportunity to give some admirer a chance to impress, and to endanger the chance of any sort of friendly relationship with an admirer. Why should attractive women have to deny themselves friendships or contact with other people through fear of the emotional impact of that engagement with those other people? Why can they not have the sort of friendly relationship they want? Why are only the smitten entitled to think they can get what they want?
Noirin made her position perfectly clear to Marcus, she doesn’t want a sexual relationship with him, but she does enjoy his company as a friend. She has had to make this point repeatedly and forcefully because his persistence and refusal to acknowledge her wishes is making her miserable and insecure. He cannot claim she is sending confusing signals and neither can her critics. Her naturally accommodating nature and desire for friendship means she will accede to Marcus’ constant appeal for attention and time. She does not want to cause him the pain of rejection of reasonable requests nor does she wish him to cease being her friend. She knows that he will be looking to interpret all friendly acts for something more and this must be wearing her down and so she struggles for the relationship she wants without causing him pain, but she cannot know, and neither do we and perhaps neither does he, whether he will accept anything less than a sexual relationship. She has a target in mind for the relationship and she is only human and she is doing what she thinks is right for a painless as possible path to that target.
She was also in a dilemma in the house, the reservoir of people she would wish to have as friends was pitifully small: Lisa is as dim as she is offensive; Charlie is as thick and as unappealing as Lisa and can barely communicate in English; Sophie is pleasant but utterly vacuous; Karly was objectionable, incomprehensible and a Lisa acolyte; Freddie is barely sufferable, socially inept and barely capable of a conversation without including embarrassing pauses or comments or some self-indulgent projection of how he enjoys something interleaved with longing sighs of satisfaction of a life he likes to project he has but doesn’t; Siavash while stimulating is still tinged in her eyes with rabbitgate and the doubt as to whether he is honest; Kris was wrapped up in Sophie and seemed to find conversation uncool, tiresome and too much effort unless it was followed by a grope or pranks; Sree was a stupid, ignorant, spiteful, conceited social misfit and arse; and Rodrigo isn’t exactly someone to go to for stress-free intelligent conversation. Only Marcus offered some sort of thoughtful, mature and pleasant conversation. Should she have rejected the only oasis of worthwhile chat in the house prior to the new hms?
Noirin is burdened with being attractive and the responsibilities and power that entails, and alas this position draws attention, resentment and criticism, all unjustified. The critics should consider the burdens of the attractive intelligent woman and give her the same consideration they would give to the less attractive. Noirin has maintained her dignity, her honesty, her generous spirit, her charm and her attractiveness despite being assailed and deserves to win BB10.
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