I would love to do that ... excuse time .. my baby is over 6 months and I am quite far away from my "local" bank. I think it is a great idea but I am not organised enough to do that. If i had family close by perhaps.. but I think there main problem will be that in the first 6 months there is soooo much going, so on making the time might be hard.

my excuse: it's weird but i find expressing quite difficult unless i am feeding on the other side at the same time, which is often quite difficult because babybel starts squirming around and it gives me back ache trying to hold baby in one arm and machine in other!

I've had a bad day ending in tears in the garden comforted by a 21year old fiance of one of OH's mates telling me I'm doing a good job etc etc...RARR I am fed up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

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Originally posted by Raggy♥Doll:
I've had a bad day ending in tears in the garden comforted by a 21year old fiance of one of OH's mates telling me I'm doing a good job etc etc...RARR I am fed up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

you okay today raggy x

Hey tree

Not really I dunno what it is, I can't shake it though. I just wanna run away

Sorry for crashing, just wanted to give Raggy a

It's the hardest job in the world being a Mummy so don't feel bad. You have to ask yourself is it something specific that is bothering you (IE no one helping with baby , Baby will only settle with you...etc etc) or is it just everything?

If it's the former you must address the issue straight away before it erupts into a million tiny different issues . If it's the latter then you need to give it a few days. If you feel better in a few days it's just being a Mummy!!! Everyone has periods when they are knackered and feel like they are the crappest Mum ever! If you don't feel better you have to get yourself down to the docs asap. You are still able to get post natal depression up to a year after giving birth and it's a VERY hard thing to deal with without help.

In the meantime take a few deep breaths , try and get someone to mind baba even just for an hour so you can completely relax and if you ever need anyone to talk to , I'm here! As are these other lovely people in the thread.

I agree with ang Its bloody hard and we are all her for you. PM me any time

Thank you both

I feel a little better today, the baby has been hard work to feed for about a week so we just changed the teat on her bottle to a faster flow, and I think she's constipated since her jabs.

I think it comes down to wanting my family around me to help out & just because they're dead into her, but we live a long way away. I feel fed up with OH's family-they live near but see her about once a week, if that & don't help me apart from the odd doing the dishes if they're round.


I get annoyed at my OH even though he's great with her cos I envy him his life away from here & I miss him & feel like he expects too much of me, like he thinks I should ask his family for more help etc but I find that uncomfortable & an admission of failure.

I feel embarrassed in front of people when she's crying & battling me, I hate the stares and fussing they do.

*harumph*

oh i am feeling so shit today.
i'm tired. my body hurts, i've had permanent numbness in my hand for 2 weeks, i'm bored shitless and i nearly fell asleep driving babybel up the a38 for no reason today. husband come home disappeared upstairs, so i threw a wobbly and screamed SO LOUD. of course that didn't please the little one, so i have left them together now. I am this *pinches finger and thumb together* close to going out and getting a packet of fags which of course wont solve anything.
anyway i am sure i'll be right again tomorrow

I understand Belle

I gave up smoking when I was pregnant with my daughter but I started again when she was 8 weeks old. She had severe reflux and screamed almost constantly when awake until diagnosed. I still have a couple of ciggies at night

my baby has never been sick. just constantly fights feeding for no reason then screams his head off if you withdraw the milk. he wants it, he doesn't want it, he does. drives me POTTY.

Thats what she did He doesn;t ever leak clear fluid from his mouth does he?

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Originally posted by BeerBelle:
drives me POTTY.

oh god, that no doubt will be another developmental joy to behold.

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Originally posted by angelicarwen:
Thats what she did He doesn;t ever leak clear fluid from his mouth does he?

not sure. never sick makes lots of bubbles but doesn;t dribble. you dont think.....
he is gaining plenty of weight

what do they do about reflux?

Aila was steady in gaining weight but was quite thin for her age. Wasn't sick very often but towards the end before she was diagnosed leaked clear fluid out her mouth and vomited green spots. Screamed from dawn till dusk and alternated between dying for milk and screaming because I was feeding her.

We were first prescribed Gaviscon sachets which helped slightly but her relflux was worse than we thought so she had to go on to ranitidine syrup which we gave her in a syringe 3 times a day Cleared right up and turned into my smiley daughter overnight and never looked back. I had to BEG for the ranitidine though

if it is i suspect its mild. might be worth a check. thanks angelicawren...
right bath time!

Good luck Belle. Worth a try. Gaviscon in bottle might do the job

went to the drop in clinic to get him weighed and someone was really nice to me and made me cry. course now they think i have depression, so i am getting a visit from the health visitor at 9am tomorrow and she will speak to my doctor about getting me some support, and i quote - "because i have a demanding baby, it is not that i am a bad mother". good. i never thought i was a bad mother did i!! I don't think i have ever suggested that i am a bad mother. I think i am a very good mommy who is trying really hard to make her baby happy and healthy all the time. he is clean and putting on weight and can be quite charming at times. (and he puts his hand in front of his mouth when he sneezes). So anyway i have left him at my mums for the afternoon. I am going to have 10 mins on here, with relaxed shoulders, some lunch then kip for a couple of hours. will let you know how tomorrow goes x

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Originally posted by Raggy♥Doll:
Thank you both

I feel a little better today, the baby has been hard work to feed for about a week so we just changed the teat on her bottle to a faster flow, and I think she's constipated since her jabs.

I think it comes down to wanting my family around me to help out & just because they're dead into her, but we live a long way away. I feel fed up with OH's family-they live near but see her about once a week, if that & don't help me apart from the odd doing the dishes if they're round.


I get annoyed at my OH even though he's great with her cos I envy him his life away from here & I miss him & feel like he expects too much of me, like he thinks I should ask his family for more help etc but I find that uncomfortable & an admission of failure.

I feel embarrassed in front of people when she's crying & battling me, I hate the stares and fussing they do.

*harumph*

Raggy it gets easier. if you need help ask for it. sometimes foke dont know if they should or not. if you are putting forward an imaje of super mum then they might not think to help you. when they say can I do anything to help say yes you can hoover/dishes... watch thew baby while I sleep/go get my hair done. you do need time to yourself. you have to lay down the rules .. you need to get bossy ... and say thank you when they help, they all got it too, even if they say they didn't.....

My sister in law critisised me, when we visited scotland recently, for not ironing my childrens cloths and basically hinted that she thought I was not very good at being a mum. Mr Tree mentioned it to his mum and his mum Laughed and said that my sister in law hadn't done her ironing that she had gone over to her house and slept while her mother did her ironing and looked after the children. LOL I am having to do it totaly on my own we are away from all family. So its me and mr tree. It is very very hard. You need to ask for help if it is there. You will get through without it but its so much easier when you can get that help and you can breath a little in your brain

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Originally posted by BeerBelle:
went to the drop in clinic to get him weighed and someone was really nice to me and made me cry. course now they think i have depression, so i am getting a visit from the health visitor at 9am tomorrow and she will speak to my doctor about getting me some support, and i quote - "because i have a demanding baby, it is not that i am a bad mother". good. i never thought i was a bad mother did i!! I don't think i have ever suggested that i am a bad mother. I think i am a very good mommy who is trying really hard to make her baby happy and healthy all the time. he is clean and putting on weight and can be quite charming at times. (and he puts his hand in front of his mouth when he sneezes). So anyway i have left him at my mums for the afternoon. I am going to have 10 mins on here, with relaxed shoulders, some lunch then kip for a couple of hours. will let you know how tomorrow goes x

good luck with the heath visitor.... oh the things people say I guess she was trying to reasure you. Hope you get a good sleep and clear your head. as i said to raggy its bloody hard work and I shall risk pissing you off to say your a dead good mum sweet dreams belle

she asked me some questions to see if i was depressed, and then talked about my husband taking over for an hour when he gets home from work.... what a nice idea!

My OH does that Belle, he is very good, I just interfere

I think I was feeling so crap because I was pre-menstrual, seem to be getting a bit of a grip. Thanks you lot.

Trust me guys it gets easier but the guys doing there bit is so important... I say that but when Mr Tree does stuff I am terrible for being critical I also need to catch a grip to.

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Originally posted by Raggy♥Doll:
My OH does that Belle, he is very good, I just interfere

I think I was feeling so crap because I was pre-menstrual, seem to be getting a bit of a grip. Thanks you lot.

cool...

hey doll, is your OH action man??

he thinks he is, he is a bit gung-ho with her sometimes, but he is very, very hands on so I can't complain at all. He looked after both of us when I wasn't too well after I had the baby, did everything for about 3 weeks-nappies, baths, feeding her when we switched to bottles, fetched & carried for me & made our tea. He is fab, I think I just feel guilty that I should be doing things or if he's being a tad *too* gung ho, like flinging her over his shoulder & off he goes, he makes me go a bit & I catch myself telling him off quite a bit

He's def a 'new man' anyway

I'd just like to say thanks for your support ladies, I have decided not to be a forumite for now, I find it has a negative effect on me when I spend so much time online rather than RL.

Good luck with the babes

Raggy you do what is best for you and your family. We will miss you here

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Originally posted by Raggy♥Doll:
I'd just like to say thanks for your support ladies, I have decided not to be a forumite for now, I find it has a negative effect on me when I spend so much time online rather than RL.

Good luck with the babes

oh no. formum life / real life balance can be difficult. please pop in tho. i have really appreciated all your support too.

had a steroid injection today for my numb and tingling fingers. feels a bit wierd but hopefully it will ease my hands in a few days.

we could do with a fingers crossed smilie.

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Originally posted by Darthhoob:
lol i'm like that with my 11 month old...he still wakes up at least twice a night (though getting better with only having one bottle normally now)

i still go bed late, then not settle cos i know he'll wake up soon. worst time was the only ever time he slept through the night and i didn't go bed till about 4am cos i thought "he'll wake up soon"

stupid i know lol

If you have a partner buy earplugs ... I did that and found out that my baby did not need feed in the night I was getting her up when she was turning over. My other half would wake me if she really needed fed ... it rairly happened... but it did, and actually once I got into a proper sleep pattern for me and i was not knackered I would hear her before him even with the ear plugs in. They do not cut out all sound they just dull it so you are not on edge... Try it once.. you get them in boots but make sure you keep track of them as they are a chocking hazard.

i usually make sure he id awake before feeding hm cos he does turn over alot, and grumble. so if he grumbles and then whinges he has a bottle lol. i know what you mean though, my OH can sleep through the night unless he hears baby scream..we take it in turns to do night feeds....but i still wake up first to wake him up! i dont think he truely understands that i hear him with every sigh so dont sleep much lol

will try the ear plugs maybe..though i dont like things in my ears haha

how are all the mommies out there today?
mine is 12 weeks old today!

awww 12 weeks, goes quick doesn't it

my youngest will be 1 on sunday

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Originally posted by angelicarwen:
Honestly it really gets better

She is a complete joy now. Sleeps from 7.30 to 8 everynight. Wakes up shouting 'Hiya Mama' and toddles about happy as larry all day shouting at people and playing.

I wouldn't go back to having a newborn for love nor money

well thank gawd for that... it wouldn't be so bad if i had hated my last job, but this new job i got myself of being a mammy is much harder and the pay is crap too (ha ha).
you must be northern if she says Hiya!

The pay IS crap my lovely

And yars I am Northern , from beautiful Scotland Thats where her name is from

went to a friends house for lunch today, and the little man was on his best behaviour. I nearly managed the whole meal without having to entertain him actually he seems to be discovering his own fingers a bit more and is able to amuse himself with a small toy for several minutes which is marvelous!

Aye he is getting there Belle

Have you seen those little Lamaze toys you attatch to their ankles and wrists , keeps them amused for hours

i went to see a pal of mine who is due in october, so she has told me to try them all out and let he know so she doesn;t have to go through it! great. still, it gives me a purpose. we get a booklet with all the stuff going on and theres quite a few to choose from, although most of them are term time only so they are about to go on their summer hols most of them which does limit things.

Does booze hurt your boobs?

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Originally posted by angelicarwen:
Does booze hurt your boobs?

no, but not emptying them into babies mouth does!

Ohhh! *thanks God baby took to bottlefeeding*