nah,

she (sis) has got neighbours to either inform her/police if i turn up at the door

she's changed the code on the door

shes spiteful

i remember once when she was at our holiday home she hid the toilet roll, cos she couldnt get her own way-she was 61 FFS

I was 40 when I was diagnosed, so not that young.

I hope they are able to find suitable treatment for her. It can be a bit hit-and-miss for everyone re treatment, because what works for one person doesn't always work for another. Her quality of life can be greatly improved with the correct meds, so make sure you fight for her.

Pirate have you done anything wrong that maybe you could own up to and regret?

Get your mum to sign a paper saying she is ok with you visiting, seriously shes you mother she needs you around mate, i would take it further, you only have your mums best interests at heart and like i said i have lost mine and couldnt imagine not being 'allowed' to see her when she was still here.

1 big point though, don't ever try to see her/deal with the situation when you have a drink on you, it will only look bad on you and make you react differently.

for your mum, we only get one.

listen,

thank you for your lovely and supportive messages

i think im gonna disappear for a bit to sort me mother out, i wanna stay there..but..

effing hate my family (apart from said mother)

love my OH

love my greyhounds

love my big gay step-brother (who is bringing me baccy back from his holiday)

love you lot

see ya around xmas time - if im not in the blue brick

ina bit

x

Great post Pirate.....listen....x

Bye Pirate be good!

Well, compared to 83, you are a spring chicken.

They've just now told us that the options are medication or complete removal of the colon with a permanent bag. Dear God, for her sake I hope the  med work.

So, meds work OK for you, then?

Sad to hear your story but i dont think a forum is the right way to go to open up about your past. A councilor would be a better option here i think. Hope you get everything though.

This forum is a paper and pencil, if it makes people get it off their chest, then it is all good...........

This forum is for Laughing, Crying, Imagining, and just posting..............

Gawd Bless all who post in her!.......(And the Forum has to be a her, just cos) 

I'm 51 now, so catching up with her.

Just meds, no bag for me. Although things can be a bit unsettled at times, on the whole, the meds are keeping things under control. There are several drugs and several combinations of drugs they can try, before going down the op route.

I'll be thinking of your MiL and hoping they can successfully treat her with meds.

pirate! Hope she's ok, and you're ok , and everything's ok!  Take care ! x

Awwwwwwwwwwwwww yes - I was just gonna post that she'll want a big cuddle and just to know that someones there. Can you not download some of her favourite tunes for her on an MP3 player.

I really hope she's feeling better soon

Thanks, Yogi! Me, too....she's an independent cuss, and I think the bag would make it harder for her to remain so, at her age.

I guess it might be harder for her to adapt then a much younger person, but with support and an independent spirit, I'm sure she would be fine.

Remember though, it may not come to that.

Got my fingers crossed for meds!

Here's hoping! 

Good luck Pirate. Its been a very difficult time for you obviously. Its good to get it off your chest especially as its anonymous here, so you don't feel any pressure. And its mostly supportive too 

I hope things go better for your M-I-L Lori and that the meds will work xx 

Hope she's not in too much pain pirate and they're looking after her well. Perhaps you can pay for her to have the tv in hospital or get her a mobile phone if she doesn't have one so you can call her direct.

She will need help when she gets home - such a shame you can't go and help out.

Lori - hope your MIL is getting help and will be able to manage her illness xx

Hope it all turns out well for you mate.

Thanks, you guys! I'll keep you posted.

I echo everything Veggie said in her post   Pirate and Lori 

And ditto from me

And me 

Pirate and Lori........hope things turn out in the best way they can for both of you 

back now,

ive stopped panicking

and honestly having a whinge on here made me feel better

and it was cheaper than seeing a pycshcologist
which i cant even spell

but you know what i mean

ta for the messages

Hope your mum and you are Ok Pirate.

Me too

How is she, pirate?

she's ok ta

went to see her in hospital, she's in pain with her arm etc..

havent seen her since

sis wont answer OH's calls

so not sure whats happening

Awww. Pirate.

nah,

she's ok

a nice careworker has phoned me with the new code for the door

so if she's not back by her birthday, im gonna go in a leave a present and put the christmas tree up

Awww Pirate..... I hope she is home soon

 beautiful thought pirate .....xxx

That's a lovely thing to do. If I leave you my address, will you do the same for me?

whoa!

only a small present

gotta climb into the spiderery dust filled loft for the tree

thats a present in itself lol

It wasn't the present part, it was the putting up of the tree part, and knowing you have to scramble about in a dusty loft to accomplish it, makes it all the more special......xxxx