Oh no pirate I hope she is soon better and home again....  Not sure about the birthday present though

some lovely smelling perfume and soap so that she smells lovely.

A pretty nightie or pyjamas.

oh, i`m sorry to hear that 

Meant to say - hope she feels better soon

How did she do that?

I'm sure your Mum would like a bunch of flowers and your love.......(sickly but true)

Aye a nice nighty and some slippers.  Nothing better than new PJs to snuggle up in bed in that weather!  Specially if she's going to be out of action for a while she might want to just stay home in her PJs while she gets better, which hopefully will be quick enough

she's 90 next week!

What Eileen suggested.

Hope your mum gets better soon, Pirate.

oh pirate - poor ma

time ... that's probably the best present you can give her atm

hope she gets better soon

she had a stroke years ago

she's getting older and lost her balance

Hold her hand, I bet her birthday is the last thing on her mind....

Sorry to hear about you mum Pirate  I hope she makes a speedy recovery, I don't have a clue about what you can buy her, but a nice bouquet of flowers when she gets home might be a thought. 

Awwww....what a shame, pirate! 

90! Good for her!

How about some nice home-cooked meals in the freezer?

Or, if she's going to be in hospital for awhile, how about some real food at the hospital? 

My M-I-L is also in hospital, after missing Thanksgiving at our house (she's 83).

She ended up in the emergency room on Friday, and they think she's got Crohn's disease, poor thing. She's been feeling like crap (no pun intended) for about a month, now.

Sorry to hear about your MIL Lori.

Hope she is better soon xxx

Big hug for your MiL, Lori. Crohns can be a debilitating disease to live with. I hope the doctors sort out some treatment soon.

A good jigsaw? My OH G,ma loves them, reallly hope she feels better soon xx

Oh mate that's so sad..My dad has really bad arthritis that has aged him considerably in the last few years, it aint nice to watch.I hope she gets better soon.

im banned from the ma's house

half sis has the police on me if i go

sounds like im a nutcase lol

im not

so when i saw my ma in hospital-it was the first time ive seen her in about a year

families eh?

Did it make your Mum happy seeing you in hospital after such a long time?

yeah families. I made a surprise visit back to my mum and dads last week after living away for the last 8 months..I got a great big hug of my mum but my dad just looked up from his paper and asked what I had done..I switched the old buggers electric blanket off just after he had switchd it on later.

Oh, dear.

Well, I'm glad you went to see her. 

A jigsaw is a great idea! My MIL loves them, too. We also like them (in the winter, when the weather keeps us indoors.) I also like the bed socks/wheat bag idea. When you're 90, you're always cold, and probably something always hurts.

Yogi, they said that Crohn's is a young person's disease, so they are a bit at a loss as to treatment. I've always said she was young at heart.

i cried mate

unhappy to see her like that

and happy to see her

if you know what i mean

im the favourite

See her again for you and her birthday.......

oh thats so sad, i`m filling up here,

I bet she is a sweetheart 

Just cos you cant visit her house doesnt mean you cant treat to lunch or take to the hair dressers etc

just wanna say, i did nothing wrong

but i got an older sis who hates me, cos i took her mommy away 40yrs ago

her dad died long before our mom met my dad

loads more to say

but i wont

but i might

lol

Don't need to say it, she is your Mum, do what you feel is right for YOU and your Mum.....

aarghhh

theres so much i wanna tell ya

my ma loves me

i hate my half sis

she hates me

anyway-i love my ma

As a mummy i reckon she was just as happy to see you!!

The past is the past pirate, i lost my mum in 2009 when she was 52, they arent here forever so dont let ANYONE stand in the way of you seeing her Mr!

That's all that counts....(But remember your stepsister has feelings too, even if they are not yours)

Thats a good point Syd, you both have her best interests at heart so maybe a truce is on the cards? For her sake? I mean if she loves you both that would be the best present ever surely? even if its only on the surface eh?

now im off to kip lol

i witnessed my half sis get beaten by her husband, he nearly killed her twice, another time he made her have an abortion, when she came home, he kicked her in the stomach and asked for the change,called the police on my dad, he's in a wheelchair, oblivious to why the police are there (the cop involved got the sack, turned out he was a friend of bro-in-law)

i was about 7-15 when i witnessed all this, she cant understand why i hold a grudge-she lies about it now-says it never happened

she's lied about me to make it look like im a liar-its ****ed my head up 

Live for today pirate, forget (but learn by) the past......and hold your Mums hand on her birthday...xxxxxx 

I can understand why it affected you so much mate but maybe it's time to let bygone be bygones and just live for today? it will be hard but    your mums worth it. You dont have to be bessie mate with her fella, just agree not to talk about him and get on with it, i swear its a worry for mum and like i said even if its just for her sake being civil with chit chat etc would put those worries to bed.

Either way i feel for you, families can be shit cos you cant just walk away (no matter how much you want to) hope your mum feels better soon and you see her more!!

yep,

why not eh?

last time i went to see my mom (before the hospital) my sis had me taken away by the police

cos i was drunk..in my own bedroom..where i used to live.. not a problem..in fact me and my ma sat up for about 5hours chatting 

me and toxic sis never spoke since

sorry about your mum pirate, ive been looking after my nan shes 88 had a bad fall but nothing broken. she just badly bruised her face and still a big lump over her eye, now shes got anemia, and a few other health problems, its sad to see them unwell. But nans being a trooper and doing her best.

Obviously YOU have a relationship with YOUR Mum.....forget Sis.....just think about your Mum, and agree to to disagree with (or do not drink around) your Sister....

What good memories do YOU have with YOUR MUM?.....