I don't know what to say Ditty

 

Just huge hugs and I hope that, when it happens it is peaceful and painless.

 

xxxxx

I'm so very sorry Ditty

and soon..   I know it sounds horrible but I just want it to be soon..  

 

the thought of this going on for weeks...  I can't cope with it..    all of it..   especially my Dad..     watching him trying to desperately keep her around for as long as possible..   anyway possible..    and knowing its because he just can't cope with losing her... 

 

 I am really sorry to hear that, Ditty. Big hugs to you and your family.

Oh Ditty, I have no words 

I'm so sad for you all

Heartbreaking it must be Ditts   

 

I like to think of it as passing over   

 

You were there every step  

 

And I've not been there yet   

I know..  there aren't any really are there.. 

 

I dunno why I posted it really..   I just..  I dunno..       I can't join in any other threads cos it I can't relate to any of them..    

 

I just wanted to tell you all what was happening 

this is the bit I have been so scared of..    for the past year..  

So sorry for you Ditty. How utterly heartbreaking  

 

It's a dreadful situation. I know what it's like. I was with my Dad most of the last few days and was also concerned that he might be in pain. It was a huge consolation that palliative care has come on in leaps and bounds. It was peaceful and he had his family with him.

shit

thats awful

oh mate,

im so so sorry,

youve got us

keep ya pecker up,

dunno what else to say

ahhhhh m'darlin, so sorry xx

So sorry ditty

youre with mates here

you chat as long as you want to/can do babe

Oh Ditty! Words don't work at these times.  If your Mum goes without pain like mine did it will help you and your Dad to recover, I promise.   

 

Oh crap. I'm so upset for you my lovely friend. 

Ah Ditts, I'm so sorry     You know what though - you've all got this far and you'll see her and each other through this too.   I'm sure the palliative care team will make sure she's not in any pain and later you can take comfort in the fact that you've had the time you had - you've not left anything unsaid and that's something not everyone gets the chance to do.   Big hugs for you all x

And here you are doing it. However much you can't imagine you can, you most certainly will. It won't be easy but I imagine that, despite your fears, you will be a rock to those around you who might need you to be, like your poor dad

  

I wish you a mountain of strength - and bravery - to deal with your own moments of fear and sadness. Lots of love to you all, it is an impossibly sad thing to go through xxx

 

 

yes to this..     god yes to this..  

 

to be brave you have to be afraid... 

 

and being brave is a decision... 

 

Ditts, I'm so so sorry to hear this news.  I understand what you mean about it being sooner rather than later. When Mr C lost his mother we were told it would be a matter of days, but it was over two weeks, which in one way was good because it gave his brother in Australia a chance to get here, which didn't happen when they lost their father months later. 

 

All you can do now is be there for your Mother and especially your Father. When his Mum finally went, we were the only ones there, but we were holding her hands and it was very very peaceful.

 

Sending you a massive virtual hug. Xxx

Hold her hand and each others, sad times ahead, but happy memories to comfort you  xx

and thank you...  all of you...  

 

its a bit like picking the scab posting it on here..   it makes me cry more..  but I know I end up going away with bits of things you lot post going round my head..  and I know that it helps me...  

 

things you've said to me a year ago have helped..   so much..  

 

 

My thoughts are with you Ditty!

Ditty, no words can express what we want to say  stay strong and know we are always here 

  Ditty, I have no words 

You know I used to think sometimes this forum had become a little bit 'insular', but it's at times like this when you see genuine heartfelt support for one another it reminds me why I keep coming back.

 

Ditts, you know you have real friends and support here. Take care x

Well said Triggers.  Ditts, you are the woman for this crisis. And you have a 100% support from your family and your FM friends. 

Thinking of you and know how hard it is for you all  - had to sign DNR for mum - hardest thing ever - I can relate to what you are going through  - take care

Aw Ditty ........can't think of what to say that's not already been said. I am just so sorry for you ......nothing can prepare you - we all find our own way.

 

 

Sending lots of love to all of you.

 

Very, very sorry to read about your mother in this post. Like many others I find it very hard to think of what to say.

 

I hope they make your mother as comfortable as possible and that you and your family get through this very difficult time with as little pain as possible.

 

If it helps you get through it, use this forum, I'm sure there are people here willing to listen and talk.

 

EC.

I'm so glad Triggers has put it into words for you, Ditty, as she's said it all.

 

I wish you strength and am sending it wrapped up in a big hug

well..,. I've stopped blubbing for now..   

 

and suddenly feel exhausted... 

 

am off to bed for the sweet oblivion of sleep. 

 

 

thank you everyone..    so much xx

Sleep well, girl xx

I really am sorry Ditts  

Oh no Ditty that has happened so fast! I feel terribly sad for you, and can only hope that she's not in pain and knows that you are all there with her There's been some well said things written before me, please know we are all here for you

 

totally get and understand how you feel but however long you will cope and will get through - there is an inner strength hiding for these times 

 

You are a very special person Ditty -always thinking of and helping others - just know that we are all here if you need to offload and we are all thinking of you and the Family at this very sad time  

Sending big hugs to you, dirty woman. So sorry to hear your news.  

Night night Ditty  

 

We'll all be thinking of you xx