, it takes a long time but you got to take one things step at a time Nicklong.

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Originally posted by Tina:
thought i would start coming to terms with it now but i cant stop thinking about her
i miss my mum
when do you think i will start feeling better x

I lost my Mum 3 years ago

I still go to ring her almost every day

My mums still alive but I don't think I'll ever get over losing her to the crocodile pit

Tbh it never goes away, but it does become easier.

It is only 15 months, give yourself time and don't 'stuff' the feelings.

I don't know. I was 5 years old when my mum died so I didn't really know her but I often wish I did and think of her

I don't think there is a timescale. But try and be happy - for her

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Originally posted by Tina:
thought i would start coming to terms with it now but i cant stop thinking about her
i miss my mum
when do you think i will start feeling better x

oh god, I have no idea. I am terrified of the time coming when I lose a parent.

Its been 3 yrs since I lost a puppy and I'm still not over that.



You could try bereavement councilling... either actually in person (through nhs) or reading around it.

I wish I could make it better for you x

My Mum died last year and I still miss her but find comfort in knowing she isn't suffering any more

my dad died 3years ago and i still havent come to terms with it, i miss him so much each and every day it hasnt gone away and i dont think it ever will... but ive learnt to deal with the fact i will never ever get over it and i will never stop thinking about him or missing him or wishing he was still here...
kirsty x

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Originally posted by Hootie McBoob:
Its all too much for me! first laydee di then jade! when will it all end>>>>>>???? *shaked fist at god?

You're not funny

The Queen??

You never get over the fact that you're Mum is'nt there, but you learn to enjoy the memories of when she was more xxx

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Originally posted by Tina:
thought i would start coming to terms with it now but i cant stop thinking about her
i miss my mum
when do you think i will start feeling better x

dunno lovely - but a hug for you

Tina, you are still in the 'hurting time'.
Everyone recovers at a different rate ~ there is no norm.

The positive thing is that it will get easier
with time. There *will* come a time when you
can remember your mum with love rather than pain.

Stay positive darlin.

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Originally posted by FGG Aka Crocodile Rock:
The Queen??

She's still alive isn't she

Hiya nick. Working through grief is a process which is as long as a piece of string. If you feel you are stuck and want to move onwards along the journey, it would be a good idea to look for bereavement counselling in your area.

My Dad died two weeks ago today and I feel like I'm back to "normal" already. Wish I didn't though, if that makes sense?

Meantime, look out your happy memories and relish them for what they are x

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Originally posted by Tina:
thank you all
so i guess its just time

Yes. I suppose so. It's not like people haven't told you this before.

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Originally posted by Tina:
thought i would start coming to terms with it now but i cant stop thinking about her
i miss my mum
when do you think i will start feeling better x

This thread reeled me in, Tina. SO sorry for your loss. Mine passed away on 28th January last year.

I'm completely lost without her, and can really really understand what you're going through.

The pain will stop when it stops. I'm still waiting. But my head is FULL of fabulous memories of my Mam, as I'm sure yours is too.

That's something to focus on, maybe, while we wait for the ache to go away.........God bless x

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Originally posted by TanyaHyde:

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Originally posted by Ross:

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Originally posted by TanyaHyde:

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Originally posted by Hootie McBoob:
Its all too much for me! first laydee di then jade! when will it all end>>>>>>???? *shaked fist at god?

You're not funny

I chuckled. I have a dead mother too btw.

Well I thought it was inappropriate. Not gonna start a slanging match about it though Pris, took me long enough to post on here as it is.

I don't see any slanging. I just think there's a load of old gubbins surrounding death.

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Originally posted by Ross:

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Originally posted by TanyaHyde:

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Originally posted by Ross:

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Originally posted by TanyaHyde:

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Originally posted by Hootie McBoob:
Its all too much for me! first laydee di then jade! when will it all end>>>>>>???? *shaked fist at god?

You're not funny

I chuckled. I have a dead mother too btw.

Well I thought it was inappropriate. Not gonna start a slanging match about it though Pris, took me long enough to post on here as it is.

I don't see any slanging. I just think there's a load of old gubbins surrounding death.

I do too, but it's still quiet raw for the op.

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Originally posted by TanyaHyde:
I do too, but it's still quiet raw for the op.

I think it's raw for everyone. Always. Forever. It comes to us all though and I'd rather go with a smile on my face.

Aww Tina,that's no time at all really.My dad died nearly 24 years ago my mum 13 years ago,still miss them so much,my brother died two years ago.If you feel you can't cope try and look up some bereavment sites etc,like "Cruise".

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Originally posted by Ross:

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Originally posted by TanyaHyde:
I do too, but it's still quiet raw for the op.

I think it's raw for everyone. Always. Forever. It comes to us all though and I'd rather go with a smile on my face.

I know what you are saying but I felt hootie only wanted the laugh.

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Originally posted by cologne1:
Can you answer a question please? Why, when you have nothing positive to say, do you post in this thread?

I wouldn't say my posts have been negative at all.

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Originally posted by Ross:

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Originally posted by Tina:
thank you all
so i guess its just time

Yes. I suppose so. It's not like people haven't told you this before.

You don't call that negative?

I've just realised Tina is Nick. And I noiw remember that there was only 2 days between us both losing our Mums.......sorry, Tina, I'm a bit slow tonight x

thats what i dont understand i was back to normal for abit now im down again

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Originally posted by Hypermnesia:


Hiya nick. Working through grief is a process which is as long as a piece of string. If you feel you are stuck and want to move onwards along the journey, it would be a good idea to look for bereavement counselling in your area.

My Dad died two weeks ago today and I feel like I'm back to "normal" already. Wish I didn't though, if that makes sense?

Meantime, look out your happy memories and relish them for what they are x

quote:

Originally posted by Tina:
thought i would start coming to terms with it now but i cant stop thinking about her
i miss my mum
when do you think i will start feeling better x

Time is a healer Tina ... I lost my mum 7 years ago under tragic circumstances ... There was no warning, she was fit and healthy, but she was taken away from us in an accident ... If I'm honest, I still grieve for her, I will always grieve for her ... but time has helped that grief to become something more managable than it was at first ... not sure if that helps at all ... but basically what I'm saying is ... give it time ...

I'm sorry but I have got to say I am absolutely SICK of replying in threads and being inadvertently part of what is going on here at the moment
I wish it would all stop because it is spoiling it for everybody else
Please let go of what has happened on the previous forum and move on

Forumming is supposed to be fun not all this arguing and back biting -I for one am tired of it

Sorry for the rant - but I find it upsetting when I am trying to sympathise with some body who is grieving

CRUSE bereavement care, find your local branch

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Originally posted by Ross:

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Originally posted by cologne1:
Can you answer a question please? Why, when you have nothing positive to say, do you post in this thread?

I wouldn't say my posts have been negative at all.

You could have stopped at agreeing that time will help. Instead you infer that she's heard that before and why go on about it.

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Originally posted by Tina:
thats what i dont understand i was back to normal for abit now im down again

You'll have times like that Tina but they'll get less frequent. There's no time limit. You deal with your grief your way.

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Originally posted by tupps:

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Originally posted by rosgirl:
I'm sorry but I have got to say I am absolutely SICK of replying in threads and being inadvertently part of what is going on here at the moment
I wish it would all stop because it is spoiling it for everybody else
Please let go of what has happened on the previous forum and move on

Forumming is supposed to be fun not all this arguing and back biting -I for one am tired of it

Sorry for the rant - but I find it upsetting when I am trying to sympathise with some body who is grieving

eh?

Sorry it was in response to something earlier and the thread seems to have moved on - it is bad on here though

heart of stone eh

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Originally posted by rosgirl:
I'm sorry but I have got to say I am absolutely SICK of replying in threads and being inadvertently part of what is going on here at the moment
I wish it would all stop because it is spoiling it for everybody else
Please let go of what has happened on the previous forum and move on

Forumming is supposed to be fun not all this arguing and back biting -I for one am tired of it

Sorry for the rant - but I find it upsetting when I am trying to sympathise with some body who is grieving

snaffle

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Originally posted by Ross:

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Originally posted by PuppyDooDoo:

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Originally posted by Ross:

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Originally posted by Tina:
thank you all
so i guess its just time

Yes. I suppose so. It's not like people haven't told you this before.

You don't call that negative?

No. I'd call it fact. Sorry, but I'm not going to pretend mine is dancing around on some cloud somewhere.

Not asking you to, just wanted to know exactly what you thought the last bit of your post implied. It may be fact but IMHO it isn't appropriate when someone is obviously upset and asking for some support.

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Originally posted by cologne1:

quote:

Originally posted by Ross:

quote:

Originally posted by cologne1:
Can you answer a question please? Why, when you have nothing positive to say, do you post in this thread?

I wouldn't say my posts have been negative at all.

You could have stopped at agreeing that time will help. Instead you infer that she's heard that before and why go on about it.

In future I'll pm you my posts for prior approval then.

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Originally posted by rosgirl:
I'm sorry but I have got to say I am absolutely SICK of replying in threads and being inadvertently part of what is going on here at the moment
I wish it would all stop because it is spoiling it for everybody else
Please let go of what has happened on the previous forum and move on

Forumming is supposed to be fun not all this arguing and back biting -I for one am tired of it

Sorry for the rant - but I find it upsetting when I am trying to sympathise with some body who is grieving

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Originally posted by Ross:

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Originally posted by cologne1:

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Originally posted by Ross:

quote:

Originally posted by cologne1:
Can you answer a question please? Why, when you have nothing positive to say, do you post in this thread?

I wouldn't say my posts have been negative at all.

You could have stopped at agreeing that time will help. Instead you infer that she's heard that before and why go on about it.

In future I'll pm you my posts for prior approval then.

Good call.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Tina:
thats what i dont understand i was back to normal for abit now im down again [QUOTE]

Many things can bring back memories without warning Tina. Things like hearing a particular piece of music, seeing a flower in bloom in the garden, birdsong in spring, smelling a scent or perfume when out shopping. All these and other things can trigger a memory, it all comes flooding back without warning and seems to start the grieving process up again.

It isn't though, it's all part of the grieving process and in time the sudden flashbacks and memories won't feel quite as raw and indeed will start to feel good. Just give yourself plenty of time. It's all quite natural.