So very sorry Ditty   Mum is at peace now xx

 

 

do as you think fit today - tis a strange day - didnt hit me with my Mum till the next morning ...

 

 

Ditty, glad it was peaceful at the very end.

Condolences to you and your family Ditty It's a blessing she had a peaceful ending, and is now free of suffering. I too was numb on the day when Mum passed, friends and family who came round couldn't understand why I was offering to make tea all the time instead of crying, that all came later. Just take each moment as it comes xxxxxxx

My condolences Ditty, you have plenty of time to grieve, just you do whatever comes to mind now. It didn't hit me til after my mums funeral. Just take solace in the happier memories you have xxxxx

Awww Ditty, I am glad it was peaceful   No more pain for her, no more struggling and suffering, follow your instincts as to what to do, they are your best guide, and no the hospice vicar calling was not a coincidence, as the song goes 'His eyes are on the sparrow and I know He watches me'.  God Bless.

So sorry to hear of your loss Ditty, although thankfully the end was peaceful and pain free, big love to you all at this very sad time, xxx

Thinking of you and your family.

Just do what feels right for you today and remember we are all here for you, so sorry for your loss 

you have my deepest condolences Ditty 

 

you know we're all here if you need us xx

Dreadfully sorry for you and your family's loss Ditty

My condolences

I've been wondering how you were lately, Ditty I'm so sad to hear your news Forget your routine, just do whatever you feel like doing, especially tonight. I'm glad she passed away peacefully and I will be willing you all the strength & support you need to get you through this difficult time

Heartfelt condolences to you and your family, Ditty.

Your mum's suffering is over now and I'm pleased that it was peaceful at the end.

There are no rules to grieving, just do whatever feels right for you.

I am so, so, so sorry for you Ditty. I don't know you that well but this forum acquaints us all and as you have included us in this painful time in your life then I hope you will accept my sincerest condolences. In fact 'condolences' always sounds so formal and stuffy, have a big warm hug! A right good tight, loving one that imbues you with all the strength that I wish for you in the days ahead.

I said it before, you are doing this. You're doing it well. You'll probably doubt that in certain moments but even in those moments you're still doing it.

 

The dog's got his kibble - so you have that Bacardi if that's what you fancy! Lots of love, take care of yourself xxx 

 

xxx

 

Ditty my sincerest condolences to you and all of your family.

Ditts     Sorry for your loss, but glad that the end was peaceful.   Her struggles are over and you had a year, which, while it was no doubt painful, you also all filled with happy moments and lots of love.   Eventually that'll be a comfort I'm sure - for now.. do whatever the heck you feel like. x 

 

Sorry for your loss DPT, thankfully she passed away peacefully.

 

Keep talking to the forum when you need to.

Thoughts are with you.

So sorry to hear that ,not been on line for ages,my deepest sympathy tp you and your family.

Ditty 

Truly sorry for your loss Ditty and my deepest condolences to you and your family 

Dear Ditty, I'm so sorry  

 

There are no rules right now; just be how you feel  

yeah thank you..   all of you..  

 

you've all helped so much throughout all this..     sometimes I haven't acknowledged individual posts but I have read & appreciated every single one.   They do help..    thank you xxx

 

Last few weeks were too much -  we were in this headfeck of a limbo hell... I was barely using the laptop and hadn't even looked on here..   main coping mechanism was long walks with Loki & MrD..    then coming home & knocking myself out with Zopiclone...   it felt like it was never going to end...   

 

now it has and I want to purge the last few weeks from my head..   I do not want to remember her like that..    but gawd..    I don't know how people don't end up traumatised after going through this..    

 

anyways... its over now..  determined effort now to not think about any of the recent stuff..    

 

I'm trying not to..   but I can';t help it..    I just feel broken

Oh, Ditty.  

 

I'm so sorry she's gone, but glad to hear it was peaceful. To hell with routine, although sometimes there's comfort in the routine chores we do.

 

I wish you love and healing, although it's gonna take some time for that healing part, I suspect. 

So sad ditty. One day at a time 

Ditty, mr summer said exactly the same the last few weeks/months before the actual death, catch up with you hard when it all suddenly stops and it's such an awful feeling. Be proud of yourself for looking after your mum, you were there for her when she needed you. There will be so much to do in next week or two too, so make sure you take that doggy out and get your daily fresh air xxx

our local crematorium has a back log...    so its looking like it'll be at least two weeks before the funeral..   

 

on the plus side it gives us longer to make the arrangements...  on the down side it kinda drags it all out even longer... 

 

brother & I had both, secretly, been thinking about stuff that needed to be done when we got to this point..   so we were all pretty much on the ball..   Dad wants to be kept busy and wants to do the stuff..   but needs one of us with him to help with the decision making..   

 

hardest bits today were hearing my Dad telling my Mums body that he would be joining her soon    and then getting him to let her body go, to let the funeral directors take her..

 

he's calmer now though apparently..     My brother has done the best part of a bottle of scotch with him..   hopefully he'll sleep now     

 

 

So sorry Ditty  xx

A sad, sad time Ditty, a head full of,  If only's, sadness, guilty feelings, what do I do now, were has Mum gone, how will life/family be without her..

 

All these thoughts, even if you are not having them are normal..

 

One day in the future you will realize your Mum is always with you, usually when you say something that she used to say (that you usually raised your eyebrows at) and you will smile and feel comforted that she is always with you.

 

 xx

 

 

 

 

 

 

so sorry to hear this Ditty  you will always think of her - at the most random moments but it is very comforting - thinking of you

I am so sorry for you, hard times ahead, thinking about you 

Deepest condolences Ditty.

 

Deepest sympathies Ditty xx  

 

You've coped so well and been real a lynchpin for your family  Go on have some Bacardi or whatever you feel like. It must be very difficult now all the care activity has suddenly stopped as that filled your day.

 

Your Mum's passing sounds wonderfully peaceful thankfully xx

Please accept my condolences Ditty  It was the tenth anniversary of my mums death Monday of this week  

Loads of love Ditty. As ever. I elaborated a bit in the Ship. 

 

You're one of the strongest people I think I've never met.  It would be a privilege to do so some time in RL. 

 

Love to you all in the Ditty orbit. 

thank you again..   all of you..  

 

am now pretty sloshed on pina colada with a zopi chaser..     and its 1am..     and I have been left to put the dog to bed & turn everything off & lock up etc..  

 

its been a bit of a while since it was me doing this 

 

gonna stagger around & try & get the dog to have a last wee in the garden..   

 

then throw myself in the direction of any switchs that need to be off & then ricochet up the stairs & hurl myself in the general direction of me bed!

 

 

Night all.     thank you...    

 

I may well feel the need ot delite this post in the morning 

 

but right now..   feeling ok, and very very fluffy, fuzzy & floaty lite    I like it

Ditty, im so sorry to hear about your mum, my thoughts are with you and your family.

 

Erin asked me to give you a message from her...she sends you  and she is thinking of you xxx

My thoughts are with you Dits,xx

 

Thank you, 

 

where is Erin?    is she ok?