Thats beautiful Pirate, and true  

Pirate that's really touching. Maybe you could read it out or if that's to hard (it was for me) maybe get it printed on the order of service?

 absolutely lovely Pirate 

Awwwwwwww Pirate - that's lovely.

Hope you're bearing up 

read the whole thing to sis

theres a lot more to it

she approved

she said it was lovely

i havent cried or ate today

cos ma died within 24hours of being in hospital

it has to go to coroners

but bro-in-law said she'd been in hospital a few days earlier

so this should speed it up-no coroners-the thought of somer stranger cutting my mom kills me

im truley ****ed up at the moment

Pirate! SuperHugs for you! Lovely poem for your mum and so glad to hear your sis is ok with you at this terrible time. Try not to think about the other thing... impossible I know, but concentrate on remembering happy times if you can. 

Pirate, take it steady and try to remember that a coroner will ask pertinent questions of the doctors who last - or recently - treated your mum.  It may just be a simple inquiry and nothing more.

Please eat something too.

Oh Lord, that must be so distressing Pirate 

You have to look after your health though, please try to eat something 

pirate, that's magic xx keep writing , it's a good way to get it out xx

Really feel for you.

and dunno if this helps, but when we lost my mum she had just got out of hospital earlier that day but there was no action taken- hope it goes the same way for you x

my mom always said i should write poems

but not so rude

off to bed/floor

night

That poem is just what she would have wanted as a testament. You express what your beloved Mum meant to you and everyone, so well   

Try to get some sleep if you can Pirate, Goodnight mate  

Lovely poem pirate 

lovely words, Pirate - and as Cosi says, don't worry unduly about the coroner thing - she'd been ill, so it may well be just a paperwork formality  

That's lovely and heartfelt, Pirate.

ive been in bed

got  the worst pain from my shoulder to my neck

no sleep 

ive eaten

made a stew/soup

Glad you've eaten xx now try and get the sleep cracked xx

Pirate  so sorry... you must be going through hell 

Could your GP give you short term sleeping meds and something for pain?

Still in my thoughts pirate 

How are you doing today Pirate?  

Take care Pirate.

just spoke to sis

she + bro-in-law got papers sorted for mom

got it registered etc..

she's decided all the music/readings

she said she's having ma buried

and buried at same place HER dad is buried

and she 'hopes i dont mind'

i do f*cking mind

but i agreed with her to keep the peace

Aw Pirate times like this are hard enough without having to battle with family is it just the 2 of you? or do you have other siblings who have also had no say in it all?

got an elder bro

he's upset but told her to do whatever

he cant be arsed with her

Oh dear pirate....it's not easy, is it

off to bed

OH's birthday tomorrow

so gotta be up early to perform a sing and dance routine*

*LIE

but gonna make breakfast for her

Goodnight Pirate.... hope you get a good night's rest

Organizing a funeral isn't easy, but i guess not getting the chance is harder.

Do you feel you could stay calm in asking her to be involved? The last thing either of you need is to fight with each other. maybe give in on the burial etc but ask to be part of the service? ie read your poem or have your poem read out? You dont want to end up resenting her or regretting not speaking up..... but only if you feel you can keep it civil (even if she doesn't)

Night Pirate, Happy Birthday to Mrs Pirate

If you let her have her head on this one (and I've got to say that it's commendable that you're not making waves), then it's only fair that you and your bro have a say in another way.

I think it'd be fair dibs if you and bro decide on the headstone or whatever memorial you've in mind for her.

You're a one of pirate.

Take care my friend.

Pirate, it is to your credit that you don't want to make waves at this time.

If your sis won't include your poem in the service, you can always go to your mum's graveside and read it, as a personal tribute to her.

Its absolutely awful Pirate   I feel very, very sorry for you xx

A funeral service is an important part of the grieving process. Ask her politely again, to at least have your poem read out? She has no right to dictate what the entire service should be and to exclude you and your brother. Your sister sounds like a total control freak!

We're on your side mate  

p*ssed as a rat

but on moms 'day' im doing a buffet for my my mates & playing my moms favourite songs

cos sis said she's having tea & sandwiches  at her house

and i should go to be with my friends

So sorry to hear this, pirate, and sorry to hear that there are problems with your sis. 

Pirate, my heart goes out to you, it really does  
There are always those who nearly trip over themselves to be chief mourners. Do what YOU feel is right in your heart, Pirate. Peace there, is more important, i think. I have been there ...Take care xx

Skylark's got the best advice there Pirate.   You're doing well not making waves too  - bet your Mum's proud of you.    Then again, I'm a believer that the last resting place really isn't important - I don't need to go to a certain place to think about my Mum - I think about her all the time and I believe she knows that.

 I echo what Skylark and Kaffy have said. 

Yes indeed Kaffy., i believe that too. Hopefully you will see that too Pirate, in time of course when things settle xx