That's because it is.  It will mend though, eventually.

Nothing can take away those precious memories; you'll always have them

Awww pirate

Pirate, is there no one you can call..? 

oh this is awful

she was alright on friday morning

shes dead now

i dont know what to do

im gonna go to bed

my head is f*cked

 

 

where is you OH, you need to be with someone 

So true Joe 

i cant stop crying

You don't have to do anything, Pirate, honestly you don't. 

Pirate, words fail me.

Gutted for you pirate  

 

Heart sank when I read this.

Oh Pirate so sad, you shouldn't be on your own mate. If there really is no one around tonight theres plenty here or maybe you could try to get some sleep. Really feel for you mate.... at least you had chance to be there with her and she knew you were there.

 

 

Pirate, its going to take time..my mum died two years ago and I held her hand...but it's still raw. cry when you want to, be angry when you want to and just have quiet times when you need them, its all part of grieving  it doesn't matter how old or young our loved ones are, we love them all the same, the hurt is just the same and the healing is just the same 

That's what I was wondering 

Dame speaks sense there

Let it all out. When you're ready, come back here and talk to us 

We are here mate when ever you need us 

how ironic my mom dies on the same date 20th April as my dad died

 

im on the brandy

 

but promised OH that im not going to go bonkers

aww pirate - so sorry for you I know exactly how you feel take care

aww dame so true 

there was people docs/nurses who looked after my mom in A&E

when mom died i went to them & thanked them for what they did

they were really upset

i couldnt do that job

im p*ssed

off to sit in the kitchen

 

and listen to the radio 

it calms me down

Was it QE Pirate? That's where my mom was

That was good of you. I think they get forgotten about at times 

 

Me either. They're worth their weight in gold those people 

SO sorry Pirate  

You should've had much more time with your Mum... its awful you were denied that .

But your Mum was at peace and she KNEW exactly how much you loved her. 

Remember you are not alone, we are here xx 

Pirate - its sh*t cos its meant to be sh*t

You feel dreadful cos thats how you're meant to feel

There's nothing you can do - ride it out, have a drink, drift off to sleep when the time comes.

And sometime in weeks to come you'll not feel so bad - it will come, be patient.

Don't try! It's natural to cry at a time like this. It's even a healthy thing.

The worst thing you could do is try and force everything to be 'normal' 'cos that will actually delay the process of natural healing.

 

My mum died 7 years ago and I still have a teary moment now and then, We all heal at our own pace, so don't worry if you see others 'getting better' before you do, or you 'getting better' before others appear to.

 

There's no definitive 'right-way' or 'wrong-way' to get through a time like this - so listen to your body....it knows best.

 

But right now the best thing will be for you to get some rest. Sleep if you can, but just lie down and rest even if you feel sleep is impossible right now.

This ^^^ I'm currently in contact with someone who has not long lost his dad and it's hard to know what to say or do.

 

As I said before.........one day at a time for everyone 

Och, God love you Pirate. It's awfully sore for you. I wish you strength to cope with this unbearable sadness. Cry. 

   

Just come in late here. Not much to say that hasn't already been said better, so I'll just send a great big .

So sorry to hear of your loss pirate, big hugs to you xxc

I'm so sorry for your loss Pirate..  I really do feel your pain xxx

 

I read what others have written and what it tells me is that somehow we survive this pain..   but I totally get how right now that seems like something other people manage but not you.

 

As you probably know, my Mum has been terminally ill since June...   I haven't really stopped crying since then...   I'm pretty much in the same state as you.. so don't really have any advice..   apart from - let your OH help you.. don't shut her out.   They love us, and seeing us so heartbroken hurts them, they want to be there for us, they want to help us, its just really really hard for them to know how. 

 

Talk to her, don't shut her out, - its sometimes easier said than done...   cos there are times when it feels like a very very private pain, or just that you are hurting too much anyway to want to talk about it, like talking about it will just make it hurt even more.    It actually doesn't make it hurt more.

 

I'm just coming out of a phase of shutting everyone out (I would have shut myself out if I could have)...  but it hasn't helped.   And its just made the OH more worried, and it distanced us a bit, which eventually made things even worse for me.    

 

Let her love you xxxxxx

 

Healing thoughts Pirate xxxxxx

So sorry to hear of your sad news (((hug))) x

 

I too held my mums hand when she died in 2006. Take time to grieve & seek comfort from family + friends.

She will always live on in your precious memories & in your heart xx

My condolences, pirate1111

Well said Sooz, just what I was thinking.

 

thinking about you this morning Pirate - hope you are feeling a teeny bit better 

 

it will take time but you will get there - nothing prepares you for these times in life 

Pirate, buddy, I've been there. It will be 3 years this July since my mum passed away. What you're going through and what you're feeling right now is perfectly normal. Cry, keep crying, don't ever hold it in. Take time out for yourself.

 

As cliched as it sounds, time is a healer, you won't ever be over it and you'll still have days, even 3 years on, when you need a good weep. But you will also remember the happy times and the precious moments and you need to embrace them.

 

The next few weeks and months will be tough, but with a strong family unit and friends, you will get through this.

 

Sorry for your loss.

Again, so sorry for your loss Pirate. Hope you got through the night ok