Losing your virginity

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angelicarwen

Having read a quote from what seems like everyones favourite celeb about when she lost her virginity

"I was 15 when I lost my virginity, but I made my boyfriend wait three months, so I am really proud of myself for that. The thought of being intimate with someone you don't know really freaks me out. I think men should earn that intimacy." Cheryl Cole discusses her relationship history with Glamour magazine.

I was just wondering what everyone thought about losing your virginity at 15? Do you think 16 is the perfect age? Is there a perfect age to lose your virginity?

Sorry it's offtopic

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LeccyMember

I think 16 is a good age of consent, however I don't see that a moral guideline (ie that it's immoral to lose your virginity before that age)...it's there to protect kids.

I don't think there is a "good" age, only a good set of circumstances.

So no, I don't see anything particularly wrong with Cheryl losing it at 15, providing she was safe (in all senses of the word)

1/8/1010:12 AM

angelicarwenMember

Ooh very sensible leccy

I was expecting someone to come in here and shout 'You slaaag!'

1/8/1010:15 AM

Blizz'ardMember 10 years

'You slaaag!'

1/8/1010:18 AM

LeccyMember

I've never understood that concept. I can see how people can come to the conclsuion that the younger someone becomes sexually active they will have more chances for more partners but I think it's flawed logic.

1/8/1010:20 AM

DemantoidMember

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but I made my boyfriend wait three months, so I am really proud of myself for that

Wow - THREE WHOLE MONTHS! Whoop-de-flippin-do..

Leaving aside all moral arguments, it's been medically proven that the younger girls start having sex, the greater their future risk of cervical cancer. Seems a good enough reason to wait.

1/8/1010:22 AM

Blizz'ardMember 10 years

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Wow - THREE WHOLE MONTHS! Whoop-de-flippin-do..

I've been married 21 years and have gone back to the 'making'em wait' rule.

1/8/1010:25 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

nowt wrong with 15

(IN MY GENERATION)

Should be at least 21 (WHEN REFERRING TO MY DAUGHTER & HER GENERATION)

1/8/1010:26 AM

LeccyMember

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it's been medically proven that the younger girls start having sex, the greater their future risk of cervical cancer. Seems a good enough reason to wait.

That is a really good point, I had forgotten about that in my initial post.

I have a question though, is that based purely on biological age or physical sexual maturity?

1/8/1010:26 AM

Karma_Member

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I was just wondering what everyone thought about losing your virginity at 15? Do you think 16 is the perfect age? Is there a perfect age to lose your virginity?

1/8/1010:30 AM

DemantoidMember

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I have a question though, is that based purely on biological age or physical sexual maturity?

I wasn't sure, so I found this:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/8420690.stm

1/8/1010:32 AM

LeccyMember

Ahh cheers for that Deman. Interesting.

This bit: The investigation into why poorer women have a higher risk of the disease found they tended to have sex about four years earlier than more affluent women.

Well they have to find something to do when they don't have ponies

1/8/1010:35 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

surely the 'younger you do it, the more likely you are to get cervical cancer' thing is based on if you start younger you are more likely to have more partners?

1/8/1010:38 AM

Karma_Member

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I don't think there is a "good" age, only a good set of circumstances.

Absolutely. It is imperative that a girl (and this applies to males too), take that step when they are in the right place emotionally and feel the time is right.

I think it's a selfish thing. I'm not into this 'must be in a loving relationship' stuff, I see no difference in being with the person of your dreams or the person you've paid an hour for, as long as it's at the right time for the individual.

1/8/1010:39 AM

Karma_Member

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based on if you start younger you are more likely to have more partners?

I can only speak from personal experience, but for me that certainly wasn't the case.

1/8/1010:41 AM

LeccyMember

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surely the 'younger you do it, the more likely you are to get cervical cancer' thing is based on if you start younger you are more likely to have more partners?

OOh I've just called that flawed logic up there

1/8/1010:41 AM

Garage JoeMember

Of course in my day the girl waited until she had his ring on her finger, so to speak.

1/8/1010:41 AM

LeccyMember

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I can only speak from personal experience, but for me that certainly wasn't the case.

1/8/1010:41 AM

DemantoidMember

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surely the 'younger you do it, the more likely you are to get cervical cancer' thing is based on if you start younger you are more likely to have more partners?

The link I posted says:

"But the number of sexual partners a woman has and smoking did not account for any of the difference."

So no, apparently not.

1/8/1010:42 AM

Karma_Member

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Of course in my day the girl waited until she had his ring on her finger, so to speak.

Thank God I 'developed' in the rather modern late 80's cos there are a few I've told to go swivel in my time.

1/8/1010:43 AM

JoyronMember

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Of course in my day the girl waited until she had his ring on her finger, so to speak

Glad someone else remembers the time when we did wait!!!

1/8/1010:47 AM

HeartacheMember

Well l was 18 and engaged. Then dumped the twit 5 years later. Then did'nt look back for some years. And since 1996 l have been a born again Virgin.

1/8/1010:48 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

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OOh I've just called that flawed logic up there

Aw sorry Leccy... I didn't see you'd already said that (tis what you get when you try and do serious forum posting at the same time as cooking tea!).

As for flawed logic.... It think its more about statistically if you start younger you are more likely to have more...

I dunno how true it is... I can think of the exceptions ... both the young starters who stayed with the bloke forever... and the late starters that once they got a taste for it... were unstoppable!

1/8/1010:49 AM

LeccyMember

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Glad someone else remembers the time when we did wait!!!

I can't think of anything worse than waiting til you have signed up for life with someone then finding out you are sexually incompatible.

1/8/1010:50 AM

LeccyMember

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It think its more about statistically if you start younger you are more likely to have more...

Yeah I can see that but if we're just talking the differnce of a year or so I can't see how it would make much difference to the final er...tally...unless we are talking a reallu busy girl.

(again apologies for all my typos today, I'm gonna have to get the FF add on for this PC)(

1/8/1010:55 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

true!

maybe its that there are more boys about at school (assuming this is based on a demographic that doesn't stay on to sixth form, and is co-ed)...

Oh who knows Leccy. Most stats quoted are twisted anyway

1/8/1011:03 AM

DemantoidMember

No - read my post above and the link. Number of partners is NOT a factor, just the age you start having them.

1/8/1011:08 AM

LeccyMember

Oh I did read it and see that Deman, I think we've gone off on a tangent here about promiscuity

1/8/1011:09 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

lol.. sorry Toid!

you've told me that about three times... and I have been flying back and forwards and I ignored you....

you must be screaming at the screen...

I am off to read your link now!

1/8/1011:10 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

So they may have also been infected with HPV earlier, giving the virus more time to produce the long sequence of events that are needed for cancer development."

Dr Lesley Walker, director of cancer information at Cancer Research UK, said the study raised some interesting questions.

"Although women can be infected by HPV at any age, infections at a very young age may be especially dangerous as they have more time to cause damage that eventually leads to cancer.

ahhh.. ok.. so its cos of the dormancy & timeline of the HPV virus... as in the earlier you get HPV... the earlier it will reach the stage of becoming cervical cancer.

Surely it just means the woman gets it a couple of years later...

oh god this is making my head hurt!

Someone get back to whether its ok to have it off at 15 or not....

1/8/1011:16 AM

DuckyMember 10 years

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have it off

I haven't heard that phrase for years!

1/8/1011:18 AM

DuckyMember 10 years

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Surely it just means the woman gets it a couple of years later...

I suppose every year counts when the mimimum screening age is ______

(please fill in the gap as I really have no idea

)

1/8/1011:19 AM

LeccyMember

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Someone get back to whether its ok to have it off at 15 or not....

It's the right time for the invidual, not some mythical 1 day before16th birthday=bad, 1 day after=good.

1/8/1011:20 AM

Former Member

I don't have a problem with a girl losing her virginity at 15 (or younger) if she makes an informed decision without being pressured, is emotionally mature, and above all, practices safe sex. What amazes me is that Cheryl Cole said that she feels proud of herself for making someone wait for three months! That's not exactly a long time or something I would feel proud of

1/8/1011:21 AM

Garage JoeMember

It's an eternity for the top-right.

1/8/1011:25 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

Reference: Ducky... best snow sculptress ever!

I haven't heard that phrase for years

its a dodgy one to use nowadays.... in some areas it means having a fisty cuffs (ooh... and that phrase could be misconstrued too

1/8/1011:26 AM

Former Member

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Of course in my day the girl waited until she had his ring on her finger, so to speak.

How rooode!

1/8/1011:27 AM

TrollopMember

Please do not make me talk about the loss of my virginity...

1/8/1011:28 AM

Crunchy NutsMember

You say the 3 months isn't a long time to wait, but believe me at the time it felt like 3 years, not 3 months. I'm 3 years younger than Cheryl so obviously we've had much better days since.

1/8/1011:28 AM

SazBombMember

I agree with Leccy and Growly that there isn't a right age, but a right set of circumstances... I think the suggestion I heard somewhere about teaching self respect and whatnot as part of sex ed is a really good one

1/8/1011:31 AM

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