I don't know your family history or why there are feuds you have to mediate at such a time but, ask yourself what would your mum say.

 

Would she rather you give up a holiday and stress yourself out even more to the point of possibly getting ill or would she rather you carried on Life as normal as you can while she is in recovery?

 

Sorry the situation has added family stress and hope your mum recovers well

 

 

Very said news, Ells

 

You are not selfish for wanting to go on holiday in October - you need it and you should take it.

It's those who are feuding who are selfish, not you.

 

I hope your mum recovers well

Olly my Mum would definitely say to go on holiday.  She hates the thought of 'putting us out' when she's sick.  She always says if she ever gets to the stage where she can't look after herself then put her in a home.  We wouldn't do that anyway but that's the type of her, not wanting to be a burden.

 

El Loro....I agree, they are being selfish.  I am really fuming at them for making this all so much harder.

Ells

 

How awful for you - I only look in from time to time and I'm really sad to see this.

 

I hope you get your holiday - I'm sure things won't fall apart if you take your eye off the ball for a week or two - you'll be deserving of the break by October. It's early days I'm sure with help your mum will start to make progress soon.

 

Sometimes life is shit - I suppose the only positive thing to come out of it is that we should learn to appreciate  the good times.

 

Look after yourself - much love to you and your family xxxx

Soozy, without meaning to be soppy....I have missed you   thank you for posting, it is such a shit time.  I don't think I am built for stress lol.  I usually look to my big sister for advice and to help me through things but to be honest she's worse than me at the minute and her own anxiety/depression issues are rocketing because of it all.

 

I think today is just a bad day for me because the initial shock has worn off and I'm knackered running to the hospital every day and having the kids at home and my partner working all week.  I'll relax at the weekend when he's off.

Sorry to hear about your mum Ellis

Your not selfish at all for going on holiday, have a word with your sisters and explain that things will be harder if you are all arguing

Sorry to hear about your mum, Ells.

 

I think you ought to book that holiday - you have a young family to think of as well as your mum, and it will do you good to re-charge your batteries, then you will be better able to help with your mum once you are back home.

Before you go, I'd get your siblings together and warn them that if they do anything in your absence to upset your mum, you'll throttle them.

Aw Ells - sorry to hear about your Mum      

 

Book your holiday - for sure!   You'll need it - it sounds like your Mum probably has a long road ahead of her and she'll need all the help you can get when she comes home, and you need your time too.

 

I'm in the 'tell them all if they're going to fight, not to take it into the hospital' camp - then let them get on with it.  You've enough to think about with your family and your Mum without having to babysit grown ups who should know better,  Selfish idiots.

 

Good to see your avi btw - just a shame it's bad circumstances that brought you here.   

Aww Ells  so sorry such a tragic thing has happened  What Yogi says is very good advice.

Its a long long road back from a stroke...  whatever recovery is possible [I pray it is for your Mum  ] will take months if not years? It could be a long haul and you grabbing a much needed break for a few days, won't make any difference to your Mum's condition! It'll stop you from cracking up is all. 

 

The inter-family fighting must be awful Ells, and so draining for you  xx

Ells sorry to hear all you're going through..

Dont feel bad for still wanting to go on holiday.... Although take insurance that allows a refund if you decide to cancel (you don't know how she will be and might not want to go by Oct)

As for the arguing! You need that like a hole in the head atm. Tell them all to grow up!

 

Ells 

 

sorry to read this and hope in a little while things settle down for you all

 

 

Thanks for the replies folks, I was having a little wobble this morning just but I think I'm ok now.

 

Jen, that's a good idea, I will definitely do that

 

Physio said mum is very strong and willing to co-operate so that's some good news today The in-fighting has also been talked about and it seems everyone is too tired to fight each other so hopefully it's not as bad as I was thinking.

Aww Ells  Glad you got that little bit of good news today.   Hope your Mum will gradually get stronger xx 

Sorry to hear that you and your family are going through a bit of a rough patch.  Hope that things sort themselves out and that your mum is soon on the road to recovery

It's all been said Ells ... just want to give you a big hug

That's good news, on both counts.

That's good news, Ells - it's amazing what they can accomplish if the patient's willing to work with them.    That's half the battle.  

 

 

Sorry to hear about you Mum Ells and pleased things are looking a bit more positive since you posted earlier 

Really sorry to hear about your mum Ells  I hope she recovers quickly ....and yes, you should go on holiday  

Glad things are looking a bit brighter

Awwww Ells, so , so sorry to read this honey Although pleased to hear things are looking up a bit today. And YES, you'll need a holiday by Oct. book it DEFINITELY. Take care of yourself sweetheart xxx

Just spoke to my Dad and he insists I book my holiday.  His point was the other 3 sisters have all been on holiday this summer and my Mum would hate to know I cancelled because of this.  I still feel rotten about leaving them.  It's 10 weeks away so we're not sure whether she'll be in hospital still or at home but he said they'll cope just fine and the rest of them can just do my share til I get home.  

 

Thank you all for the well wishes, they do mean a lot.  And I will most definitely take those hugs 

I hope things improve for you Ells and i hope your mum makes a full recovery

 

BTW I've missed Soozy on the forum also.

Ells  

 

1.  I hope your mum makes a good recovery and soon

2.  Look after yourself so that you can look after everyone else

3.  Go on holiday

 

 

(PS, despite the circumstances it's nice to see you on here)

Cosi, I do come here a lot, I just don't post much because I'm just a baby bore at the minute   I think I'll stick around though.  The posts (especially Pirate's) make me laugh!

Come back and post, Ells, you won't bore me with your baby stories.

Aww sorry to hear this Ells. I don't come in here often nowadays either.

All good advice given above which I agree with. See - just writing it all down helped! Hope you enjoy your break and your Mum makes a good recovery

Nor Me Ells  Maddy is a gawjuss wee cutie pie and I love hearing your baby stories. Her parping at the christening made me LOL  Sooo cute xx

 

Hope your Mum is doing ok today xx 

Oh gosh Rog, I had forgotten about that  Reminds me of a convo I had with a friend on facebook years ago about my now 9 year old who was about 5 or 6 at the time.  We had come back from McDonalds and he was eating his cheeseburger when he left the room.  That was ok, he'd probably gone to throw the remainder of the burger in the bin.  After a few minutes I looked for him and couldn't find him downstairs so went to his room, nope, not there.  Heard a noise from the bathroom and looked in to find him sat on the loo doing his business while still eating his cheeseburger.  My friend (who lives in scotland so has never met him) still brings this story up when I mention him at all.  I would forget all this things if other people didn't remind me lol.

 

Ells: Now that you've worked your way through this question...

I'm sorry to hear about your mum, and the family squabbles that have come up. I'm glad to hear you WILL take the holiday, as it's so important to take care of yourself so that you are rested and refreshed and can take care of all the people that you do!

 

sad to hear about your ma, i hope shes on the mend ASAP

 

as for family situation()...i had the same sorta crap, as im the youngest aswell

i can only advise you from my experience

dont do what i did & be told what to do & then doing it just to keep some kind of peace

put your foot down from the start, not nastily but firmly

i was with someone at the time who had no kids and as i work for myself i was available most of the time & didnt they take advantage of that!

and take your holidays when you can

if your ma is anything like mine was, she'll use her good leg & kick you out the front door & make you go

all the best in the world to you

Thanks you lot

 

Pirate, grrrr families are nightmares aren't they?  Just because you grow up with someone doesn't mean you automatically become friends.

 

I have decided I am most definitely booking the holiday.  I know 100% that my Mum would want me to so I am going ahead with it and if anyone passes comment on it they will get told to eff off.  

  And quite right too! 

bloody true

i dont speak to my bro/sis...and i cant find my other family (my dad had a bike)

dont make the mistake i did & keep backing down, thats when the respect goes & arguments kick in, its like they stamp their feet until they wear you down & get their own way

keep yer pecker up & you'll sort it mate

 

Now I do not believe that at all..!  What's not to love about a baby especially when they're as cute as your little Maddy    

Reading your post Ells, makes want to say, love your mum as you love your mum, don't enter into sibling rivalry.

 

My thoughts are with you xxx