Originally Posted by Senora Reyes:
Originally Posted by cologne 1:
I read an article about this today. Apparantly she kept a book on his past relationships as well. The judge only gave him community service because he hadn't been violent towards her. I think the relationship was mutually destructive with him coming out of it worse because he should not make her feel frightened. He left his wife for her, so his wife will have just given her honest opinion of him. I also don't understand why a healthy young woman unencumbered by children couldn't just walk away.
The question I've been asking too, why would anyone in thier right mind stay with such an overbearing control freak?..I don't think she is as innocent as she is making out, and please don't think I am defending Collins because I am not..
SR, I have a friend that lived with a man who controlled her ,our friendship ended as did her relationship with her family,he saw to that but she couldn't see what he was doing.She had no friends, family, nothing but him.He would ask her if she had gone out and where she had gone ,he would then check the mileage to see if it matched.Other things he did and systematically put her through I wouldn't write on a forum.
If I saw her in the street she would avoid me,get into a panic.One time she( with her husband) bumped into my brother and he stopped to chat ,she paid the price when she returned home."Who was he" "Did they ever go out" "What was he saying".A few years later he agreed to go to marriage guidance, she thought this was a turning point and they could make it work but he accused her of flirting with the councillor.
When she did leave him (he slept with someone else) it was like she had come out of a cult.She can't believe what she lived through and why she stayed but she did.