Some parents are bastards  

yep

 The father who left me at 11 

He's the only one you'll ever have

 Is there any way the two of you can reconcile your differences.?

well hes been my step dad since i was 7.................let me down big time

He's dead now.

Left 66% of his will to his good catholic sister.

Two kids  

Me and my dad had a fall out and did not speak for 3 years, he was in a road traffic accident and spent the last 23 of his life in a wheelchair.... if I could change those three years I would in a heartbeat. Hope you can resolve it Tina 

xx

  I hope you can  sort it too Tina

Tina and Dame.

What was the fight about Tina....perhaps we can help

Syd, Baz and SB 

Sorry Tina I didn't mean to take the focus of your post...just meant to say sometimes it makes sense to sort differences out than let them simmer 

My dad played a blinder today . He might be frail and ill and be the " looked after" one most of the time, but he knows when his lassie needs looked after, and he said all the right things ( and kept his gob shut at the right times! ) I'm really lucky.

and Tina.. over the years my dad and I have clashed, but when push comes to shove, he's the one that I can turn to if needs be. Hope you can sort things.

 I like that Slinki 

As long as he shuts his cakehole when needed.......  xxx 

Me too Velvet Ta! 

My dad was a drunk, and a really nasty one at that

He's older now, still a drunk, still nasty when drunk (but he's learned some humanity)

I benefited from telling...I think he did too

 Go Tina!

 It's timing, eh? Knowing when listening is better than blahhhing  

Yes still learning........

Hope you're well, didn't  to bother you if you were busy 

With a parent I respect it's bite my tongue.

Easy.

my mum died 3 years ago

dad got a new GF 2 years ago

just peed off with him need to get my head together to tell full story

Hoochie   Good to see your Dad is taking in some of your feelings.

you don't need this stress though do you?. Maybe typing it all out will help relieve some of it

Tina I can understand your feelings, that scenario would have made me feel very uncomfortable as well.Maybe your Dad felt lonely which was why he started a new relationship.  Sorry for not being much help here but I only have limited experience of step parents and that is through divorce of my siblings.

Tina

new day tomorrow 

smart xx

Hope you sort it Tina, my dads always been useless,and i can count on 1 hand the number of times ive seen him in  the last ten years. i wish i had a good dad just for one of those dad cuddles i see my mates get, like you say tomorrows another day, good luck.

this fight was big i draged and pushed her out my house

i dont like her never will

 20 years ago I'd have said I hated him ...... they come for Sunday dinner nearly every week now - there's always hope  

That's a great message Hooch.

I'll never have one of those - my dad wouldn't know how.  He didn't get any ....it's a vicious circle that I hope I've broken by choosing my (2nd) husband very carefully....my children get dad cuddles - I'm proud ....and I envy them.  

thanks everyone  xx

just read through this post... hope your ok tina... xx

My husbands father is horrible - he was a bully to his kids when they were young and never showed them any affection (his father was the same) - Mr woo totally broke the cycle - he is a real softie and always cuddled my three when they are young and still hugs them now they're grown up. 

I do think there are cycles like this but thankfully they can be broken.

Hope you sort it out Tina  - and to all you others with unfeeling Dads 

My Dad was a little emotionally retarded but I never ever doubted that he loved us and by the time he was a grandad he let his feelings come out a bit more. Sad that he died aged only 58