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Hollygolightly

I've just come home from Tesco and I'm in tears. I was in line waiting to pay for my stuff and the girl on the till was taking ages, I mean...eternity.

I was standing from 3.20pm and it was 3.35 before I got to the till. Whilst waiting my hubby rang and I told him it was taking ages and the girl on the till was so slow. End of - nothing else added (I promise you)

After hanging up the person beside me, said -
'I find what you just said VERY RUDE, the girl is only doing her job, where do you get off slagging her off you snooty cow! How dare you!!

It takes a lot to shock me but I nearly DIED of embaressment, everyone was looking over. I actually said 'Oh Sorry' but she kept on and on and when she got to the till, told the girl I was 'slagging her off'.... needless to say the girl on the cash till was like frosty the snow man and threw dagger looks at me and started up a conversation about what she has to put up with.
In the end I just walked away leaving my groceries, with the woman still calling me a rude cow.

I'm home now and still shaky. What should I have done? By the way I am sooo not snooty, the woman who called me this was 'new age' - dreadlocks and piercings so maybe me in my coat ,dress and handbag I looked snooty ????

(PLEASE don't think I'm being negative, just explaining her attire.) Hope it doesnt offend any new agers on her)
Anyway thanks for reading this - I just wanted to know how you would have dealt with the situation.

This is the first time anything like this has happened and I'm shocked at how upset I am.

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Dobby1Member

I think these checkout people delibritely go slow at busy times

I do!!

5/7/098:01 AM

loislaneMember

I would of kept on going & done my shopping & told the women who listened to my conversation to mind her own.

Have a hug

You were voicing an opinion on how slow she was geez you didn't insult her FGS. Have a choccie biscuit and a cup of tea.

5/7/098:01 AM

EllsMember

I would have reacted the same way as you holly

Don't mull on it...you know you didn't actually do anything wrong!

Maybe next time you go to Tescos you could tell teh girl at teh desk that you were in no way 'slagging her off' and had just commented to you rhubby that the queue was moving slowly.

5/7/098:02 AM

jujubedooMember

quote:
Originally posted by Hollygolightly:
I've just come home from Tesco and I'm in tears. I was in line waiting to pay for my stuff and the girl on the till was taking ages, I mean...eternity.

I was standing from 3.20pm and it was 3.35 before I got to the till. Whilst waiting my hubby rang and I told him it was taking ages and the girl on the till was so slow. End of nothing else added (I promise you)

After hanging up the person beside me, said -
'I find what you just said VERY RUDE, the girl is only doing her job, where do you get off slagging her off you snooty cow! How dare you!!

It takes a lot to shock me but I nearly DIED of embaressment, everyone was looking over. I actually said 'Oh Sorry' but she kept on and on and when she got to the till, told the girl I was 'slagging her off'.... needless the girl on the cash till was like frosty the snow man and threw dagger looks at me and started up a conversation about what she has to put up with.
In the end I just walked away leaving my groceries, with the woman still calling me a rude cow.

I'm home now and still shaky. What should I have done? By the way I am sooo not snooty, the woman who called me this was 'new age' - dreadlocks and piercings so maybe me in my coat and dress and handbag I looked snooty ????

Anyway thanks for reading this - I just wanted to know how you would have dealt with the situation.

This is the first time anything like this has happened and I'm shocked at how upset I am.

Holly i am just the same as you, i don't really do confrontation, people do things for effect thats all, it gives them a sense of power they probably don't possess personally or in there own relationships, its awful when you are made to feel like it though

5/7/098:02 AM

BazMember VIP10 years

Awwwwww bless

Hope you are feeling a bit better now.

5/7/098:03 AM

darloboy (Play The Game!)Member

Awww Holly

, I would have told the woman to mind her own business, she sure would have if my mom was with me if it ever happened to me

5/7/098:03 AM

Dame_Ann_AverageMember VIP10 years

I wouldn't worry about it, you're not likey to bump into this person again and it was very rude of her to be talking about your telephone conversation !!!!

5/7/098:04 AM

HyacinthBMember

I'd have told her not to be so nosey and comment on what was a private telephone conversation between you and your hubby and nothing to do with anyone else.

Just because you're dressed smartly is no indication that you're a snob.

I'd be upset too though Holly but just sit down, have a nice cup of coffee and forget all about the silly, ignorant mare. She's not worth the time of day quite frankly.

Here, have a big {{{hug}}}

5/7/098:04 AM

HollygolightlyMember

Thank you all so much.

I felt like such a fool crying in the car on the way home. You've made me feel much better. Thanks again

5/7/098:04 AM

Lady PMember

I think I would have said something along the lines of - deny what I've just said - it's the truth and what has it got to do with you anyway?

Have a hug

5/7/098:06 AM

watchinittoomuch (Guest)

I always have Michael Douglas moments in supermarkets

Dont worry, you did nothing wrong..apart from not telling the trappy bint not to nosey on your phonecall...but then you seem very polite

5/7/098:09 AM

MargueritaMember

Hi Holly those two woman sound awful you did the right thing leaving the shopping and walking straight out the door well done you

5/7/098:10 AM

MrsBMember

I would have told her that eavesdropping into private converstions was rude, so who is she to judge?

Don't worry about it....my gob often lands me in trouble...I would probably have had a masive barney there and then! At least you came away with a bit of dignity!

5/7/098:12 AM

mummymazMember

i woulda told her to mind her own too - i had a huge arguement with a pensioner at tesco petrol station on saturday, when i was finished with him i started on his snooty wife who almost got beaten over the head with her People's Friend... that'll teach 'em to push in infront of the fightin irish (my nickname from yrs ago!) ... bluddy pensioners, think they world owes them a favour cos they 'saved' us from Hitler... FAIL!

5/7/098:14 AM

JennyMember

Awww Holly. Don't let it upset you too much.

5/7/098:17 AM

Blizz'ardMember 10 years

Well, she's the one who upset the cashier, so I wouldn't worry yourself about it.
People like that think they are doing right, when they are really just spreading unhappiness!

5/7/098:18 AM

RZBMember

What gave the earwigger the right to think she had the moral high ground, you were holding
a private conversastion.

I would take no notice Holly, we all get frustrated when in a rush and in a queue,
try not to let it get to you.

5/7/098:18 AM

Former Member

How about: "Go home and have a bath. And tell Swampy he's an idiot when you see him"

5/7/098:19 AM

bozzimacooMember

i would have done like most, told her to stuff her comments, and gone one further on the till girl if she got shirty "call your manager, i wish to complain"

5/7/098:19 AM

darloboy (Play The Game!)Member

Holly lovely, don't let it get you down

. I've got a feeling the hunk pics might have to come out for you

5/7/098:20 AM

The Singing Ringing TreeMember

quote:
Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
i woulda told her to mind her own too - i had a huge arguement with a pensioner at tesco petrol station on saturday, when i was finished with him i started on his snooty wife who almost got beaten over the head with her People's Friend... that'll teach 'em to push in infront of the fightin irish (my nickname from yrs ago!) ... bluddy pensioners, think they world owes them a favour cos they 'saved' us from Hitler... FAIL!

5/7/098:23 AM

Former Member

I quite like being cheeky in supermarket queues. You know when people stand there checking out what you've bought? I start talking about the items and then checking theirs out too. "Ooo, Head & Shoulders! Dandruff is such as pain, isn't it? I had it a few years ago. Took an age to get rid of. Good luck!"

5/7/098:24 AM

mummymazMember

quote:
Originally posted by The Singing Ringing Tree:
quote:
Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
i woulda told her to mind her own too - i had a huge arguement with a pensioner at tesco petrol station on saturday, when i was finished with him i started on his snooty wife who almost got beaten over the head with her People's Friend... that'll teach 'em to push in infront of the fightin irish (my nickname from yrs ago!) ... bluddy pensioners, think they world owes them a favour cos they 'saved' us from Hitler... FAIL!

yer but, no but, yer but - he started it! i told him in a calm voice that i was waiting a long time before him - he told me too **** off back to my own country... how could you resist such a statement? he was sorry in the end..

5/7/098:25 AM

The Singing Ringing TreeMember

quote:
Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
quote:
Originally posted by The Singing Ringing Tree:
quote:
Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
i woulda told her to mind her own too - i had a huge arguement with a pensioner at tesco petrol station on saturday, when i was finished with him i started on his snooty wife who almost got beaten over the head with her People's Friend... that'll teach 'em to push in infront of the fightin irish (my nickname from yrs ago!) ... bluddy pensioners, think they world owes them a favour cos they 'saved' us from Hitler... FAIL!

yer but, no but, yer but - he started it! i told him in a calm voice that i was waiting a long time before him - he told me too **** off back to my own country ... how could you resist such a statement? he was sorry in the end..

5/7/098:28 AM

ohnoMember

Awww take no notice chick

Wish i'd been there with you, i would have jabed the silly mare in the eye

5/7/098:30 AM

Tilly_FlossMember

I think you handled it well, but im afraid i would have caused a scene and told the nosey cow in no polite way to mind her own. cheeky bugger

5/7/098:32 AM

MazzystarMember

quote:
Originally posted by Daniel J*:
I quite like being cheeky in supermarket queues. You know when people stand there checking out what you've bought? I start talking about the items and then checking theirs out too. "Ooo, Head & Shoulders! Dandruff is such as pain, isn't it? I had it a few years ago. Took an age to get rid of. Good luck!"

What do you say in the chemist to someone buying nit lotion and condoms?

5/7/098:35 AM

jacksonbMember

i think you should have head butted her...

5/7/098:39 AM

suzybeanMember

quote:
Originally posted by JacksonB:
i think you should have head butted her...

5/7/098:39 AM

DirtyprettygirlthingMember

I dunno how I would have reacted.... if I had seen it coming I would probably have come back all witty, or make a good argument.

But caught off guard like that... I would probably too have spluttered a sorry (which I would later on, when reflecting on incident, regret to the point of wanting to cut out my own tongue).

I suspect when the barrage of abuse continued I would probably have blown a fuse and I would have gone off on one... spewing a torrent of abuse at instigating alternative lifestyle lady, checkout lady, and anyone else that was looking at me (in a "and watta do fink your looking at" kinda way).

All of this I would have deeply regretted later.

So, I think your instinctive reaction to run, is better than my instinctive reaction to "kill everyone".

Please don't let this worry you anymore. She was a cow. And... although you think everyone looking on was on her side, they probably weren't.

5/7/098:40 AM

Garage JoeMember

quote:
Originally posted by Mazzystar:
quote:
Originally posted by Daniel J*:
I quite like being cheeky in supermarket queues. You know when people stand there checking out what you've bought? I start talking about the items and then checking theirs out too. "Ooo, Head & Shoulders! Dandruff is such as pain, isn't it? I had it a few years ago. Took an age to get rid of. Good luck!"

What do you say in the chemist to someone buying nit lotion and condoms?

Caroline Ahern did a sketch along those lines whereby she was the checkout girl commenting on purchases, including KY Jelly.

5/7/098:41 AM

SydMember 10 years

Awww Holly, I know what you mean when somebody knocks you off guard and makes you feel shaky and upset but don't let her unecessary behaviour spoil you're day, she is the one that has to live her life with a bitter attitude not you.

5/7/098:42 AM

The Singing Ringing TreeMember

quote:
Originally posted by The Singing Ringing Tree:
quote:
Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
quote:
Originally posted by The Singing Ringing Tree:
quote:
Originally posted by Mummy Maz:
i woulda told her to mind her own too - i had a huge arguement with a pensioner at tesco petrol station on saturday, when i was finished with him i started on his snooty wife who almost got beaten over the head with her People's Friend... that'll teach 'em to push in infront of the fightin irish (my nickname from yrs ago!) ... bluddy pensioners, think they world owes them a favour cos they 'saved' us from Hitler... FAIL!

yer but, no but, yer but - he started it! i told him in a calm voice that i was waiting a long time before him - he told me too **** off back to my own country ... how could you resist such a statement? he was sorry in the end..

Sorry was feeding a baby ... im a Scot and live in the south of England been there bought the teeshirt.

5/7/098:43 AM

DemantoidMember

Holly

That woman was an obnoxious cow - she earwigged on a private phone call and then had the cheek to comment on it. Far ruder than she accused you of being, IMO.

I'd have told her to mind her own bloody business.

5/7/098:44 AM

kattymieowwMember 10 years

I'd have told the person to mind their own damned business and if she didn't STFU I'd get the manager over to chuck her out.

5/7/098:50 AM

WindsweptMember

quote:
Originally posted by Demantoid:
Holly
That woman was an obnoxious cow - she earwigged on a private phone call and then had the cheek to comment on it. Far ruder than she accused you of being, IMO.

I'd have told her to mind her own bloody business.

I agree with you. The new ager had ear wigged on a call that had nothing to do with her and involved herself in a situation that didnt affect her.

5/7/098:55 AM

captain marblesMember

I would have slipped something small but expensive in her bag then had a whisper in the ear of the security bloke.

5/7/098:58 AM

EDWARDIAN LILMember

quote:
Originally posted by Hollygolightly:
I've just come home from Tesco and I'm in tears. I was in line waiting to pay for my stuff and the girl on the till was taking ages, I mean...eternity.

I was standing from 3.20pm and it was 3.35 before I got to the till. Whilst waiting my hubby rang and I told him it was taking ages and the girl on the till was so slow. End of - nothing else added (I promise you)

After hanging up the person beside me, said -
'I find what you just said VERY RUDE, the girl is only doing her job, where do you get off slagging her off you snooty cow! How dare you!!

It takes a lot to shock me but I nearly DIED of embaressment, everyone was looking over. I actually said 'Oh Sorry' but she kept on and on and when she got to the till, told the girl I was 'slagging her off'.... needless to say the girl on the cash till was like frosty the snow man and threw dagger looks at me and started up a conversation about what she has to put up with.
In the end I just walked away leaving my groceries, with the woman still calling me a rude cow.

I'm home now and still shaky. What should I have done? By the way I am sooo not snooty, the woman who called me this was 'new age' - dreadlocks and piercings so maybe me in my coat ,dress and handbag I looked snooty ????

(PLEASE don't think I'm being negative, just explaining her attire.) Hope it doesnt offend any new agers on her)
Anyway thanks for reading this - I just wanted to know how you would have dealt with the situation.

This is the first time anything like this has happened and I'm shocked at how upset I am.

BLOODY VICTORIANS!

5/7/099:00 AM

EDWARDIAN LILMember

quote:
Originally posted by captain marbles:
I would have slipped something small but expensive in her bag then had a whisper in the ear of the security bloke.

5/7/099:01 AM

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