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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
Yes, well done to her.

Neither of mine would have handled that situation, my son (11) would have just looked at the floor, and my daughter (16) would probably have muttered and grumbled under her breath... but I don't think she would have calmly spoken to the man.

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Originally posted by Sarum:
Good for her!

I remember our daughter doing something similar a few years ago...in a loud voice, she told this chap "I may be small, but my money is the same size as yours, and I was here first"

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Originally posted by Sarum:
Good for her!

I remember our daughter doing something similar a few years ago...in a loud voice, she told this chap "I may be small, but my money is the same size as yours, and I was here first"

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Originally posted by ~hoochie~:
You've done a good job girlrider!

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Originally posted by Sarum:
Good for her!

I remember our daughter doing something similar a few years ago...in a loud voice, she told this chap "I may be small, but my money is the same size as yours, and I was here first"

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Originally posted by bozzimacoo:
well done to your girl!

have just got back from shopping and got cornered by an eccentric, but lovely old lady, who just wanted to ramble on for an age.. however, one of her stories was how she told this guy to sling his hook, cos he told her she wasn't allowed to go through an exit till.

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Originally posted by Girlrider29:

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Originally posted by ~hoochie~:
You've done a good job girlrider!

Why thank you! I don't want her growing up not being able to stand up for herself, so I do a lot to develop her confidence and make sure that she's always polite (which she is) but not a pushover for anyone - not even a 6 foot tall man!

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Originally posted by Girlrider29:
Firstly - I'm so happy to have found this forum; I'm here from the BB C4 BB forum (Boo!) So hi everyone!

Anyway - I've read a few posts on here about queue jumping (and the usual culprits) and it reminded me of something that happened yesterday.

Myself and my daughter, 10 years old, had just gone shopping but still needed a few things from the local Tesco/Esso garage store. I couldn't be bothered to go in so I thought I'd let my daughter go in and get what we needed; you know, give her some independence/responsibility etc. I gave her a tenner to get the things, but of course parked the car right in front of the entrance so I could see her. She got the stuff and stood in front of the queue waiting to pay, at which point I gave her a big thumbs up from the car. About 30 seconds later I was furious to see a 'gentleman' (I would say mid-twenties) go into the shop and jump the queue, completely disregarding my daughter who was standing in front of the queue. He just stood right in front of her! I made the decision to get out of the car but before I even moved a muscle I saw her talking to him and him go and stand behind her!! I was soooo proud!! He came out before my daughter as he was only paying for fuel, the look on his face was a picture and he struggled to look me in the face.

I've always told her to stand up for herself and to not allow adults to take advantage her because she's a child - which some will do. So I was very proud to see her being assertive with an adult and gave her lots of praise when she got back in the car - bless her!

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Originally posted by squiggle:

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Originally posted by Girlrider29:
Firstly - I'm so happy to have found this forum; I'm here from the BB C4 BB forum (Boo!) So hi everyone!

Anyway - I've read a few posts on here about queue jumping (and the usual culprits) and it reminded me of something that happened yesterday.

Myself and my daughter, 10 years old, had just gone shopping but still needed a few things from the local Tesco/Esso garage store. I couldn't be bothered to go in so I thought I'd let my daughter go in and get what we needed; you know, give her some independence/responsibility etc. I gave her a tenner to get the things, but of course parked the car right in front of the entrance so I could see her. She got the stuff and stood in front of the queue waiting to pay, at which point I gave her a big thumbs up from the car. About 30 seconds later I was furious to see a 'gentleman' (I would say mid-twenties) go into the shop and jump the queue, completely disregarding my daughter who was standing in front of the queue. He just stood right in front of her! I made the decision to get out of the car but before I even moved a muscle I saw her talking to him and him go and stand behind her!! I was soooo proud!! He came out before my daughter as he was only paying for fuel, the look on his face was a picture and he struggled to look me in the face.

I've always told her to stand up for herself and to not allow adults to take advantage her because she's a child - which some will do. So I was very proud to see her being assertive with an adult and gave her lots of praise when she got back in the car - bless her!

She's going to be OK your daughter! You must have brought her up well, well done to both of you.

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Originally posted by Sarum:

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Originally posted by Girlrider29:

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Originally posted by ~hoochie~:
You've done a good job girlrider!

Why thank you! I don't want her growing up not being able to stand up for herself, so I do a lot to develop her confidence and make sure that she's always polite (which she is) but not a pushover for anyone - not even a 6 foot tall man!

Good job, for sure.

It's quite hard to achieve the balance between assertive and polite; all too often the youngsters either become 'doormats', or just ill-mannered.

Good grief, I sound like my mother...

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Originally posted by Girlrider29:


Yep - totally agreed. In fact many adults don't actually know what it is to be assertive. I've taken a long time to develop it so I'd be darned if I'm going to watch my daughter behaving passively. Luckily for me, she's not ill-mannered and is inherently polite and well-mannered.

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Originally posted by Sarum:

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Originally posted by Girlrider29:


Yep - totally agreed. In fact many adults don't actually know what it is to be assertive. I've taken a long time to develop it so I'd be darned if I'm going to watch my daughter behaving passively. Luckily for me, she's not ill-mannered and is inherently polite and well-mannered.

So is ours.

I blame the parents, meself...

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Originally posted by Retiredslave:
Well done to your daughter and welcome to our new home

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Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:
Sory to hijack this thread, but you've just reminded me of something that happened to me on Wednesday morning...

I was walking through the Arndale and I heard a big booming voice saying (in barely understandable drawl), "Yeh, I'm just going to Primark to get something f'in wear *laugh*No, I'll be home when I get f'in home"

...so, i glanced round to see 3 young girls, one of which was on the phone (about 15years old), you know the type, clown necklaces on, hoop earrings, muffin tops, you get the picture....anyway, I carried on walking and i heard this, "Yeh, n some f'in c**t of a woman best stop gawping at me MUM or I'll f'in kill her"...meaning me! LoL!

I just walked into Primark and headed in a different direction, where the Shop Assistants were a shocked as I at the massive booming voice talking to her MOTHER on the phone...

If I spoke to my Mum like that, well, I'd live to regret it, furthermore I wouldn't talk to her or anyone like that....

What kind of Parents think that's acceptable! I must say, I can swear with the best of them but NOT at the top of my voice and...at least i swear in Queens English!

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Originally posted by Towno :
Good on her. It's lovely when your children do something to fill you with pride isn't it?