I was going to let you have a feel, but I'll leave you a
instead! I was going to let you have a feel, but I'll leave you a
instead!
quote:Originally posted by MrsB:
She sounds as bad as the midwife I had who told me I was too fat to be pregnant....4 days before I miscarried
That's awful.
Mine started at about 3mths and I had to stop working at 4mths....it ain't that rare...there were about 25 women in my SPD sroup alone. My sister has chronic RA so I also understand how painful that can be! But I really think a belt would help you anyway as it relieves the pressure on your pelvis....so would work whether it was SPD or your RA causing the pain. The belt is like a huge,bit of elastic/tubigrip and just supports weight of bump, easing the pressure on your pelvis. If your midwife is really unhelpful, ask to change to another one....they can't refuse you.
We have really bad maternity services up here. I don't get to see one midwife, I've seen a different one each of the four times I've had to go so far. They are all rubbish. The first one I was sent to by the doctor when I was just about 6 weeks gone. She told me that I'd have to travel to another area to have the baby because I'm too fat and high risk to have it in the nearest town and that I'll probably have to have a fawcep delivery too. Then she told me I souldn't get all excited about the baby because the chances were it wouldn't survive because 'most pregnancies don't make it past 12 weeks'. The second one, I had to beg for a booking in appointment because nobody had taken any details from me by 13 weeks. She was ok but wrote loads of details down wrong in my notes so it now states that I've had mental health issues as a result of my previous pregnancies. This is my first pregnancy and I've never had any such thing. The third one, I was sent to because I have high blood pressure and am supposed to have it monitored. She told me there was no point in her doing it really as I was still too early into the pregnancy (20 weeks), she then misread the result and then didn't write it down in my notes. Plus, I'm supposed to be under shared care and when I went for the hospital appointment with the consultant, I was told she'd decided to take the day off instead. The midwife at the hospital then told me that there was nothing they could do for me anyway so I might as well just wait until I was 28 weeks. I did insist on seeing someone though, so they sent me a junior registrar who kept talking about my previous pregnancies and who didn't know what ME was. I have high blood pressure, I'm 38, overweight, have existing health problems and an immediate family history of stillbirths and cot deaths. I've been told that I'm high risk, but nobody will talk to me about anything. TBH, as long as the baby feels active so I know it's ok, I don't think I'm going to bother going back to the midwife again. There just doesn't seem to be any point. They tell you that all women are different in pregnancy but insist on treating you the same.
Bliddy hell QotHT!
That's dreadful!!!
I would be complaining to all and sundry in a VERY loud voice!! This is your health and your baby at risk here!!!
That's dreadful!!!
I would be complaining to all and sundry in a VERY loud voice!! This is your health and your baby at risk here!!!
Poor you Queen 
I'm lucky here - I've seen one Midwife every time and she's really good. It's disgusting what you've had to put up with 
I'm lucky here - I've seen one Midwife every time and she's really good. It's disgusting what you've had to put up with 
OMG...that is awful. I'm in Suffolk and our midwives are pretty good. Surely, given your history and that of your family, they should be monitoring you more closely....they need a darn good slapping. I had one ectopic pregnancy and one miscarriage between my boys and was scanned every couple of weeks and seen by my midwife every week when I was expecting my youngest. Is there anyway you could go to a different hospital?? I live between two in two different counties and we are given the choice between them. I can't believe that midwives and doctors could be so unconcerned and callous, pregnancy can be stressful enough without people like that 'looking after you'.....
quote:Originally posted by angelicarwen:
Aww don't worry sweetie it will soon be over and you will realise you did not make the most of it as you will be like the walking dead , like I am
And me
x a gazillionquote:Originally posted by pepsi:
Bliddy hell QotHT!
That's dreadful!!!
I would be complaining to all and sundry in a VERY loud voice!! This is your health and your baby at risk here!!!
I am exactly the sort of person who complains very loudly about things if I'm not happy with them. I don't know why but so far they just make me feel like I'm being stupid. I have never been to see anyone unless they've told me to go but whenever I've had an appointment they make me feel like I shouldn't be there. I've mentioned the fact that I get really bad headaches all the time and I've had at least five migraines since I became pregnant when I only ususally get a couple a year, and that gets dismissed as 'normal' too. If I question anything they make me feel like a silly young girl, rolling eyes at me and telling me that I'm 'not the first woman to have a baby you know'. I think they just make me feel like I'm over-reacting to things even though I know I'm not. It just seems easier to get on with it.
fluppence? 
Hope you feel better soon
Hope you feel better soon
My heartfelt sympathy to you. I have serious back ache, and am walking around like Mrs. Overall....and l'm not even pregnant!!. Good luck with your forthcoming event and hope that all your symptoms recede in time.
quote:Originally posted by MrsB:
OMG...that is awful. I'm in Suffolk and our midwives are pretty good. Surely, given your history and that of your family, they should be monitoring you more closely....they need a darn good slapping. I had one ectopic pregnancy and one miscarriage between my boys and was scanned every couple of weeks and seen by my midwife every week when I was expecting my youngest. Is there anyway you could go to a different hospital?? I live between two in two different counties and we are given the choice between them. I can't believe that midwives and doctors could be so unconcerned and callous, pregnancy can be stressful enough without people like that 'looking after you'.....
I live in Holmfirth and they shut the maternity unit here years ago so they could move it to Huddersfield which is about 25 minutes away. But now they've decided that it is now a midwife only led unit and as there are no consultant or operating facilities, anyone who gives birth there with complications has to be transferred to Halifax. Which has led so far to the deaths of a few mothers and babies from complications. So because I'm classed as high risk I already have to travel directly to Halifax to give birth, Huddersfield to see the consultant and Holmfirth for the midwife. It's a total mess.
quote:I live in Holmfirth and they shut the maternity unit here years ago so they could move it to Huddersfield which is about 25 minutes away. But now they've decided that it is now a midwife only led unit and as there are no consultant or operating facilities, anyone who gives birth there with complications has to be transferred to Halifax. Which has led so far to the deaths of a few mothers and babies from complications. So because I'm classed as high risk I already have to travel directly to Halifax to give birth, Huddersfield to see the consultant and Holmfirth for the midwife. It's a total mess.
Have you told your GP about all this? If not, ask s/he to put it in your notes so it is "on record". This may make them think you are getting ready for a court case and s/he will want to cover her/his back and sort things out for you.
I had this with my second son and they gave me a TENS machine, it really really helped, I also got to use it after I had my csection. My physio gave me lots of tips like do not twist the top half of my body, turn and face whatever I was doing, no straddling (which even now makes me laugh) and generally being careful over lifting and carrying. I hope some of this can help you as I know it can be very uncomfortable.
This has made me sooooo angry. I want to pick you up and keep you here so you can have all the help you need during what should be an exciting time of your life. It has made me go and drag the application pack I have for midwifery college and give it some more thought....mind you, I'm not sure my smut is good for BP!!!!
I wish I had hung on to my belt cos I could have sent it to you!
I wish I had hung on to my belt cos I could have sent it to you!
quote:Originally posted by angelicarwen:
Hey Queenie , don't know if this will help but you can buy support belts
I'll help Queenies bump
Spooky stuff....I was about to post the same thing
quote:Originally posted by MrsB:quote:Originally posted by angelicarwen:
Hey Queenie , don't know if this will help but you can buy support belts
I'll help Queenies bump
Spooky stuff....I was about to post the same thing
Ooh great minds my lovely
quote:Originally posted by angelicarwen:quote:Originally posted by MrsB:quote:Originally posted by angelicarwen:
Hey Queenie , don't know if this will help but you can buy support belts
I'll help Queenies bump
Spooky stuff....I was about to post the same thing
Ooh great minds my lovely
Indeed
Or ebay addicts 
quote:Originally posted by MrsB:quote:Originally posted by angelicarwen:quote:Originally posted by MrsB:quote:Originally posted by angelicarwen:
Hey Queenie , don't know if this will help but you can buy support belts
I'll help Queenies bump
Spooky stuff....I was about to post the same thing
Ooh great minds my lovely
Indeed
You are right
I have never been on ebay 
Some genuine sympathy QOHT 
and cake 
and cake 
Thank you all for your advice and sympathy.
It really has made me feel better just knowing that I'm not the only one who feels as though the situation isn't being handled properly. Arwen & Mrs B, thanks for the bump belts link. If I get no joy from the doctor on Monday, I'll definitely be investing in one of those. 
Might be an idea to write to one of the papers about how bad the maternity services are. And make sure you nag the doctor to death.
After I had the baby no one noticed that I had an infection of the uterus til I ended up in A&E
Queenie hon... the only advice I can give you, is if you are wanting to complain.. you need to address your complaint to either the complaints dept or the Chief Executive of the Trust which provides your maternity services.
There is a set procedure that all trusts must follow when they receive such a complaint. The complaint is handed down from the Cheif Execs office... and the dept involved has a set time to respond (usually 10 days).
If its a complaint after an event then often all that you get back is a sorry letter signed by the cheif exec... however, if it is a complaint about an ongoing treatment... you can bet your treatment will suddenly improve...
I have been in depts where an official complaint has come down... and believe me... you do all you can to appease the complainant.
The figures on no. of complaints, resolution of complaint etc HAVE to be reported. And are part of the Trusts CHI inspections. Basically their Trust status can be affected.. and as a result the amount of funding that trust receives.
xxx
If you want any more detailed advice.. PM me x
There is a set procedure that all trusts must follow when they receive such a complaint. The complaint is handed down from the Cheif Execs office... and the dept involved has a set time to respond (usually 10 days).
If its a complaint after an event then often all that you get back is a sorry letter signed by the cheif exec... however, if it is a complaint about an ongoing treatment... you can bet your treatment will suddenly improve...
I have been in depts where an official complaint has come down... and believe me... you do all you can to appease the complainant.
The figures on no. of complaints, resolution of complaint etc HAVE to be reported. And are part of the Trusts CHI inspections. Basically their Trust status can be affected.. and as a result the amount of funding that trust receives.
xxx
If you want any more detailed advice.. PM me x
Aw queenie - just noticed your threads still upsince I left hope you feling better xx
quote:Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
Queenie hon... the only advice I can give you, is if you are wanting to complain.. you need to address your complaint to either the complaints dept or the Chief Executive of the Trust which provides your maternity services.
There is a set procedure that all trusts must follow when they receive such a complaint. The complaint is handed down from the Cheif Execs office... and the dept involved has a set time to respond (usually 10 days).
If its a complaint after an event then often all that you get back is a sorry letter signed by the cheif exec... however, if it is a complaint about an ongoing treatment... you can bet your treatment will suddenly improve...
I have been in depts where an official complaint has come down... and believe me... you do all you can to appease the complainant.
The figures on no. of complaints, resolution of complaint etc HAVE to be reported. And are part of the Trusts CHI inspections. Basically their Trust status can be affected.. and as a result the amount of funding that trust receives.
xxx
If you want any more detailed advice.. PM me x
Thanks Ditty.
I'm going to see what happens when I talk to my GP on Monday, he's ususally lovely, although not the most pro-active doctor in the world. If I still don't get a referal about the SPD I will complain. I've got to go to the hospital on the 12th for an anti D jab and gestational diabetes tests, so maybe things will start improving with my overall care then. Like I say though, if it doesn't start to get better I think my hubby will be insisting on an official complaint.
As a midwife, I am disgusted at the way you have been treated and I am sorry for the way you are feeling and the crap you are going through *hugs and stuff*
As a woman, I am insanely jealous that you are pregnant *pokes in the eye*
As a woman, I am insanely jealous that you are pregnant *pokes in the eye*
quote:Originally posted by Tartanveggie:
As a midwife, I am disgusted at the way you have been treated and I am sorry for the way you are feeling and the crap you are going through *hugs and stuff*
As a woman, I am insanely jealous that you are pregnant *pokes in the eye*