Just been on Freinds Reunited and was reading a message sent to me about a school reunion (I may go, not decided yet), and there was something asking if I knew this person, and it was a lad I was mates with at school, I've never forgotten him coz we always got on really well. I just sent him a message saying I had been looking for him and asked him to email me, but I know it sounds weird I'm worriedn thatb if we meet up I may not know what to say to him. Don't get on at me, I did hear a few years back that he is gay and this was confirmed in his profile (I have no problem about him being gay), it's just weird I never picked up on that when we were kids, I always thoought he just a bit posh and funny, God I wish I had never written that bit now.
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After time has passed we sometimes see people differently. Things change.
Being gay doesn't matter. If you both get on well enjoy making contact.
You never know 'til you try.
Being gay doesn't matter. If you both get on well enjoy making contact.
You never know 'til you try.
An important ingredient in relationships, whether friendships, co workers or marriages etc, is compatability. When or if you meet up what could determine whether you both have a friendship in the future could be due whether you're compatable with each other or not, and there's enough to agree on rather than disagree with.
Why did you intitiate the email if you felt 'weird' about it? 
Just to have something to whinge about maybe?
I would say if you got on well before you'll still get on now 
I met up with a school friend after many years (she'd moved away) and it was like we'd never been apart 
I met up with a school friend after many years (she'd moved away) and it was like we'd never been apart 
I'm not really understanding what your issue is here? And when you were kids he might not have had gay 'tendencies' (for want of a better phrase). You say you have no problem with him being gay, but ask yourself this, if he had mailed back saying he was married to the woman of his dreams and had 3 kids and a white picket fence would you be thinking differently or would you still have concerns that you wouldn't get along?
A girl I went to school with is getting married to her girlfriend. I never picked up that she was gay either during our schooldays, dont think she knew herself to be honest. She's still the same person I knew from school though.
A girl I went to school with is getting married to her girlfriend. I never picked up that she was gay either during our schooldays, dont think she knew herself to be honest. She's still the same person I knew from school though.
I think that someone's sexual preferences are only a fairly small part of someone's personality unless they make a big issue of it. So for me, whether someone is straight, gay, bi-sexual, or non-sexual doesn't matter.
As far as not picking up on someone being gay whilst at school, you don't say how old you were. I doubt if you had been at primary school rather than secondary, that you could have seen any signs. Even at secondary school, a gay person might not have matured enough to be able to say that they were gay. An obvious example is that of Syed in Eastenders who (and I'm not giving anything away here) finally comes out to his wife and his family tonight.
As far as not picking up on someone being gay whilst at school, you don't say how old you were. I doubt if you had been at primary school rather than secondary, that you could have seen any signs. Even at secondary school, a gay person might not have matured enough to be able to say that they were gay. An obvious example is that of Syed in Eastenders who (and I'm not giving anything away here) finally comes out to his wife and his family tonight.