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She's only been living with us a few weeks now, but already starting to bug me, she made some pasta and a sauce on Friday and the pots are still in the sink and I need to use them this week, but why should I have to wash them up? Also she is leaving the heating on when it does not need to be on, and I have mentioned to her we are down to our last toilet roll and could she get some seeing as I got the last lot. Mad

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Ooooh 'living together stress', I remember this.

And its the same old issues too... washing up, heating & loo rolls.

My advice (which is not what I did) would be to be blunt, honest, but nice. Explain that its better to just say these things, so they don't fester... so could she ... do her washing up, keep an eye on the heating and buy some bog roll asap!

Otherwise the atmosphere starts to get tense... then silent warfare begins.
Dirtyprettygirlthing
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Originally posted by tupps:
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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
Tupps, Deegs.... you two are harsh!!!! Surely she gets a verbal warning first. Not straight to 'pots in bed' action surely? Disappointed


Oh no.. softly softly in the flatmate department doesn't work. You have to go straight to def-con one. Crazy


Laugh ok... that'll be where I went wrong then... flatmates n lodgers are only slightly better than mothers in law in my experience!
Dirtyprettygirlthing
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Originally posted by tupps:
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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
Tupps, Deegs.... you two are harsh!!!! Surely she gets a verbal warning first. Not straight to 'pots in bed' action surely? Disappointed


Oh no.. softly softly in the flatmate department doesn't work. You have to go straight to def-con one. Crazy


yeah....wot she said ^^^^^^

Except I'd be more considerate and lay newspaper down on the bed, before dumping the dirty pots on it Angel
FM
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Originally posted by Deegs:
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Originally posted by tupps:
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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
Tupps, Deegs.... you two are harsh!!!! Surely she gets a verbal warning first. Not straight to 'pots in bed' action surely? Disappointed


Oh no.. softly softly in the flatmate department doesn't work. You have to go straight to def-con one. Crazy


yeah....wot she said ^^^^^^

Except I'd be more considerate and lay newspaper down on the bed, before dumping the dirty pots on it Angel


I'm slightly more eebil. I'd make sure they still had the dirty water they are soaking in still in 'em. Devil
tupps
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Originally posted by Poolshark:
She's only 17 and I feel like sometimes she is using that "I'm just a young naive kid thing" to make me feel guilty. If it were a bloke I wouldn't be so suprised at lazyness and untidyness, but from a female I expected better.


She's living away from home. She has use of her hands and a sink etc. She's capable of washing a pan.

Go on pool.. get mediaeval on her arse. Crazy
tupps
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Originally posted by tupps:
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Originally posted by Poolshark:
She's only 17 and I feel like sometimes she is using that "I'm just a young naive kid thing" to make me feel guilty. If it were a bloke I wouldn't be so suprised at lazyness and untidyness, but from a female I expected better.


She's living away from home. She has use of her hands and a sink etc. She's capable of washing a pan.

Go on pool.. get mediaeval on her arse. Crazy


Now that is harsh!! Disappointed (and probably illegal!)
Dirtyprettygirlthing
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Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
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Originally posted by tupps:
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Originally posted by Poolshark:
She's only 17 and I feel like sometimes she is using that "I'm just a young naive kid thing" to make me feel guilty. If it were a bloke I wouldn't be so suprised at lazyness and untidyness, but from a female I expected better.


She's living away from home. She has use of her hands and a sink etc. She's capable of washing a pan.

Go on pool.. get mediaeval on her arse. Crazy


Now that is harsh!! Disappointed (and probably illegal!)


No you're right. Maybe not mediaeval then.. more renaissance.
tupps
<insert name> we have a rule in the house that is if you use it you clean it. Maybe we weren't clear on that when you first moved in but it would be appreciated if you could stick to it. It means that no-one has to clean pots and pans before they start preparing their food and no pots and pans are clogging up the sink and stinking the kitchen out.

It's May, we don't need the heating on 24/7. If you want it on 24/7 that is fine but you will have to pay more of a contribution to the bill.

We have a rota for buying toilet roll. It is your turn. If you don't want to do this then again that is fine but I'd ask that you buy your own toilet roll. If you do want to do this then it is your turn to buy them.

simples..
tupps
Urrggh this makes me angry! Mad I had the same issue with a lodger last year. Luckily she had her own dishes and pots and pans, but it was still gross to have to look at them for days on end. And being the only one taking the bin out made me mad! I addressed the bin issue by suggesting a rota for taking out the bin out, which got the message across. I didn't address the dishes issue, I was too chicken. Although I did once put her dishes in a bowl and covered it with one of her tea towels - wasn't a pretty sight while eating breakfast! That didn't get the message across though. Roll Eyes

As regards an opening line I would say something like "Listen, can we discuss cleaning arrangements?" and then go from there. I wouldn't be accusatory, but just explain things from your perspective. If you don't address it, it will fester and then become unbearable.
Girlrider29
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Urrggh this makes me angry! Mad I had the same issue with a lodger last year. Luckily she had her own dishes and pots and pans, but it was still gross to have to look at them for days on end. And being the only one taking the bin out made me mad! I addressed the bin issue by suggesting a rota for taking out the bin out, which got the message across. I didn't address the dishes issue, I was too chicken. Although I did once put her dishes in a bowl and covered it with one of her tea towels - wasn't a pretty sight while eating breakfast! That didn't get the message across though. Roll Eyes

As regards an opening line I would say something like "Listen, can we discuss cleaning arrangements?" and then go from there. I wouldn't be accusatory, but just explain things from your perspective. If you don't address it, it will fester and then become unbearable.


You've just made me remember 2 other things that she does not do that winds me up, she never empties the kitchen bin, and sometimes she gets home before me but still never brings the mail in from outside our door!. How can people be so forgetfull or rude or lazy!!!!!! Mad
Poolshark
I had this issue last week Ninja I went onto msn and ranted at one flatmate about how the other never cleaned up after herself and how it was driving me mad, and making me want to move out ( the other flatmate IS moving out thank god love her to pieces but cant spend another year living with the tramp- and luckily the girl I was ranting at (our landlord as well) doesnt want me to move out) word must have got round, because as I went on strike, the tramp started cleaning Laugh
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