She's only been living with us a few weeks now, but already starting to bug me, she made some pasta and a sauce on Friday and the pots are still in the sink and I need to use them this week, but why should I have to wash them up? Also she is leaving the heating on when it does not need to be on, and I have mentioned to her we are down to our last toilet roll and could she get some seeing as I got the last lot.
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Say "Wash your dirty pots"
via post it note if my flat sharing experience is anything to go by!
Former Member
quote:Originally posted by Hotpants Helen:
Say "Wash your dirty pots"
That's outrageous!!
watchinittoomuch (Guest)
Just tell her?
Ooooh 'living together stress', I remember this.
And its the same old issues too... washing up, heating & loo rolls.
My advice (which is not what I did) would be to be blunt, honest, but nice. Explain that its better to just say these things, so they don't fester... so could she ... do her washing up, keep an eye on the heating and buy some bog roll asap!
Otherwise the atmosphere starts to get tense... then silent warfare begins.
And its the same old issues too... washing up, heating & loo rolls.
My advice (which is not what I did) would be to be blunt, honest, but nice. Explain that its better to just say these things, so they don't fester... so could she ... do her washing up, keep an eye on the heating and buy some bog roll asap!
Otherwise the atmosphere starts to get tense... then silent warfare begins.
put them in her bed...
buy new pans for your use only..
disable the heating until October..
job done..
buy new pans for your use only..
disable the heating until October..
job done..
Leave a note explaining that its only fair if she clears up after herself. And that you by the loo roll by rota and its her turn. Start as you mean to go on.
Former Member
quote:Originally posted by tupps:
put them in her bed...
HOW do you always manage to read my mind?
I was gonna say that, but I got side-tracked by Helen's advice
Put them on her bed, she will soon get the message.
loo roll? only buy a few rolls of that tracing paper style stuff.. buy lovely luxury paper for yourself and keep it under lock and key in your room.. surround it with mouse traps for added security..
quote:Originally posted by Deegs:quote:Originally posted by tupps:
put them in her bed...
HOW do you always manage to read my mind?
I was gonna say that, but I got side-tracked by Helen's advice
we are as pratical and as eebil as each other..
Tupps, Deegs.... you two are harsh!!!! Surely she gets a verbal warning first. Not straight to 'pots in bed' action surely?
quote:Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
Tupps, Deegs.... you two are harsh!!!! Surely she gets a verbal warning first. Not straight to 'pots in bed' action surely?
Oh no.. softly softly in the flatmate department doesn't work. You have to go straight to def-con one.
quote:Originally posted by tupps:quote:Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
Tupps, Deegs.... you two are harsh!!!! Surely she gets a verbal warning first. Not straight to 'pots in bed' action surely?
Oh no.. softly softly in the flatmate department doesn't work. You have to go straight to def-con one.
ok... that'll be where I went wrong then... flatmates n lodgers are only slightly better than mothers in law in my experience!
I used to put my flatmates dirty dishes in their bedroom. After asking time and time again I realised if I didnt have to look at them, they didnt annoy me anymore.
I had visions of having no plates by the end of the week...funnily enough it worked!
I had visions of having no plates by the end of the week...funnily enough it worked!
quote:Originally posted by tupps:
def-con one.
Former Member
quote:Originally posted by tupps:quote:Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
Tupps, Deegs.... you two are harsh!!!! Surely she gets a verbal warning first. Not straight to 'pots in bed' action surely?
Oh no.. softly softly in the flatmate department doesn't work. You have to go straight to def-con one.
yeah....wot she said ^^^^^^
Except I'd be more considerate and lay newspaper down on the bed, before dumping the dirty pots on it
She's only 17 and I feel like sometimes she is using that "I'm just a young naive kid thing" to make me feel guilty. If it were a bloke I wouldn't be so suprised at lazyness and untidyness, but from a female I expected better.
quote:Originally posted by Deegs:quote:Originally posted by tupps:quote:Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:
Tupps, Deegs.... you two are harsh!!!! Surely she gets a verbal warning first. Not straight to 'pots in bed' action surely?
Oh no.. softly softly in the flatmate department doesn't work. You have to go straight to def-con one.
yeah....wot she said ^^^^^^
Except I'd be more considerate and lay newspaper down on the bed, before dumping the dirty pots on it
I'm slightly more eebil. I'd make sure they still had the dirty water they are soaking in still in 'em.
quote:Originally posted by Poolshark:
She's only 17 and I feel like sometimes she is using that "I'm just a young naive kid thing" to make me feel guilty. If it were a bloke I wouldn't be so suprised at lazyness and untidyness, but from a female I expected better.
You fool
quote:Originally posted by Poolshark:
She's only 17 and I feel like sometimes she is using that "I'm just a young naive kid thing" to make me feel guilty. If it were a bloke I wouldn't be so suprised at lazyness and untidyness, but from a female I expected better.
She's living away from home. She has use of her hands and a sink etc. She's capable of washing a pan.
Go on pool.. get mediaeval on her arse.
quote:Originally posted by Poolshark:
If it were a bloke I wouldn't be so suprised at lazyness and untidyness, but from a female I expected better.
Poolshark.... women can be worse.... way way worse!
quote:Originally posted by Deegs:quote:Originally posted by Hotpants Helen:
Say "Wash your dirty pots"
That's outrageous!!
Was I too obvious.?
quote:Originally posted by tupps:quote:Originally posted by Poolshark:
She's only 17 and I feel like sometimes she is using that "I'm just a young naive kid thing" to make me feel guilty. If it were a bloke I wouldn't be so suprised at lazyness and untidyness, but from a female I expected better.
She's living away from home. She has use of her hands and a sink etc. She's capable of washing a pan.
Go on pool.. get mediaeval on her arse.
Now that is harsh!! (and probably illegal!)
quote:Originally posted by Dirtyprettygirlthing:quote:Originally posted by tupps:quote:Originally posted by Poolshark:
She's only 17 and I feel like sometimes she is using that "I'm just a young naive kid thing" to make me feel guilty. If it were a bloke I wouldn't be so suprised at lazyness and untidyness, but from a female I expected better.
She's living away from home. She has use of her hands and a sink etc. She's capable of washing a pan.
Go on pool.. get mediaeval on her arse.
Now that is harsh!! (and probably illegal!)
No you're right. Maybe not mediaeval then.. more renaissance.
Right I'm gonna tell her tonight, just give me the opening line!
quote:Originally posted by Poolshark:
Right I'm gonna tell her tonight, just give me the opening line!
"Hi, have you got a minute... I think we need to talk......."
that line can strike the fear of god into me... whether it be coming from my dad, my husband, my kids teachers... anyone! Is a good way to start.
quote:Originally posted by Poolshark:
Right I'm gonna tell her tonight, just give me the opening line!
Wash ya pots ya dirty cah
<insert name> we have a rule in the house that is if you use it you clean it. Maybe we weren't clear on that when you first moved in but it would be appreciated if you could stick to it. It means that no-one has to clean pots and pans before they start preparing their food and no pots and pans are clogging up the sink and stinking the kitchen out.
It's May, we don't need the heating on 24/7. If you want it on 24/7 that is fine but you will have to pay more of a contribution to the bill.
We have a rota for buying toilet roll. It is your turn. If you don't want to do this then again that is fine but I'd ask that you buy your own toilet roll. If you do want to do this then it is your turn to buy them.
simples..
It's May, we don't need the heating on 24/7. If you want it on 24/7 that is fine but you will have to pay more of a contribution to the bill.
We have a rota for buying toilet roll. It is your turn. If you don't want to do this then again that is fine but I'd ask that you buy your own toilet roll. If you do want to do this then it is your turn to buy them.
simples..
quote:Originally posted by Hotpants Helen:quote:Originally posted by Poolshark:
Right I'm gonna tell her tonight, just give me the opening line!
Wash ya pots ya dirty cah
*wonders how many flatmates Helen got through*
Urrggh this makes me angry! I had the same issue with a lodger last year. Luckily she had her own dishes and pots and pans, but it was still gross to have to look at them for days on end. And being the only one taking the bin out made me mad! I addressed the bin issue by suggesting a rota for taking out the bin out, which got the message across. I didn't address the dishes issue, I was too chicken. Although I did once put her dishes in a bowl and covered it with one of her tea towels - wasn't a pretty sight while eating breakfast! That didn't get the message across though.
As regards an opening line I would say something like "Listen, can we discuss cleaning arrangements?" and then go from there. I wouldn't be accusatory, but just explain things from your perspective. If you don't address it, it will fester and then become unbearable.
As regards an opening line I would say something like "Listen, can we discuss cleaning arrangements?" and then go from there. I wouldn't be accusatory, but just explain things from your perspective. If you don't address it, it will fester and then become unbearable.
See, this is why I dont live with people
quote:Originally posted by SazBomb:
See, this is why I dont live with people
Trust me - NEVER again!
get everyone together and do a " can we all please wash up after we have finished cooking"
quote:Originally posted by Girlrider29:
Urrggh this makes me angry! I had the same issue with a lodger last year. Luckily she had her own dishes and pots and pans, but it was still gross to have to look at them for days on end. And being the only one taking the bin out made me mad! I addressed the bin issue by suggesting a rota for taking out the bin out, which got the message across. I didn't address the dishes issue, I was too chicken. Although I did once put her dishes in a bowl and covered it with one of her tea towels - wasn't a pretty sight while eating breakfast! That didn't get the message across though.
As regards an opening line I would say something like "Listen, can we discuss cleaning arrangements?" and then go from there. I wouldn't be accusatory, but just explain things from your perspective. If you don't address it, it will fester and then become unbearable.
You've just made me remember 2 other things that she does not do that winds me up, she never empties the kitchen bin, and sometimes she gets home before me but still never brings the mail in from outside our door!. How can people be so forgetfull or rude or lazy!!!!!!
I had this issue last week I went onto msn and ranted at one flatmate about how the other never cleaned up after herself and how it was driving me mad, and making me want to move out ( the other flatmate IS moving out thank god love her to pieces but cant spend another year living with the tramp- and luckily the girl I was ranting at (our landlord as well) doesnt want me to move out) word must have got round, because as I went on strike, the tramp started cleaning
I'd buy her a camping stove and bowl and leave it in her room
kitchen bin.. in the bed also..
post.. only ever bring yours in.. leave hers..
post.. only ever bring yours in.. leave hers..
Mine also don't empty the bin- I started to empty it while she was in the room the other day and she was like "oh leave that- M (her boyfriend) will empty it later" I just carried on and came back in saying "I don't need a man to my dirty work for me- I dont expect guests to this house to have to clean themselves a path through it"
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