Hi hun, Babies are very good at tugging on the heartstrings aren't they? I was just the same as you, I didn't want to leave mine to cry, but I promise you no harm ever comes to a baby left to cry for a while, just try to manage 30 minutes, it wouldn't surprise me if your baby was asleep by then! Even if you can last 10 or 15 minutes it is a start and your baby will get used to you leaving the room rather than having to be there all the time which is exhausting

We used to Hoover up, baby can't compete with a hoover!
for BeerBelle

Sometimes they are crying cos they just want left alone to sleep. Leave him, he'll be fine, even though it feels like your heart is being twisted.

i cracked.

aw Belle

could just be a little bit of colic

Have you got a bouncy/rocking/vibrating chair that he might sit in? Some babies like the sensation of them and it helps settle them?

I know what you are going through though Is there anyone who can help and give you a bit of break?

but no, even if it's heart wrenching you may have to leave baba to cry for a while longer

BeerBelle

Poor you ....
here have a Big (((hug)))

awwwww Beer Belle - there's nothing like the sound of your baby crying is there

I think leaving them to cry works for some parents, but not others... I never could... and I did have a hard time with both my 2... but in time, I got through it... maybe takes a few more weeks to get into some kind of routine, hang in there... and accept any help offered, I do hope you have some...

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Originally posted by BeerBelle:
aw thanks everyone. i have fed him and put him back in his room. he is starting off again, but i will hold on as long as possible.

Sometimes having them sleep in the same room as you are, and listening to normal everyday sounds....TV, talking, hoovering, dishes clanking makes them settle easier...babies do cry, and the tenser you are the louder they cry, try to relax BeerBelle (easier said than done I know)...go and run the bath....baby will be sleeping soundly soon and you will be prodding, just incase

It's all a bit like that at first but you sound to be doing absolutely brilliantly.

let him cry for 5 mins then 10 mins then 20 mins then 30 40.... that was the way I did it. this time will pass.... THIS IS HARD btw and you are doing a grand job .... you will reilise that a few months from now when you wont belive how little sleep you got by on XXXXX

well, he didn't stop crying so i have collected him and so we begin again!
oh and i am such a laid back practical no nonsense person normally, but i'm tired and have a splitting headache and they forgot to give me the instructions at the hospital!

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Originally posted by The Singing Ringing Tree:
let him cry for 5 mins then 10 mins then 20 mins then 30 40.... that was the way I did it. this time will pass.... THIS IS HARD btw and you are doing a grand job .... you will reilise that a few months from now when you wont belive how little sleep you got by on XXXXX

yes, i think i'll try that. thanks cp

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ooh yes that's very good. we are ok at stopping him crying... it's just that we then have to put him down and then he cries again straight away.

do you think he might be bored? i would be bored if i was him. i know that sounds stupid.

It's a nightmare I know.

My daughter was just like that. I was so sleep deprived I just didn't know where I was. She was born in April and it was my birthday at the end of September. My Mum asked me what I would like for my birthday and all I REALLY wanted was a good solid night's sleep.

So my Mum took my baby off for 24 hours while I just slept and slept and slept. It was the best birthday present i have ever had.

The first 6 months were hell.

You've just got to cope as best you can and take no notice what other people tell you. They all give conflicting advice and every baby is different.

TRUST YOUR OWN INSTINCTS.
Remember "Time and the hour run through the roughest day."
It will all work out OK in the end.

I agree entirely with Artymags. Listen to everyone, nod and smile and do whatever you have to do to get through it.

we tried the bouncy chair, activity play mat, dangly toy thing,
but no, he just wants to sleep on mummy. end of.

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Originally posted by BeerBelle:
we tried the bouncy chair, activity play mat, dangly toy thing,
but no, he just wants to sleep on mummy. end of.

Then let him!
If he's quiet and sleeps like that let him do it.
Get a hammocky thingy and walk around with him strapped round you.

It won't be forever!

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Originally posted by BeerBelle:
do you think he might be bored? i would be bored if i was him. i know that sounds stupid.

Could be? Mobiles are good. My wee girl loved hers.... My current wee boy... we had to take it down as he wouldn't sleep with it.

He WILL sleep alone BeerBelle. I had a 4 week old last year (I'm a foster carer) and the first night was HELL!!! I got less than 2 hours sleep in total. By the 2nd night, he sussed out that he would have to sleep in his moses basket and all was fine. I know it's hard but for your own sanity, you have to be firm.

Although, sleeping in your bed is fine as long as you haven't been drinking or taking drugs.

thanks for listening guys x i'm feeling a bit better about it. and he is so cute x

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thanks for listening guys x i'm feeling a bit better about it. and he is so cute x

LOL I'm guessing he's sleeping now!

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thanks for listening guys x i'm feeling a bit better about it. and he is so cute x

You ramble away we will try and be helpfull and you do whatever gets you through the night. I bet he is cute.... I look at my two and cant beleive I made two such beautiful babies. I waited a long time for them and they are crackers but they do drive me Crackers some times as well... Just wait till he learns how to say NO!!!!!! hehehehehheheheee... But the first few weeks are the hardest

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Originally posted by BeerBelle:
thanks for listening guys x i'm feeling a bit better about it. and he is so cute x

LOL I'm guessing he's sleeping now!

yes. i rescinded and he is tummy-down on my lap. he got his way and is in his favourite position. just the odd squirm, grunt and sigh.

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Originally posted by The Singing Ringing Tree: I look at my two and cant beleive I made two such beautiful babies.

i had nightmares about what he'd look like. i thought with his parentage he was going to be a right ugly mug, but somehow he has managed to get away with it!

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I know it seems like forever, but in a few months, he'll be sleeping solid all night. I kiss my wee one goodnight at 7pm and don't hear a peep until after 7am.

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I had my baby in bed with us quite a lot during the really difficult time.

She never got squished.
Somehow you are always aware a baby is there.

Like Tartan says - it's OK if you're not drunk or drugged.

i was in the chat room just now, and i put babybel down about 20 minutes ago and he has been quiet ever since.... : phew:

now do i poke him to make sure he is still breathing!?

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Originally posted by BeerBelle:
i was in the chat room just now, and i put babybel down about 20 minutes ago and he has been quiet ever since.... : phew:

now do i poke him to make sure he is still breathing!?

Nope, just go to bed - he really is fine.

Goodnight

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Originally posted by BeerBelle:
i was in the chat room just now, and i put babybel down about 20 minutes ago and he has been quiet ever since.... : phew:

now do i poke him to make sure he is still breathing!?

Nope, just go to bed - he really is fine.

Goodnight

night x

OOOOO You never stop the pokeing LOL Well done you now sleep if you can... But I bet your loving a baby not being attached to you. Night Lovely Mummy XXX

Hi Belle..

I had horrible problems with my son... he wouldn't settle and screamed non stop. I found my salvation in a book called Toddler Taming by Dr Christopher Green... that explained how to do the controlled crying method.

I swear it saved my sanity, and is not preachy, or hard going to read. It worked for me.

Even through reading all this I want one so much. I have had a harsh weekend, I know my OH isnt the man for me. God, if I was going through what you were he would be nowhere to be seen.

Hope you managed to get a bit of sleep. Hugs for you and you beautiful bub x

Just neglect it like all the other forum laydeez.

Oh dear I got all this to come in a few weeks. Will my son ever forgive me for being due in the middle of his GCSES? Will my daughter sleep through all the noise.