to those that have been through it but ... years ago miscarriages and still borns were dealt with swiftly as though it was something bad - same as unmarried mums - my Mum was of the old breed , very hard and believed these things happened for a reason and showed little compassion - when I had miscarriage no 1 - she kindly said - pick yourself up and forget it - it happened for a reason
I then went on to have my Son who she idolized 
miscarriage no 2 went on for some time before it finally came to a head and ended as it was thought I could have been having twins and was only losing one 
she told my Son he didnt need a brother or a sister anyway and then losing my Dad suddenly in the same month I received no sympathy whatsoever - I went into a very dark tunnel for nearly a year I never held any of this against her as it was the era she had been brought up in and they just didnt deal with miscarriage and still borns like they do now - thank goodness