Aw Annoca

Some people don't get it.    Even family sometimes.   It was my brother that made this kind of comment.. shocking considering he was brought up with our childhood dog who's passing (at the grand old age of 16) many years ago had hurt my mum so much she hadn't dare get another dog for 20 yrs.

A few weeks after we lost the pup my brother and his wife came up to my house after seeing our parents and started bitching about "mum & dad still moping, it was weeks ago"

I was "still moping" myself... and at that time unable to put forward an argument or explanation of the loss that we were all feeling.

In my desperation when I was where you are I did post on a doggie forum (first forum I had ever posted on)... got lots of people who understood reply back.... but after I came offline I felt embarrassed and it took me a couple of weeks to go back and check on any more replies.    of course... there were loads.

I printed them out for my mum.   She showed no interest when I gave her them to read (along with login details ... I was trying to encourage her to talk to people about things).

Months & months later, after they got Chuffley, she read them...  she wishes she'd read them earlier. 

I wish I'd been on this forum back then...  its good to feel you're not insane feeling this way when faced with "it was only a dog" type people.   I think it would have helped me to see so many people come through this kind of grief.

And we have Annoca...  all of us that have posted here, that have experienced this, we have come through the other side, and you will too.  

In the meantime, we're here to help you when it all gets too much.

xxxx

To him maybe, but not to you. Don't let that upset you (although I know you probably wanted to rearrange his dentures for him). You know what Remy meant to you and that will never leave you, ignorant attitudes are a pointless waste of energy to think about. The memories are yours forever, and Remy will never leave you either. xxx

Just told my hubbie someone had said the "Its only a dog" thing to you...

hubby just said  "grrrrrrrrr"

I can only presume that this man has never known the unconditional love of a wonderful dog. I actually feel a little sorry for him, he doesn't know what he's missing.

I have loved and lost dogs and cats and I know how much it hurts, infact, I prefer animals to alot of people Unconditional love is what they give you along with companionship, laughter and fun.

I know that I could not have loved any of my furry friends anymore than I did, each and everyone of them with a different personality, and each of them unique in their own way

Dante was chosen by Remy to be there to be your friend, I truly believe that, and though the feeling is bittersweet, Remy will always be with you, and I have no doubt guiding Dante along the way until satisfied Dante is ready to take the reins

They are different dogs with different personalities, so Remy will never be replaced, Dante's just taking over and Remy will let him know what to do  

As for the Man who passed 'that' comment, I pity him as he has never experienced that kind of love...

I am so sorry for you, Heartbreaking is the word

Thank you everyone for your posts.  They have made me feel so much better.

That remark really threw me but you are all correct when you say he should be pitied as he has never known real, unconditional love.

Well, I waited to post until I got the phone call from Boston.

DANTE IS ON HIS WAY!!!! 

Safe journey Little Man!!

Fab news Annoca! Bet your so excited!!

A treat for our new Puppy...

What a lovely gift, DID.  Thank you.

I will have to take them back to the shop though, because little Dante would have a hard time getting his mouth around those ones.  I will exchange them for the mini sized ones.

Just got word that Dante has safely landed in Washington.  He will rest overnight and then set out on the second leg of his journey tomorrow morning.  So far, he is happy in himself and is eating and drinking well.

This second flight will bring him to London where he will be kept in quarantine while he gets his bloods done and his microchip.  Then they must wait for the results to come back together with the titre counts.  Once they have those, he can get his rabies vaccination and then he will be ready to make the final flight to Dublin.

It's getting really exciting now.

Poor little mite. He must be wondering what is going on.

Aww I hope Dante will be soon with you

Annoca It wont be long now what an incredible journey for you and Dante, shame on the person who said to you "its only a dog" obvously not an animal lover, sad really  he has never experienced unconditional love given to us by our pets .. his loss our gain,Dante looks so cute in his photographs small dog ..big heart..cant wait for the day you post and say he has arrived this thread will go into overdrive I am so excited for you,take care

Aww I'm so pleased he's on his way!  I can't bring myself to get another dog at the moment.

So in two weeks time you will have your little Dante to cuddle and love!! I'm so pleased things are getting better for you, you were so down at the start of this thread, and you do seem to have gotten a little better..... seems Dante has sarted his good work already eh?

Jenstar

A day closer till you get your little companion Annoca!

Annoca not long till you get your new dog.

Annoca, thinking of you still and please take no notice of this stupid unfeeling comments that you still get from people who don't know any better.  They have not experienced the love, joy, companionship that a pet brings into our lives and the hole that they leave when they leave our lives, 20 years on and I still mourn my cat.  My husband dreads the time I lose one of my beloved cats or dog as they are family simple as.  That person who made that unfeeling comment has obviously never felt the pleasure of owning and loving a pet and should really be felt sorry for.

I can't wait to see the photos of Dante and know that Remy is somewhere warm and comfortable knowing that it is job done, mum will have someone to take care of her again and knowing she will see you again one day.  Good luck and please let us all know how it is going. xxxxx

I don't quite know what to say Annoca.
So much has happened in a short time.
Some beautiful thoughtsa have been expressed in this thread. Such a sense of community here.
The warmest of wishes are sent to you.
Thanks for the news, the pictures and the openness.

Jen - I know how you feel.  If I wasn't in need of a MA dog, I would find it hard to even think of getting another dog.

What makes Dante SO special is that he is related to little Remy and she seems to have dropped him into my life so that he can continue her fantastic work - and in the process, a little bit of her will live on in Dante.

Annoca - so glad I've found this thread again and to hear that Dante is on his way



I just want to echo what everyone else has said - best of luck with your new friend and keep us all informed as to how things are going

Thank you Pink.  As Dante is "The Forum" dog too, you can be sure I will keep you all up to date on what he is up to and how he is behaving.

I will send photos too so as we can all watch him growing up together.

Well my dog died several years ago - and prompted by this thread we were really thinking we shud have got another dog immediately
Now my Mum aint well its too late for her to enjoy another
Shame

I love the thought of Dante on his air travels, Annoca. Sounds like he's taking it all in his stride.

ANNOCA you cud do a "Little dog diary" like the Little Cat Diary

Renton - I will have to look that up.  I haven't come across it before.

Annoca - fab news - thanks 4 updating us all

Renton... my mum was the same, when we lost our childhood cairn.  She'd got him the day she finished work, 7 months pregnant with me....   we lost him 16 years later... and it devastated my mum.   

She couldn't face it again either.

Twas only when 20 odd years later, I found myself taking a career break, and in a position to get a puppy that she took the plunge and came to the breeders with us, and they got a puppy.

She now knows she shouldn't have thought she couldn't face it...  she'd forgotten the joy & companionship having a dog brought.

Getting another dog breathed a new lease of life into both my parents, they looked ten years younger...  still do!

Just got a call to tell me that Dante will arrive in England at 10.35am tomorrow!!!

Oh Annoca that is fantastic news, two weeks and he will be home with you!!  This has become such a lovely story from such heartbreak.

Renton - I looked up the little cat diary.  I am not a writer!!!  I couldn't write a book on Dante.

I think we should keep Dante here in the Forum where he can make friends with all these lovely people.  |He might make strange if he was out of his comfort zone.

I don't think it is too late to get your Mum another dog.  It is most likely she will love to gave one and, in the medical profession, it is widely acknowledged that having a pet prolongs life.

|Have a good think about it and if you do go ahead then get a small dog - not a puppy - who will sit on her lap and snuggle with your Mum.  It could make all the difference in the world to her.

I am just thinking about poor Dante.  He will have been on a plane where everybody speaks the same dialect - gets off that plane and onto another - where therse people speak a different dialect. 

Then he arrives in England tomorrow where the dialects there will be so strange to his ears.

God help him when he gets here to Ireland!!  He will be one confused little soul.

Annoca I'm so pleased Dante is coming home to you I didn't want to post this earlier for fear I would upset you. This was my Christmas present, but we didn't get him until the 9th of January, I was supposed to get him on the 12th but what with the snow etc. we picked him up earlier. His name is Monet. I wanted to shout it from the rooftop's but delayed until I knew that you were OK and would be getting Dante. Thats my youngest son's shirt behind Monet, he flies around my house at 300 miles an hour.My son was laying on the floor so we could get the photo.

Dear Annoca, from personal experience it's not language that animals relate to but, in general,  the tone of voice. More importantly though is animals don't communicate with each other through words, but visuals. Since knowing this for quite a few years it been of help many times to me under certain circumstances when I've applied it.


Love to you and Dante for many happy years of companionship together  and Love to Remy for her unconditional love and service while here....not all humans can achieve that xxxxx

Oh Essie, just saw your pic of Monet,  he's absolutely gorgeous!!!! I want to cuddle him  loooove cuddling animals although it's so much easier with the small ones lol. Wishing you all lots of smiley happiness with Monet in your life

Yellow Rose,

It was a total suprise, never in a million year's would I have expected him, my hubby did good. Love at 1st sight. He's a little Yorkie I've been staying up most nights just gazing at him.

10/10 for hubby for being so thoughtful and bringing so much joy into all your lives   How could anyone not love him at first sight lol, he's so beautiful. but to me all pets are  Wishing you many happy times and many years with Monet 

Essie  -  What an adorable little Yorkie Monet is!!!  Such a sweet face.

You are so kind to have thought of me - but I feel as though I have spoiled it for you not being able to let everyone know.

Enjoy him, love him and cherish him as I know you will and he will repay all of that and more unconditionally.

I am so happy for you Essie.

Yellow Rose - I understand what you are saying - but I was just trying to be funny!!

It must be the excitement of knowing Dante is nearly here.

I WANNA PUPPY!

Essix.... he's so lovely!  Mr D has just had an ooooh & an ahhhhh at his pic.  But still managed a stern "no" when I wailed I wanted one!

Annoca - He'll be fine, we were all geared up for traumatised pup,  all confused & pining for his litter mates and stuff (as it says in the books) when we got AJ.

He couldn't have given a stuff.   He didn't look back, and spent his first night at home stealing strips of doner kebab meat off my sons plate when he wasn't looking.

Dante looks like a brave 'un plus he has Remy looking out for him!

xxx