I can never thank you ALL for the wonderful support you have given me. Without my sons AND Remy, it is very difficult - and you all have been there for me - and that is something I will never forget.
I know that some of you don't know the "details" of my life with Remy - and I am happy to share with you if you want - but just to let you all know - the dog that I will get tomorrow (I have just looked at the time - so therefore, later today) will "look after" me but we are both "trained" to know that this is just a temperary thing.
We will not bond - as this is not what the "Stand-in" dog is for - or wants.
This dog will stay with me until another dog "presents" itself to me as a life long, bonded soul. It has to work both ways - or it doesn't work at all.
I know I am waffling on - but to be truthful - I am dreading going to bed, because Remy was always there with a goodnight kiss and a reassurance that all was well.
Annoca. I am so pleased that you will have another dog with you soon.
The strength of feeling you have for your dog, the bond, fairly jumps off this page.
It is of little comfort at the moment but never forget that you gave Remy much love and a happy life.
A new dog will be lucky to come into your life.
Loving a new dog, does not mean you love Remy any less.
Love doesn't have limits.
I am so sorry you are agonizing.
We know it will be devastating when we lose our pets, but that doesn't make it any easier.
You have loving support from this forum.
The strength of feeling you have for your dog, the bond, fairly jumps off this page.
It is of little comfort at the moment but never forget that you gave Remy much love and a happy life.
A new dog will be lucky to come into your life.
Loving a new dog, does not mean you love Remy any less.
Love doesn't have limits.
I am so sorry you are agonizing.
We know it will be devastating when we lose our pets, but that doesn't make it any easier.
You have loving support from this forum.
Remy will make sure that that will happen when the time is right for you Annoca and in the meantime she will continue to look after you......albeit without physical form. Please try and get some sleep and trust that she is by your side
waffle all you want.... if it helps
I agree with what Tequila said.... the bit about Remy 'sending' the right dog to you. It happened with my parents dog. Obviously not a service dog... but when their beloved Wilson was in his last few weeks of live (he was under a year old.. but had an aggresive tumour on his nose... he had breathed a new lease of life into my parents, and though not with us for long, no dog was loved more) I was sat out in the garden with him (I went up to see him every day from the diagnosis, til the day we had to take him for his last visit to the vets)... I talked to him and said I would look after mum & dad... and that I would try to get them to get another dog... so that their life could continue to be what he had made it... he just sat there side by side with me... and put his paw on me knee. Twas very out of character for him. Was a spooky... but memorable moment.
After a very very hard month with my parents following his passing I eventually found them another pup. My mum had insisted it was another cairn.... and we found Chuffley (I hasten to add.. they named him, not me)... Cairns are not lap dogs... but this one was. Chuffley was heaven (or Wilson) sent... he was exactly what they needed to help them get over any feelings of betrayal, and to allow them to grieve, but also to fall in love again too.
I know to some this is all pie in the sky... but was as spiritual as I have ever been.
I still talk to Wilson... I loved him like my own, and his passing hurt me like nothing ever has.
I try to rationalise his very short life, by telling myself he came to the right people... and it was how it was meant to be.
It sounds to me like it was like that for Remy & you also. You were meant for each other ....
I love all our dogs passed.... but Wilson was the one that made me feel there was a bigger picture going on.... your Remy is another.
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I agree with what Tequila said.... the bit about Remy 'sending' the right dog to you. It happened with my parents dog. Obviously not a service dog... but when their beloved Wilson was in his last few weeks of live (he was under a year old.. but had an aggresive tumour on his nose... he had breathed a new lease of life into my parents, and though not with us for long, no dog was loved more) I was sat out in the garden with him (I went up to see him every day from the diagnosis, til the day we had to take him for his last visit to the vets)... I talked to him and said I would look after mum & dad... and that I would try to get them to get another dog... so that their life could continue to be what he had made it... he just sat there side by side with me... and put his paw on me knee. Twas very out of character for him. Was a spooky... but memorable moment.
After a very very hard month with my parents following his passing I eventually found them another pup. My mum had insisted it was another cairn.... and we found Chuffley (I hasten to add.. they named him, not me)... Cairns are not lap dogs... but this one was. Chuffley was heaven (or Wilson) sent... he was exactly what they needed to help them get over any feelings of betrayal, and to allow them to grieve, but also to fall in love again too.
I know to some this is all pie in the sky... but was as spiritual as I have ever been.
I still talk to Wilson... I loved him like my own, and his passing hurt me like nothing ever has.
I try to rationalise his very short life, by telling myself he came to the right people... and it was how it was meant to be.
It sounds to me like it was like that for Remy & you also. You were meant for each other ....
I love all our dogs passed.... but Wilson was the one that made me feel there was a bigger picture going on.... your Remy is another.
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Aww bless Ditty I'm so glad Wilson sent Chuffley for your parents...........unconditional love is never broken and our beloved pets continue to look after us from the higher side of life. My little Lucy lets me know she is still around even tho' its been over 4 years since she passed.
I am so sorry for your lossa cold bed is very empty - practical side - if u can go to bed - warm it first if possible - duvet on a radiator/in front of the fire whatever - hot water bottle or empty plastic bottle filled with hot water as a substitute - it might help
Oh ANNOCA!
I've just read this thread and am weeping. I'm not a pet type of person at all... but your sadness about Remy leaps out of my screen. You were a lucky woman to have had that love in your life from him is for sure.
Like FMs have said, Remy would not want you to be too sad and will guide your next companion to you.
And in the meantime, thank you for telling us... because if you can't have a cuddle from Remy now, your FMs will be giving you goodnight hugs when you go to bed. And Remy will be giving a wag of his tail to you and all of us wherever he is.
I've just read this thread and am weeping. I'm not a pet type of person at all... but your sadness about Remy leaps out of my screen. You were a lucky woman to have had that love in your life from him is for sure.
Like FMs have said, Remy would not want you to be too sad and will guide your next companion to you.
And in the meantime, thank you for telling us... because if you can't have a cuddle from Remy now, your FMs will be giving you goodnight hugs when you go to bed. And Remy will be giving a wag of his tail to you and all of us wherever he is.
Ditty - THANK you!!!
I think Wilson and Remy were on the same wave length - hence the arrival of Chuffley.
I always chatted away to Remy - all day, every day - right up to today and she would "chat" back to me. However, if I ever mentioned something she DISAGREED with - she would let me know in no uncertain terms!!!
I know and understand that there are people who cannot understand this for whatever reason.
Medical Alert dogs all differ in the way they alert their people and it is the people who are trained to recognise the "alert" behaviour of the dog and not the other way round.
Remy's alert was to spin in circles and then jump up and "bat" my chest. She was 10lbs in body weight
If she disagreed with something in my "chatter" to her, she would inhale, snort and sneeze at me!! She was SO adament - it was unbelievable - but true.
I know I am going on and on about my little angel - but to be totally honest - I cannot bear to go to bed as she was always there, waiting to give me that kiss.
Only true animal lovers will understand this - and those of you who have had the likes of Remy in your lives - even more so.
I am going to be COMPLETELY open and honest with you all now - and yes - it is because I am grieving Remy's loss but also to give others hope.
I was lucky to have a "stand in" dog to alert me before Remy came into my life. I suffer from a severe form of diabetes and despite doing everything "by the book" can sometimes experience hypos - hypers etc.
During the time I has this temperory dog, I received a phonecall from a friend in England telling me about a little dog that was being abused
I was very depressed during this time and told my friend that I didn;t want to know - THREE times. I have to explain here that I am an International Judge of pedigree dogs (second generation) and my ACTUAL work was with sick, injured and abused animals.
Then along came this waif - pedigree I might add - looking like NOTHING on Earth!!
On the fourth attempt, I agreed, reluctantly to take this dog from England and to try and get it a good home. I went to Holyhead and collected this little waif and came back on the next ferry. I took her home and because she was smelling so badly, I put her in the bath at home and gave her a shampoo and condition. From what appeared to have been a dark brown "mutt" turned into the most wonderful, shiney jet black Petit Brabancon. I have no need to explain that this particular puppy was authorised to go to my home as a companion dog.
She was so sweet, I couldn't put her into the adoption kennels in the SPCA where I worked, so decided instead that she would stay with me as a pet. I insisted even further that she would go into "assessment" for Medical Alert Dogs.
That was the day my little Earth Angel was born.
I think Wilson and Remy were on the same wave length - hence the arrival of Chuffley.
I always chatted away to Remy - all day, every day - right up to today and she would "chat" back to me. However, if I ever mentioned something she DISAGREED with - she would let me know in no uncertain terms!!!
I know and understand that there are people who cannot understand this for whatever reason.
Medical Alert dogs all differ in the way they alert their people and it is the people who are trained to recognise the "alert" behaviour of the dog and not the other way round.
Remy's alert was to spin in circles and then jump up and "bat" my chest. She was 10lbs in body weight
If she disagreed with something in my "chatter" to her, she would inhale, snort and sneeze at me!! She was SO adament - it was unbelievable - but true.
I know I am going on and on about my little angel - but to be totally honest - I cannot bear to go to bed as she was always there, waiting to give me that kiss.
Only true animal lovers will understand this - and those of you who have had the likes of Remy in your lives - even more so.
I am going to be COMPLETELY open and honest with you all now - and yes - it is because I am grieving Remy's loss but also to give others hope.
I was lucky to have a "stand in" dog to alert me before Remy came into my life. I suffer from a severe form of diabetes and despite doing everything "by the book" can sometimes experience hypos - hypers etc.
During the time I has this temperory dog, I received a phonecall from a friend in England telling me about a little dog that was being abused
I was very depressed during this time and told my friend that I didn;t want to know - THREE times. I have to explain here that I am an International Judge of pedigree dogs (second generation) and my ACTUAL work was with sick, injured and abused animals.
Then along came this waif - pedigree I might add - looking like NOTHING on Earth!!
On the fourth attempt, I agreed, reluctantly to take this dog from England and to try and get it a good home. I went to Holyhead and collected this little waif and came back on the next ferry. I took her home and because she was smelling so badly, I put her in the bath at home and gave her a shampoo and condition. From what appeared to have been a dark brown "mutt" turned into the most wonderful, shiney jet black Petit Brabancon. I have no need to explain that this particular puppy was authorised to go to my home as a companion dog.
She was so sweet, I couldn't put her into the adoption kennels in the SPCA where I worked, so decided instead that she would stay with me as a pet. I insisted even further that she would go into "assessment" for Medical Alert Dogs.
That was the day my little Earth Angel was born.
nothing can take away your sadness right now - you will have your memories always to treasuregoing to bed now Annoca - sincere wishes for you to get some sleep
Dear Annoca, having read further of your bond with Remy I totally understand what you're going through - not that I didn't associate before because I totally did having lost so many very much loved pets...I'm involved with cat rescue and have taken in many sick cats with Leukemia and Aids that I gave the best life to them that I could before they had to pass, but I still grieve for their loss of physical presence in my life but I try to console myself that they are happier and pain free now.
Despite the heartache I've been through I still take in those that are sick or homeless and unloved. I know for sure a 100% without needing anyone else's opinion that the kitties who've passed over have sent others to me to take care of because no one else will. I feel Remy will also send you the one you need, maybe not right now, but in the near future. xxxx
Despite the heartache I've been through I still take in those that are sick or homeless and unloved. I know for sure a 100% without needing anyone else's opinion that the kitties who've passed over have sent others to me to take care of because no one else will. I feel Remy will also send you the one you need, maybe not right now, but in the near future. xxxx
It seems so cruel that grief like this is the price of love. 
Remy sounds such a special dog - as all the guide dogs and hearing dogs are - how lucky you were Annoca- please keep posting if it helps
Oh Annoca, I'm soo sooo sorry, literally crying here. It is incredibly painful losing someone, and a pet imo is part of our family. I so hope you bond with your new dog and that you love him/her as much as you did Remy
Although I do not know you I really feel for you. I'm sure when the time is right a new friend will be there to help look after you. God bless.
Just read your words about Remy, Annoca. Like Xochi, I'm literally crying here. I'm so sorry that you've been parted. (She's still your little guardian angel though). I don't think anything on this earth gives love as totally and unconditionally as a dog and she sounds outstanding even amongst dogs. I'm glad that you had all that time and all those experiences with her; they'll live forever... and, when your new buddy arrives, I bet Remy will be giving a huge sigh of relief. Yes...sleep well, Remy honey.
I have no words
Annoca.... I thought you had gone to bed - I would have stayed up if I thought you were still about.
I too hope you got some rest.
Your story on how you and Remy got together... proves it doesn't it? You were absolutely meant to be together... and yeah... she sounds so very very special.
Anyone who knows me on here will know that this is my hercules heel... losing our dogs... and so, I am properly worried about you Annoca. Please, post here as much as you need to, as you have read - we may all be rabble sometimes, but when the chips are down we pull out the stops.
I, and many of the others on here, are thinking of you... you're not alone. And I am happy to read as much about Remy as you want to write... though this whole thread is heartbreaking, your little Remy stories are inspiring xx
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I too hope you got some rest.
Your story on how you and Remy got together... proves it doesn't it? You were absolutely meant to be together... and yeah... she sounds so very very special.
Anyone who knows me on here will know that this is my hercules heel... losing our dogs... and so, I am properly worried about you Annoca. Please, post here as much as you need to, as you have read - we may all be rabble sometimes, but when the chips are down we pull out the stops.
I, and many of the others on here, are thinking of you... you're not alone. And I am happy to read as much about Remy as you want to write... though this whole thread is heartbreaking, your little Remy stories are inspiring xx
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