Awww JAF, I would say you've done right not to give him money but people who do that will find a way regardless as they're desperate, you obviously care about him he's your dad he's not perfect but you love him but he is making all these mistakes what a dilemma.

to be honest darlo i dont know if i do love him,its like i feel a duty to him in some sort of way, i would probably pass him in the street and he would me cos i really cant say what or how bad he looks now.i dont think hes into the really bad drugs just the wacky baccy sorta stuff.

Oh Justa.......this is horrible for you... torn in 2 I would say! Unfortunately you need to make a clean break from this man! DO NOT send him any more money however he tries to weedle it out of you...... you owe him naff all.Is it possible to change your number?
Remember this.He may have the title of father but he has not lived up to it!Your mum was better off without him and so are you!

ive hung on to my phone number living in hope that it would be a nice phone call one day,and not some drunken waffle about 20 years ago. mum told me more or less the same as you fig. im 27 i really should have known better, and i didnt give the number to him i gave it to my auntie, it didnt cross my mind for a minute she would pass it onto him. i really think its time to turn that phone off for good.

It must be very hard for you Justa because you probably THINK you should have certain feelings and therefore respond to him accordingly! However what you must think about is you... throw any guilt feelings away because  whatever age you are you are the child not the parent! He had a duty to you not you to him.

thank you fig it really does help.

i didnt mean to worry squiggs and hope she now realises its nothing serious.

Got to go now Justa.... speak tomorrow, have a good night , hugs for you and your mum!

night night fig

I'm always useless with advice and good words JAF but I just wanted to come and give you a big for all of this. I hope it gets better for you soon.

thats sweet of you Mary, its all in my hands really i need to block him out again.

Night everyone

And for Joyron tomorrow: hang on in there. Let's never let the thread die, because even if we're only posting a little bit and aren't all here at the same time it's better than just losing the lovely little group we have. We'll all adjust and things'll go back to normal soon enough, I'm almost sure of it.

night Mary

I think it's a bit like coming down off a 'high'. All buoyed up during BB and now it's over and it's left a bit of a hole. Normally after BB theres a bit of a poste mortem, but the move to LC has overridden that and its all a bit different. Hang on in there folks and I'm sure it'll level out soon and things will get back to normal fairly soon.

Jaf, sorry to hear of your family problems.

Squiggle, I truly think people are going off the rails a bit if they are saying, or suggesting, things like 'monster of ungratefulness'.

Good morning all Fredsters albeit a rather brrrrr one!The chickens got rather a brisk good morning girls from me today

Made some Damson jam yesterday boy it is so yummy!  some for you to try

Lots of  and for you all!

What's the difference between asparagus and a stick of licorice?
Ans...... obvious innit?
Just made it up! I'll get me coat!!!!!

Han the above is especially for you.  I wish I was near enough to you to give you a proper

First thing I want to say is 'you have done nothing wrong'.  I can see that you have a big heart and I can see that your Mum raised you well with no bitterness towards your Dad.  Unfortunately some people only see opportunities to use others instead of opportunities to love others.  I hope you don't think I am rubbishing your Dad when I say that, but he is what he is.  You have tried, you have really tried your best.  These phone calls are bringing your life down.  You cannot afford to keep giving him cash and at the end of the day its not good for him to have more cash to spend on drink/drugs.  So, with love, you have to change your number now.  That phone call that you long for will not come from him, he is too deeply involved with himself at the moment and perhaps the wake-up call that he needs will happen one day.

You sound a lovely person, I have known this since the time we got to know one another on this thread.  You will be doing yourself a disfavour now if you blame yourself in any way, you have done what you have done with love and it is time now to be strong.  You knew it wasn't a good idea for him to have your number and it should never have been passed on to him by your auntie, but that's water under the bridge now.  People have been so kind to me and my OH on here, and for this sort of thing we need to keep this thread going.  Promise me that you will keep us all informed as to what happens, we may only be cyber-friends but we are all actually flesh and blood people who really care about you. God Bless, its tough love your Dad needs now.

thats sounds very nice. also sounds like you live somewhere lovely to fig

Hello Squiggs, thank you for the message.

i know what i have to do and i have turned the mobile off, as i do have another mobile i can use. ( thankfully i didnt give them the home number poor mum).
i guess i always knew deep down there was gonna be no happy ending, its been to many years and to many bad stories.
i wish i was more like my sis she doesnt want to know anything about him totally blanked him out of her life and i need to do the same.its me and my soft emotional side that always gets me into trouble. But i will try my best not to get involved anymore,
thank you again for taking the time to reply as i know you are struggling as well. so hope you have a good visit when you see Mr Squiggs today

Thanks for that Mary.  It's comments like that which make me want to be here.   I love talking to all those special friends I have made since I joined Freddie's fan club, and this thread.  I wonder if Freddie knows just what he's done in bringing us altogether!!

To darlo, figtree, justafriend and squiggle - happy Tuesday.  Squiggle I hope you have a good visit with your husband today.  Justafriend, what can I say.  Here's a big  from me to you.  I agree with what others have said.  You must change your number (just seen above that you have turned the phone off).  It may seem harsh but it is for the best.  I send my love to everyone.  XXX

morning Joyron,
hope everything is ok with you, im fine.
i know its for the best what i have done,

Joyron even if we end up with not much more than this lovely Freddie thread it will be worth it because I would hate to lose touch with you and all the other lovely people you have mentioned.  I have said it before and I will probably say it again but I feel that Freddie is a special person and I think the loyal fans he has attracted to this thread are very special too.  Group hug everyone
And this is for all of you from me

Just popped in to make sure that we are all still here! Well done!

See you later!

Up date Squiggs! How you doing?

Afternnon everyone.  Thought I would pop in for a moment to see what's going on.  See you all later

checking everyones ok, ive bought meself 2 dresses i never wear dresses, its for a friends hen night and the theme is elegance (thats just not me lol) i can see me taking them back.

hiya all Freddie fans

I hope you are all well.  Where is DB?  We need another fix (another video)

I know what you mean Justafriend.  I'm in trousers ALL the time.  Mind you have have bought some lovely outfits for my cruise for our 40th wedding anniversary this time next year,  I know it's a long way off but the anticipation is good for me.  Gives me something to aim for!!!

Oophs.  I don't know what it is but I seem to be posting with errors today!!  I really must put the wine away.

joyron, my connection has been playing up all day today.  Sometimes it will let me post and at other times it won't.

Hi there Twee Surgeon.  I know what you mean about internet connections.  We live in the country and have very bad connections.  Sometimes it's there and sometimes it's gone for hours!!!

Evening twee,joyron, fluffs, squiggs, Darlo,justa,Mary,Cossy and  all other lovely fredsters that my rather mature brain will not allow me to muster up!

Comeon super Darlo piccie time! You can do your HW later!

Evening figtree.  Hope all is well with you.  Sadly I find I cannot watch any of the videos which darlo puts up, due to my poor internet connection.  The pictures however are great.

hi joyron

I posted in the Book Club thread today and my post came up three times.  I don't know how that happened.  I have also lost my blog that I was typing out.  It is really annoying how it just disappeared and I don't want to type it again. 

If you live in the country, the connections can be dicey.  I think that the prob may be with LC today though because some of the threads are unreadable.  There is a  in the works methinks and it stole my bluddy blog   If you see this  grab him/her and get my blog back.

DB ... where are you?  We need you.  We need pics and videos.  Having homework is no excuse.  Get a move on
hi maryb, figtree, squiggle, justa, and all the lovely peeps in this thread  We must and we will keep it on page one.

Hi there.... I do have a bit of trouble with the vids because they are forever pausing but I generally get the gist of them! Shame you cannot get them! If I was a bit more techy I would try to help you! Still as you say we do get some good piccies!

that sounds wonderful, it will be here before you know it too so best get prepared

Hello Twee good to see you and hope everythings ok with you

Wish I had that wonderfully funny bump that Squiggs posts I would love to do that!

bumpetybumpetybumpbumpbumpbumpbumpbumetybumpbumpbump

Cannot stay too long but may pop by later.Enjoy your evening you all!

bumpetybumpbumpetybump back at you hehe

Couldn't resist! My OH had a CT scan today on his chest, all clear!

Squiggle, that is fantastic news.  I bet your feeling great about that.

thats wonderful news squiggs

There we are....a positive step in the right direction.