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Originally posted by DanceSettee:
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Originally posted by Liverpoollass:
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Originally posted by Forest:
I can't stand Freddie, never have, I dislike him for several reasons: I find him insincere, manipulative, condescending, full of bullshit half the time and pompous. This has nothing to do with whether he has a disability and its a weak and easy argument to try to defend or justify his actions because of it and that of why someone might not hold him in high esteem.
Sure, he may have problems with his speech or may deal with situations differently to others, but he has made it through Oxford and it seems that he may have a promising career in politics. Its not held him back in any way so why should I judge him differently negatively or positively based on that. It's condescending.
Perhaps a bit of empathy and compassion for another human being suffering, might not be a bad thing.
I did feel sorry for him last night having a panic attack, I know what that feels like and he has my sympathy.
However it did highlight how little his particular dyslexia is affected by stress. Dyslexia is often associated with short term memory deficit, but remember how he was able to reel back what Bea had said to him verbatim...very impressive, no sign of stress affecting his communication skills there at all.
The later episode where he was struggling could be equally attributed to an anxiety attack.
Yes dyslexia can be a debilitating condition as far as learning is concerned, but it's not an over arching explanation for a man being a pompous twat...which Freddy is most of the time, and I agree with what Forest said above
Using dyslexia to excuse his behaviour is an insult to other people with dyslexia who don't behave this way.
Freddy irritates me because as a man that must have suffered abuse for his learning problems as a child, he should know better than to be so patronising about other people's intelligence...yet that has become one of his defining personality characteristics
... and when given a bit of power and back up, he has shown he can be equally as vicious as the people that must have once ridiculed him
I have to agree with a lot that's said here and what Tupps said; the Dundee model states the spectrum of symptoms that
may appear in the various forms (and there are many) of dyslexia but we have no access to which are affecting Freddie's behaviour. In addition, anxiety (and depression) or susceptibility to them are co-morbid with virtually every psychopathological condition known (organic or not).
By attributing all his quirky behaviours to his condition we're in danger of objectifying him
as his condition. He's a human being with a wide range of personality traits (good and bad) including those that may be driven by his dyslexia.
We can't easily determine which are and which aren't. The 'ahhs and ummm's'? He does that even when eating or drinking or no conversation is occurring. It
may be a non-verbal vehicle for expressing his happiness / contentment or it may be just a non-dyslexia associated habit. Who knows? I know a couple of (non-dyslexic) people who do that. It annoys his HMs though and, given his intelligence and undoubted sensitivity to social situations in other ways, he might consider amending it.
I'm under no doubt that his dyslexia will affect his information processing, his receptive and expressive language and that these things have a knock on effect...and that he's a nice enough bloke but, (and he's by no means the only person in there guilty of this), he seems hyperacutely aware of the socio-emotional behaviours of his HMs but doesn't, perhaps, take enough time to consider the impact of his own little foibles on others. In that way he's no different to Marcus, Bea, Lisa, David, Charlie....et al.
Having said all that, last noight's performance by Bea was astonishingly, clinically, ruthless and quite cruel. She seemed (seems) to thrive on capitalising on his weak points to her social advantage. She's intelligent, isn't she? She saw the visible signs of fairly acute and severe distress in him yet continued. Even her re-appearance in the bedroom to console him seemed, to me, more strategic ("Look everyone, I DO care about him. Nice me!") than truly compassionate.
She's not a very nice person, and, as Siavash said, Freddie needs to recognise this (rather than cling to his imitial impression of her being a soulamte) and learn to detach himself emotionally from her. I hope that this morning he has gained a little clarity and resilience and feels better. Wasn't nice to see any human being like he was last night.
Just watching it again....Freddy is struggling to speak and that nasty mare says why are you speaking like that. 
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No-one with a disability (hidden or visible) would ask that you like them just because they are disabled 
