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Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:

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Originally posted by Templetonpeck:

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Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:
Toots, I'd delete all your Nurse Friends and close your profile so only friends can see it, alternatively, you can create a group and put into the group people you don't want to read your wall posts/ status updates etc.......that way, you can keep them as Friends but stop the Professionals reading everything....

...if you need any help I'll try my best to show you how? xxx

Just when it seems she was being nice, there's Devil in the last line with the come on

it's you with your mucky mind Temps! You ok? How's Finn?

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Originally posted by Tiddly~Wink:
Hi Toots LTNS. As long as you haven't made it personal by mentioning any names, you can say what you like. They, on the other hand are bound by the confidentiality of Nurse/Patient ethics, and should not be discussing you or your private life, away from the workplace. The best thing to do, is to delete them form your friends list, and that way they won't be able to say anymore about it. Your health and wellbeing are the most important factor in all of this, and they as 'professionals' are behaving very badly. The nice ones have been praised, and the ones with attitude are making things worse for themselves by making all of this a big deal.

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Originally posted by Triggers:
Hi Toots! If you haven't named names I really don't see the problem. I also think it was very unfair that you had to change hospitals because you were unhappy with a mamber of staff.
I really don't know much about the workings of Facebook but I hope this all works out.

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Originally posted by Tootall:

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Originally posted by TiGi:
Personally I think it's quite unprofessional of the staff to have patients on their list of friends. Asking for trouble if you ask me.

Tigi because my treatment keeps me alive and its three times a week we are bound to develop relationships and some nurses we consider friends. Ive been doing this this time around for eight years so we talk about most things that go on in our lives and know a bit about eachother. Spending so much time lines get blurred

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Originally posted by watchinittoomuch:

Careful, I'll need those towels again....

(Sorry Toots )

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Originally posted by Tootall:

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Originally posted by Triggers:
Hi Toots! If you haven't named names I really don't see the problem. I also think it was very unfair that you had to change hospitals because you were unhappy with a mamber of staff.
I really don't know much about the workings of Facebook but I hope this all works out.

Thanks Triggers, if it wasn't for how it was sorted that other time i might of been more prepared to make official complaints to higher people

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Originally posted by Tootall:
Hi Tupps, like ive repied later on i have tried the proper channels before, one involving me being swept under the carpet instead of trying to fix the problem. Its hard making official complaints too as these are people who i see every other day. Intodays age they are to scared of getting sued, so instead of admitting not knowing something or admitting to do something wrong they don't, so instead of fixing the problem they don't and the mistakes happen over and over again. I have to say not all nurses are like this but they are extremly hesitant to tell a collegue they are doing something wrong, just make sure they them selves are doing it right. I am not looking to sue people either or i could of done it the night i was given 16 sleeping tablets one night instead of the ONE i was prescribed! I appreciate the job they do also as i wouldnt be alive now with out them.
Rightly or wrongly i have people on here i consider friends so like to sound off to them about my experiances and get advice. Also to let others know what does go on that is tried to be hidden

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Originally posted by FGG Aka Crocodile Rock:
The fact that someone recognised themselves from your not so flattering (i'm assuming) comment must mean what you wrote was true.

And no, they have no right to tell you what you can or cannot do...no names were used and as someone else said, you have as much right to a whinge and moan as the next person...

Carry on and bollox to them!

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Originally posted by watchinittoomuch:

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Originally posted by FGG Aka Crocodile Rock:
The fact that someone recognised themselves from your not so flattering (i'm assuming) comment must mean what you wrote was true.

And no, they have no right to tell you what you can or cannot do...no names were used and as someone else said, you have as much right to a whinge and moan as the next person...

Carry on and bollox to them!

Will you come to court with me next week?

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I also feel though if a nurse makes a complaint there is something done immediately the problem is approached but if its a patient doing this its not taken as serious.

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Originally posted by Tootall:

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Originally posted by FGG Aka Crocodile Rock:
The fact that someone recognised themselves from your not so flattering (i'm assuming) comment must mean what you wrote was true.

And no, they have no right to tell you what you can or cannot do...no names were used and as someone else said, you have as much right to a whinge and moan as the next person...

Carry on and bollox to them!

Lol thank you for your reply Croc, I felt the same as you before i was approached this morning. I also feel though if a nurse makes a complaint there is something done immediately the problem is approached but if its a patient doing this its not taken as serious.

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Originally posted by tupps:
Just because someone doesn't name names doesn't mean the person can't be identified. It sounds like they have been in this instance despite no names.

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Originally posted by Tootall:

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Originally posted by tupps:
Ack.. sounds a pain..

In theory you could be sued for libel if anything you'd posted was defamatory... but that would depend on what you've posted etc. In any event it probably isn't a good idea to post anything negative about the people providing the care if they are able to see it. It would be better, if you have a complaint, to go through the proper channels.

Sounds to me like what you are saying is possibly getting back to the person you've commented on or is the subject of some water cooler moments.

hi toots, it must be hell for you, so can understand how you have formed relationships with your carer's. The fact that one of the nurses got your medication wrong is great cause for concern, and as Hyacinth said, any complaints are dealt with very seriously, but believe me, having worked in the NHS for many years, complaints can be made public (as in friendships between nurses) and unfortunately, it can have a negative knock on effect, and you may be seen (in their eyes) as being a trouble maker. Just be very careful, because at the end of the day your health is far more important. Good luck toots


Hi Tupps, like ive repied later on i have tried the proper channels before, one involving me being swept under the carpet instead of trying to fix the problem. Its hard making official complaints too as these are people who i see every other day. Intodays age they are to scared of getting sued, so instead of admitting not knowing something or admitting to do something wrong they don't, so instead of fixing the problem they don't and the mistakes happen over and over again. I have to say not all nurses are like this but they are extremly hesitant to tell a collegue they are doing something wrong, just make sure they them selves are doing it right. I am not looking to sue people either or i could of done it the night i was given 16 sleeping tablets one night instead of the ONE i was prescribed! I appreciate the job they do also as i wouldnt be alive now with out them.
Rightly or wrongly i have people on here i consider friends so like to sound off to them about my experiances and get advice. Also to let others know what does go on that is tried to be hidden

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Originally posted by Tootall:

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Originally posted by tupps:
Just because someone doesn't name names doesn't mean the person can't be identified. It sounds like they have been in this instance despite no names.

But does that mean i can't mention anything that happens to me in hospital just in case some one takes offence if they feel my experience involved them and makes them sound bad? I'm having trouble working this in my head. Can i not talk about my family either?

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Originally posted by pussycatj:

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Originally posted by Tootall:

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Originally posted by tupps:
Ack.. sounds a pain..

In theory you could be sued for libel if anything you'd posted was defamatory... but that would depend on what you've posted etc. In any event it probably isn't a good idea to post anything negative about the people providing the care if they are able to see it. It would be better, if you have a complaint, to go through the proper channels.

Sounds to me like what you are saying is possibly getting back to the person you've commented on or is the subject of some water cooler moments.

hi toots, it must be hell for you, so can understand how you have formed relationships with your carer's. The fact that one of the nurses got your medication wrong is great cause for concern, and as Hyacinth said, any complaints are dealt with very seriously, but believe me, having worked in the NHS for many years, complaints can be made public (as in friendships between nurses) and unfortunately, it can have a negative knock on effect, and you may be seen (in their eyes) as being a trouble maker. Just be very careful, because at the end of the day your health is far more important. Good luck toots


Hi Tupps, like ive repied later on i have tried the proper channels before, one involving me being swept under the carpet instead of trying to fix the problem. Its hard making official complaints too as these are people who i see every other day. Intodays age they are to scared of getting sued, so instead of admitting not knowing something or admitting to do something wrong they don't, so instead of fixing the problem they don't and the mistakes happen over and over again. I have to say not all nurses are like this but they are extremly hesitant to tell a collegue they are doing something wrong, just make sure they them selves are doing it right. I am not looking to sue people either or i could of done it the night i was given 16 sleeping tablets one night instead of the ONE i was prescribed! I appreciate the job they do also as i wouldnt be alive now with out them.
Rightly or wrongly i have people on here i consider friends so like to sound off to them about my experiances and get advice. Also to let others know what does go on that is tried to be hidden

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The fact that one of the nurses got your medication wrong is great cause for concern, and as Hyacinth said, any complaints are dealt with very seriously, but believe me, having worked in the NHS for many years, complaints can be made public (as in friendships between nurses) and unfortunately, it can have a negative knock on effect, and you may be seen (in their eyes) as being a trouble maker

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Originally posted by HyacinthB:

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The fact that one of the nurses got your medication wrong is great cause for concern, and as Hyacinth said, any complaints are dealt with very seriously, but believe me, having worked in the NHS for many years, complaints can be made public (as in friendships between nurses) and unfortunately, it can have a negative knock on effect, and you may be seen (in their eyes) as being a trouble maker

Precisely what I was trying to get across pussycat but it appears to have been overlooked!!

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Originally posted by Tootall:

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Originally posted by tupps:
Just because someone doesn't name names doesn't mean the person can't be identified. It sounds like they have been in this instance despite no names.

But does that mean i can't mention anything that happens to me in hospital just in case some one takes offence if they feel my experience involved them and makes them sound bad? I'm having trouble working this in my head. Can i not talk about my family either?

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Originally posted by TiGi:
Personally I think it's quite unprofessional of the staff to have patients on their list of friends. Asking for trouble if you ask me.

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Originally posted by Lockes no 1 fan:
I suggest you phone nursecom

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Originally posted by The Singing Ringing Tree:
delete the nurses as friends toots. Keeping them will only make you paranoid. Once you have deleted them you can moan as much you like. If say one nurse is actually a bit of a gossip you might not know that. I would get rid of them.

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Originally posted by Raggy♥Doll:

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Originally posted by Tootall:

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Originally posted by Raggy♥Doll:
I dunno about legally or owt but it's not a very nice thing to do if it will get back to them. Why not tell them you aren't happy with their work or report incompetence instead of putting it on fbook? Sorry you're unwell, but it seems a bit out of order to me.

Hi Raggy♥Doll, I don't get whats not very nice though. I am totaly upfront with nurses, I mentioned before the last time i was polite and made complaints by a nurse in the past, a nurse may i say the other nurses new was not up to the job, so much so they agrred she needed re training and not to put people on a machine without other nurses it was decided by a boss who came in that it was best that I was moved to another hospital straight after their surprise meeting with me.
I was not allowed to say bye to my fellow patients and on the way out of the door was told by other nurses they agreed with me, thought i shouldn't have to move but couldnt say anything!
I have a feeling who this nurse is, and she only recognised her self being mentioned by her wrong attitude and could of put me in a place where i would have had my health effected in not a good way by her. Other Nurse no about he weaknesses (putting it politely).

Hi Are you facebook friends with the incompetent ones or only the nice ones & they have leaked it back to the ones you were posting about? I think if you are friends on there with the crappy ones I'd delete them, I never see the point of people adding 'friends' on there who they don't even like, lol. If it is just that the 'nice' ones have leaked it back to the other ones then it's more of a difficult problem because there is obviously someone there that you can't trust and you can't be sure who it is.

In my previous post I thought you meant you were talking about someone on your friends list, which I wouldn't take kindly to if I was that person & saw it on facebook, but if it is something you said about someone not on your friends list and it got back to them through gossip then I think it is their problem not yours. Sorry, hope that's clearer!

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Originally posted by Templetonpeck:
Firstly, apparently FB is quite dodgy in that respect Toots, Ive heard of people getting fired, losing out in interviews all because of something they've posted on FB.

Secondly, who is this stupid bint that is so paranoid she thinks that everything you post about is about her?

Thirdly, would I drag her out into the car park and pound her with a wispa bar? Damn right I would

Fourthly, I would go on to FB and post about this psycho on your ward who has convinced everyone to delete you from FB...we can help you compose something if you like...we helped The Secretary with her FB quandary only recently

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Originally posted by Garage Joe:
I use Facebook for keeping in touch with people I don't meet very often.
Since anything written on t'internet is truncated and open to misinterpretation it may be better not to have any nurses or patients as FB friends and only speak to them when you see them.

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Originally posted by Tiddly~Wink:
Hi Toots LTNS. As long as you haven't made it personal by mentioning any names, you can say what you like. They, on the other hand are bound by the confidentiality of Nurse/Patient ethics, and should not be discussing you or your private life, away from the workplace. The best thing to do, is to delete them form your friends list, and that way they won't be able to say anymore about it. Your health and wellbeing are the most important factor in all of this, and they as 'professionals' are behaving very badly. The nice ones have been praised, and the ones with attitude are making things worse for themselves by making all of this a big deal.

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Originally posted by Templetonpeck:

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Originally posted by Tootall:
Thanks Bov, I have only written about my experiences and treatment, my nurses i have on there have never disagreed with what i have wrote on there. One of my nurses i have is in my bay today and i spoke to her about it. I mentioned that i had only posted anything contravertial a few weeks ago so its strange it came up now. I mentioned what i had wrote and she had no problem with it also she recognised who it was by what i wrote. What i did write was this particular nurse always replys "I know" even when she doesnt. If a patient or nurse trys giving her help its i know! If its pointed out shes done something is wrong its "I know". This particular day my machine was alarming all the time. My blood flow was turned down to 150ml/min. This meant i was in danger of loosing a lot of blood. Her answer was to get a seat to sit next to the machine to keep silencing the alarm instead of fixing the problem. It was only when a nurse came in hearing the alarm noticing the speed said i had to come off or i'd lose the circuit of blood. "the nurses reply was i know!" Which she didn't and i said to her no you didn't you were quite happy letting it go on by sitting silencing it. she shut up. I was straight to her and not behind my back. Perhaps i get passionate as this is keeping us alive and its my life so want it done properly.
I think i may have to erase people.

I'm packing up the truck with wispa bars as I type toots I've armed Finn with his hardest rattle so he can get a few knocks in too

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Originally posted by tupps:
Toots.. from what you've said in your last post it sounds to me like you need to speak to her 'superiors' rather than post about it on FB. Like you say.. this your health and this is keeping you alive.

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I'm packing up the truck with wispa bars as I type toots I've armed Finn with his hardest rattle so he can get a few knocks in too

Load up on used nappies as well lass for ammo

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Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:
Toots, I'd delete all your Nurse Friends and close your profile so only friends can see it, alternatively, you can create a group and put into the group people you don't want to read your wall posts/ status updates etc.......that way, you can keep them as Friends but stop the Professionals reading everything....

...if you need any help I'll try my best to show you how? xxx

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Originally posted by Raggy♥Doll:
Yeah I agree with tupps, that sort of mistake is serious not just that the woman's personality annoys you, her laziness or lack of knowledge has put you and possibly others at risk. It's the nature of facebook to trivialise these things and make it look like bitching rather than valid complaints. I read somewhere that some study has shown sites like that and twitter have meant we don't empathise with people any more because we're battered with info. Sounds like bollix like

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Originally posted by FGG Aka Crocodile Rock:

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Originally posted by watchinittoomuch:

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Originally posted by FGG Aka Crocodile Rock:

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Originally posted by watchinittoomuch:

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Originally posted by FGG Aka Crocodile Rock:
The fact that someone recognised themselves from your not so flattering (i'm assuming) comment must mean what you wrote was true.

And no, they have no right to tell you what you can or cannot do...no names were used and as someone else said, you have as much right to a whinge and moan as the next person...

Carry on and bollox to them!

Will you come to court with me next week?

You'd want a sweary Mary??

Ooh no I can do that meself...I just like the no nonsense style

Its my blokey side coming out!

Careful, I'll need those towels again....

(Sorry Toots )

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Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:

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Originally posted by Raggy♥Doll:

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Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:
Toots, I'd delete all your Nurse Friends and close your profile so only friends can see it, alternatively, you can create a group and put into the group people you don't want to read your wall posts/ status updates etc.......that way, you can keep them as Friends but stop the Professionals reading everything....

...if you need any help I'll try my best to show you how? xxx

This is a good idea

I do it with my Boss so she doesn't know how much time I spend on there while I should be working!

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Originally posted by Templetonpeck:

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Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:
Toots, I'd delete all your Nurse Friends and close your profile so only friends can see it, alternatively, you can create a group and put into the group people you don't want to read your wall posts/ status updates etc.......that way, you can keep them as Friends but stop the Professionals reading everything....

...if you need any help I'll try my best to show you how? xxx

Just when it seems she was being nice, there's Devil in the last line with the come on

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Originally posted by HyacinthB:

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Originally posted by TiGi:
Personally I think it's quite unprofessional of the staff to have patients on their list of friends. Asking for trouble if you ask me.

Toots - I agree with TiGs on this.

Your association with any of the nurses should remain solely in an official capacity and not as friends. They are not your friends, they are health professionals and there to administer to your needs.

They should certainly not have agreed to be added to your Facebook page and this would certainly be frowned upon by their Matron/Manager. It is a situation which could easily lead to a conflict of interests.

They are not personal friends who happen to work in nursing - they are nursing staff you met whilst undergoing dialysis.

You have to look at it in the long term.