quote:Originally posted by Garage Joe:quote:Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:
Grrr, he's not paid yet!!!! He's been emailing me all morning so he's at his PC!!!
he's got a bragain as there's an identical Model of stereo also up for sale without the LCD Monitor and CD/ DVD player, just the hideaway box, and he's still wanting it for less!!! Grrrr!
Don't answer! You've gone out for a while. Let the dust settle.
Will do Joe! 
quote:Originally posted by Cagney:
I agree with Bozzi. Tell him it's not at your house so not possible for him to collect.
You sound incredibly stressed just at the thought of him turning up....how you gonna feel if you are pressured into agreeing? That's what he's doing btw...pressuring you. Be firm and stand your ground. If the sale falls through then relist it. One bit of bad feedback won't harm. You do get a chance to leave comments on his feedback too. eg....pushy buyer!!!
Good luck
quote:Originally posted by Cagney:
If it's listed with P&P included and he agreed that price then he has to pay it....unless you agree to collection and take off the P&P charge. As you're not going to do that then he either pays the full amount or he doesn't get the item. Paypal is easy. You just transfer whatever he has paid back to him and relist the item with a line "relisted due to timewaster". He is wasting your time.
He should have haggled before he bought the item...not after
Thanks quote:Originally posted by HyacinthB:
Oh dear - thought I'd just pop back to see if you'd managed to resolve it all DD.
Please don't let this really worry you. I know it's your first sale on eBay but it will iron itself out in the end I promise you.
Just tell him that you do not wish for the item to be collected in person as you would have indicated that fact in your auction blurb had you been happy to BUT, as you did not, he really cannot force you to change the situation now that the auction has ended and he has committed to buy.
He should have asked that question prior to close of auction.
If he wants the item that badly, he will respect your wishes.
Once you're an old established hand on eBay, you'll look back on your first sale and smile.
Please don't let it cause you grief though DD. I know that's easy for me to say but, as I said above, it will resolve itself.
Chin up.
I did however feel a rush of adrenalin when it was sold!!!! no doubt I'll have more questions for you soon! quote:Originally posted by Cagney:
Don't get caught up in the whole feedback thing. I know it's important on ebay as it tells others how good or bad a seller you are but don't let it make you do things you're not comfortable doing.
If he does pay I'll let him leave feedback 1st, then I can go off that! quote:Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:quote:Originally posted by Cagney:
Don't get caught up in the whole feedback thing. I know it's important on ebay as it tells others how good or bad a seller you are but don't let it make you do things you're not comfortable doing.
quote:Originally posted by Garage Joe:quote:Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:quote:Originally posted by Cagney:
Don't get caught up in the whole feedback thing. I know it's important on ebay as it tells others how good or bad a seller you are but don't let it make you do things you're not comfortable doing.
Yes I did, it's pretty good TBH!
Just as a matter of interest did you have a look at his feedback score?
quote:Originally posted by mrsstipe:
hi Devil, hope everything works out ok in the end with your first sale.
If you don't get too scarred by your first experience and carry on selling you can learn a lot from the ebay boards (forum), there are some very helpful people on there, and just by lurking you can learn a lot
I've been doing that this Morning! 
quote:Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:quote:Originally posted by mrsstipe:
hi Devil, hope everything works out ok in the end with your first sale.
If you don't get too scarred by your first experience and carry on selling you can learn a lot from the ebay boards (forum), there are some very helpful people on there, and just by lurking you can learn a lot
One more thing...if he does pay through paypal, am I ok to send the package straight off...I wouldn't want to send it off and him claim the money back for any reason....how long should I leave it before I post it?
Thanks again, I'll get the hang of it...eventually!! quote:Originally posted by Cagney:
We all have to learn. Did he say he was ok with you posting it?
quote:Originally posted by Moonbeams:
Yes.
quote:Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:
I have told him I'm working late tonight and early tomorrow so I would have to post it to him, pushy beggar!!! I don't like him!
quote:Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:quote:Originally posted by Moonbeams:
Yes.
He said he was passing Bolton and going to Brum and would pay me cash....I think i'd prefer paypal, I know he doesn't want to pay the postage but I'm not willing to have him know where i live as he is very pushy!!! Blimey, if i knew it was this stressful I wouldn't have bothered! Lol!
There is no way I will do this other than through paypal He knew that i would only post before he bid and how long the post would take! Arsehole! quote:Originally posted by Cagney:
Be honest with him. Tell him you put postage on the item description as you don't want callers at your house. Also tell him you have other people interested and who are willing to have it posted to them. He'll harp on at you until you give in. If you're not comfortable....don't
That's what I'll do if he contacts me again...
quote:Originally posted by Cagney:
You can pull out of the deal anytime if he hasn't paid. He may leave you negative feedback but as I said earlier you can comment on it and say you didn't feel comfortable with the way things were going or whatever.
I've bought and sold on ebay and I stick to what it says on my description. There are always chancers out there but the time for haggling and asking questions is before you win/buy...not after.
quote:Originally posted by Karma_:
Sounds to me like he bought the item thinking he could persuade you to trade for cash in hand and never had any intention of paying the postage. Either that or he needs the item urgently (maybe selling on to someone else?)
Be firm and state that 'with all due respect' collection was never an option and while you appreciate that it would be more convenient for him to do it this way, your preference is postage.
I have collected items from people before, but have always had either someone else or the dog with me (and made sure I had the person's full name, phone number, full address etc). I'm not sure if I would allow collection from my home. In a way it's similar to freecycle, and people are always collecting from other people's homes, it's purely down to preference I think.
I live alone with my son but always mention an elusive husband
quote:Originally posted by Karma_:
Give it a few hours or even until tomorrow. If you haven't heard from him, e-mail him and ask if he still wants the item and explain that you will only do postage.
I'll leave it until Tomorrow now unless he contacts me! I hope he doesn't, I don't think I want to deal with him!quote:Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:quote:Originally posted by Cagney:
You can pull out of the deal anytime if he hasn't paid. He may leave you negative feedback but as I said earlier you can comment on it and say you didn't feel comfortable with the way things were going or whatever.
I've bought and sold on ebay and I stick to what it says on my description. There are always chancers out there but the time for haggling and asking questions is before you win/buy...not after.
Do I have to wait a certain amount of time before I can pull out Cagney? He is beginning to give me the heebie jeebies!
quote:Originally posted by Cagney:quote:Originally posted by The Devil In Diamante:quote:Originally posted by Cagney:
You can pull out of the deal anytime if he hasn't paid. He may leave you negative feedback but as I said earlier you can comment on it and say you didn't feel comfortable with the way things were going or whatever.
I've bought and sold on ebay and I stick to what it says on my description. There are always chancers out there but the time for haggling and asking questions is before you win/buy...not after.
Do I have to wait a certain amount of time before I can pull out Cagney? He is beginning to give me the heebie jeebies!
No..not at all. Make sure you inform him though, you never know it may make him change his mind. He's probably harmless....a chancer but you have to treat it like a business. You want to make money from this and you won't if you give in all the time. It's making you uneasy and that is not a good sign. You're the boss....he wants what you have. Stay in control.
That's my motivational speech over
